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Another parking one

54 replies

ReRegRhonda · 01/09/2015 07:50

Me and my disabled mother recently went to the shops. I was also heavily pregnant at the time. We couldn't find a disabled space so we parked in a parent and child space and left her blue badge out. A lady with a child in the back of her car stopped and shouted at us 'where is your child!' Were we being unreasonable to park there? Should we have found a normal space or waited for a disabled space to come up?

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ElementaryMyDear · 01/09/2015 07:52

Of course you weren't. There's nothing enforceable about parent and child spaces, and clearly both of you had greater need of the space. Supermarkets could solve this type of problem simply by putting parent and child spaces further away from the shop.

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LetTilikumGo · 01/09/2015 07:53

YANBU - it's perfectly ok to park there with a blue badge if there are no disabled bays free. And lots of pregnant women seem to use parent and child bays when they need space to open the door fully. So fine on both counts if you ask me!

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CheddarGorgeous · 01/09/2015 07:53

Well, I suppose technically you should have waited but I don't think that any normal, sane, compassionate person would have judged you.

Ignore the arseholes, hope it didn't upset you or your mum.

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Eminybob · 01/09/2015 07:54

Nope. Absolutely fine to park there. Disability trumps parent and child. And I'm a big advocate of p&c spaces used legitimately.

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FishWithABicycle · 01/09/2015 07:59

Heavily pregnant counts as parent with child in my book.but ignore the ignorant anyway, you do not have to justify yourself to random strangers.

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Wait4nothing · 01/09/2015 08:48

Disability wins any parking space - doesn't matter where it is. But if in your shoes I would have just pointed at bump and asked if stranger would like their car door scratched when you couldn't get out the car because of your baby! What a weirdo!

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MiddleAgedandConfused · 01/09/2015 08:50

YANBU - you did have a child with you!

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RealityCheque · 01/09/2015 09:11

Sorry, p&c spaces are NOT interchangeable with disabled ones. What on earth possesses folk to think they are? Neither are they for pregnant ladies.

I personally wouldn't have cared, but you should NOT feel entitled to park there. YAB(a bit)U

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JawannaDrink · 01/09/2015 09:17

She is entitled to park there though, anyone is. And anyone who thinks someone with a kid is more in need than an older disabled person is a twat who should be made to park in a special twat space.

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TestingTestingWonTooFree · 01/09/2015 09:20

Your child was on board and your mother is disabled. You win.

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Fluffyears · 01/09/2015 09:23

I would have pointed at my bump shouting 'it's not wind it's a baby!'

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gamerwidow · 01/09/2015 09:24

Blue badges imo can park anywhere they like as long as they do so safely. P&c spaces a nicety not a necessity.

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hazeyjane · 01/09/2015 09:27

Supermarkets can fine whoever they want for parking in a space they have deemed being for parents and children if they feel they don't meet the criteria (including people with disabilities).

However the fines are unenforceable, and anyone who thinks that people with disabilities shouldn't be able to park in a parent and child space, is an arsehat.

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CarriesBucketOfBlood · 01/09/2015 09:28

YANB in the slightest U. RealityCheque you are right, they are not interchangeable. In fact a disabled person trumps someone with a child every time.

What on earth possess folk to think their baby has more need than a disabled person?

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Pengweng · 01/09/2015 09:28

Blue badge trumps children. Plus I see no reason for a pregnant women to not use parent and child spaces. I wouldn't have had an issue and she is a twat.

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TheFairyCaravan · 01/09/2015 09:28

A woman had a pop at me for parking in a P&T space using my Blue Badge last week. Interestingly she waited until DS1, who is in the army and built like a brick shit house, went to take the trolley back!

Reality I park in P&T spaces whenever I can't find a BB space. I've done it for years and will continue to do so. I don't care what you think about it tbh, imo a disabilty trumps having a child every time.

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ihavenonameonhere · 01/09/2015 09:30

Disability is far more important than PandC spots. Stupid woman

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ConfusedInBath · 01/09/2015 09:32

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HoneyDragon · 01/09/2015 09:34

My local Sainsburys direct BB holders to P&C spaces when BB spaces are full.

My MiL still got a mouthful of abuse after being directed to one and parking in it from a charming woman who wanted the space for herself.

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Welshmaenad · 01/09/2015 09:36

No, p&c spaces are not 'interchangeable' with BB ones, as in people with children should feel free to park in disabled spaces.

However, someone with a blue badge can park wherever the fuck is most convenient and helpful for them - bb space, p&c space, wherever. And anyone who takes issue with that can volunteer to have a leg amputated or break their spine and be a martyr about parking if they want to lead by example.

Disability trumps 'accompanied by offspring', in the mind of anyone who isn't a cunt.

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ConfusedInBath · 01/09/2015 09:38

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Floralnomad · 01/09/2015 09:39

YANBU , my dd and my mum both have blue badges and we often use P &C spaces if the disabled are full up - realityCheque , don't be so ridiculous !

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FuzzyWizard · 01/09/2015 10:13

You were perfectly entitled to park there as you had a Blue Badge.

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MaidOfStars · 01/09/2015 10:19

Is your Mum's disability visible? Could the lady see the BB?

Anyway, I think a BB holder should be able to park wherever they want (providing they don't cause a hazard).

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Toughasoldboots · 01/09/2015 10:22

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