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AIBU?

Another parking one

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ReRegRhonda · 01/09/2015 07:50

Me and my disabled mother recently went to the shops. I was also heavily pregnant at the time. We couldn't find a disabled space so we parked in a parent and child space and left her blue badge out. A lady with a child in the back of her car stopped and shouted at us 'where is your child!' Were we being unreasonable to park there? Should we have found a normal space or waited for a disabled space to come up?

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FuzzyWizard · 01/09/2015 10:24

Maid- does it matter? Anyone shouting at a heavily-pregnant complete stranger is in the wrong surely?

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MaidOfStars · 01/09/2015 10:25

Fuzzy No, of course it doens't matter re: shouting. I was just wondering if the shouty woman didn't realise what was going on.

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FuzzyWizard · 01/09/2015 10:31

I think you're probably right and she hadn't realised. But really it was none of her bloody business.

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ElderlyKoreanLady · 01/09/2015 10:55

Loving the idea of parking spaces specifically for twats.

YANBU OP. And I really don't understand why people get so annoyed about it. I have a 17mo and haven't once used a P&C space. I find a standard parking space has enough room to get DD out, even when she was tiny and the car seat came with her. It'd be lovely to have even more room to open the door fully but it isn't a necessity.

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BeautifulBatman · 01/09/2015 11:04

Yanbu OP. P&C spaces are a nicety, as a pp said. I use P&C spaces sometimes purely because I can't fit my car into regular spaces depending on twatty parking or size of space.

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Lurkedforever1 · 01/09/2015 11:12

Yanbu. As welsh put it.
You should have told the stupid twat 'You seem to be confused. p&c is parent and child, and obviously a bb trumps that. If p&c stood for 'precious & cunty' of course you would be more entitled to it'

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hellsbellsmelons · 01/09/2015 11:14

I think if you call up the supermarkets you'll find that those bays are for pregnant women.
Certainly were when I was pregnant (many many moons ago)
Tesco and Asda told me to park in those bays.

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LeonC · 01/09/2015 11:59

I am in my late 50s. I parked in a parent/ child space at our local supermarket. The back windows are blacked out, I don't know what the technical term is but you can't see in. Another car behind me clearly wanted the space I took and drove aggressively past to another space. I was faffing about getting out of the car when this woman and her two children aged about 5 and 7, walked by. She stood with her hands on her hips berating me for taking 'her' space as she had children. I let her continue, she was rude and confrontational. When she finished I took my then 18 month old grand daughter out of the car and her pushchair out of the boot. It was funny to see her face fall when I pointed to my DGD , her pushchair and then to her older children.
Rude woman just went bright red and said she didn't realise I had a child with me. I suggested she should have checked prior to launching her diatribe.

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Eminybob · 01/09/2015 12:16

I hadn't come across a p&c space thread on here before or during pregnancy. I therefore had no idea that the spaces weren't enforceable or that I could legitimately park in one while pregnant. So I didn't. And I was bloody huge.

I remember once some fucking knob head with one of those excessively huge 4x4 things parked up next to me so close I couldn't open the door. Even if I hadn't been pregnant I wouldn't have been able to get in. So I had to climb in from the pasenger side, huge bump, suffering with spd. I was livid. So I wish I had known I could park in a p&c space.

I think in order of priority, obviously disabled first, then pregnant women, then parent and child for those spaces.

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miaowroar · 01/09/2015 12:29

Lol LeonC - but you must have been in the wrong - it doesn't say grandparent and child does it?

I frequently want to park in the p&c places when I am with my son, but he won't let me as he is now 28. Well, they didn't have them when my two were little, so I have to make up for lost time.

Am I right in saying that supermarkets are obliged to provide disabled parking, but not obliged to proved p&c places? I also agree with an PP who said there was no need for p&c places to be near the entrance - as long as there is a safe walkway. This would avoid any unpleasant experiences like the OP's.

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Eminybob · 01/09/2015 12:34

I think it's helpful to have them near the entrance purely so they can be used by blue badge holders too. It's not just their proximity to the entrance, it's the extra space to open the door which appeals to disabled people.

It would stop people who are just bone idle parking in them though.

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HoneyDragon · 01/09/2015 12:39

precious & cunty spaces

I am hence forth calling them this, and only ever this.

