To be absolutely sick of people bragging on social media

[SeagullSal]

It's reached ridiculous proportions, people 'checking in' at posh hotels, sipping glasses of Champers in spas and even documenting new car purchases (that seems to be the new thing with a hands over eyes emoticon denoting the 'worrying' amount of money that they'll soon be spending.)

I am happy for people having nice times - but it's the ones who document every single sneeze of good fortune that I'm absolutely sick of.

Do these people not realise that a lot of people have nice times in nice places but just don't wish to ram it down other people's throats in a continuous stream?

Time I took a break I think. And breathe.

Of course you do.

Who cares? Good for them if they are happy, it doesn't make me feel inferior or anything, share what you want.

It's not a competition if you don't make it one!

Some people are just really happy, really proud, or really young. I quite like seeing amazing photos from around the world, taken for holidays, or work related when people are on business trips. What's wrong with that?

If someone is ridiculously proud of their new car/ new fridge/ or new steam mop, frankly let them be. I am not judging (well, maybe inside, but it's a free country).

I just put a photo of my flooded spare room (heavy rain/ missing tile or something on the roof)

Facebook is a great way to have fun and to keep in touch. You just need to select your friends carefully. If you dislike someone, just unfollow their news, or block them full stop.

Yeah, I have to admit the 'OMG amazing night out' ones make me laugh. It's so amazing you're all sitting there with your phones out updating your timelines. Not my idea of an amazing night :o

How is Jane posting her photos of her son's uni graduation any different to her whipping them out at dinner? Jane is my friend, hence why I have her on FB, so I'm interested.

People have to have a balance, it's perfectly normal to post about something out of the ordinary or special that you are doing. If I were at Victoria falls damn sure I'd be posting about it, I'd also probably post if my heel came off my shoe and I fell into a muddy puddle laddering my stockings on the way to an important interview. Or if I got run over.
The worst bragging is the one where they brag about kids getting GCSE's, ALevels etc. I mean most kids get exam results.
What you have to bear in mind is that quite frequently those depicting their life as glossy, well healed and harmonious are covering up that they are in a dull marriage, have selfish kids and few true friends. I've seen it on my FB many times. Women raving about a lively night out with their hubby. When I know he's a thoughtless prig and face it, if they were having such a great time why would they be on their