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TheRealAmyLee · 01/09/2015 12:41

Blue badge should be able to park in any proper space but should use disabled bays if possible. P&C is a courtesy. If no p&c spaces I park on ends/by paths etc further away from store.

Pregnant women are allowedin p&c spaces. You need the space as much as anyone with a kid. Tesco used to issue p&c space badges to.preg women who joined the baby club back in the day.

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BitchBags · 01/09/2015 12:57

I got shouted at for using a p&c space last week. I had unloaded the shopping, strapped my 15 month old into his car seat and waddled over to the trolley bay (2 spaces away so car was in sight the whole time) to put my trolley back. The woman stopped as I was walking back to the car and told me I was 'really Fucking selfish' for parking in a space I wasn't entitled to. I had great pleasure in telling her that I was perfectly entitled to park there whilst 8.5 months pregnant and had my 15 month old with me. She then waited for my space with a face like thunder so I took my time getting in the car.
people really need to not jump to conclusions before they confront people!

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Lurkedforever1 · 01/09/2015 13:13

bitch ywbu to have taken your time when she was waiting. You should have unloaded your dc and sat and smirked at her getting more and more impatient.

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ElderlyKoreanLady · 01/09/2015 13:45

I don't think bitch was unreasonable to make the woman wait actually. She could just as easily parked in a normal parking space if waiting was inconvenient and after the way she'd carried on, she fully deserved to have her moment of shame extended.

If I had a spare half hour and someone had done the same to me, I'd have very pointedly gone back inside for something I'd 'forgotten'.

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ElderlyKoreanLady · 01/09/2015 13:46

Just read your comment properly Lurked Whoops!

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Lurkedforever1 · 01/09/2015 13:51

Actually you're right elderly. Going back in the store and then for lunch would have been better!

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Welshmaenad · 01/09/2015 14:11

I got told off by someone for parking in a p&c space with my 9 and 5 year olds because 'they're too old'.

The look on her face when I waved my dd's blue badge at her was quite funny.

Precious & cunty. I love it.

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Notasinglefuckwasgiven · 01/09/2015 14:32

I think it's a symptom of just how fucking entitled people are nowadays. I hear " I'M ENTITLED TO X, Y, Z !" several times a day at work. Newsflash : you aren't born entitled to anything. It's a combination of where you are and what is decided by the powers that be you need or deserve.
Some folk need a high five. In the face. With a folded deckchair. Hard.

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hebihebi · 01/09/2015 14:47

My parents went out with my elderly aunt who is a blue badge holder. She insisted they park in the P&C space as that was her right but my parents were wary. I remember reading on here that blue badge holders could park in P&C spaces if they needed to but actually when I checked, the truth is that blue badge holders are NOT entitled to use these spaces and can be fined for doing so. I'm sure most supermarkets wouldn't have a problem with blue badge holders parking there but it's definitely not a thing that they are entitled to do so.

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Lurkedforever1 · 01/09/2015 15:00

Are there actually any cases of bb holders being fined for depriving the precious & cunty from a space? Because realistically it's not something the vast amount of people who find p&c spaces handy if available would report in the first place, and I don't see anywhere, council or business, going after the bad press likely when a bb holder is fined cos some entitled twat had to walk a few more metres. Yes there are plenty of twats who think 'functioning uterus' trumps 'life changing disability' but neither do they represent enough of the population to make fining in those circumstances a popular decision.

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ToriaPumpkin · 01/09/2015 15:02

I have zero problem with BB holders using P&C spaces but I'd like to see them try it at my local Tesco. I was once approached by the Tesco car park attendant and told off for parking in a P&C space. I was 6 months pregnant with SPD that had me on crutches and I had almost 2yo DS with me. But, and this is important, I didn't have a Tesco Baby Club badge on my window so I couldn't park there.

How I didn't either burst into tears or tell him exactly what he could do with his sticker I'm still not sure.

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Notasinglefuckwasgiven · 01/09/2015 15:03

Yep BB should trump I have a child any day. Unless, as I said, you're one of the I'm entitled brigade. Park away! Anyone able to walk a little further should just shut up and do it. And be grateful you can walk that distance.

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amarmai · 01/09/2015 15:12

I second TWAT parking spots - on the uttermost edge of the parking lots!
OP ywnbu.

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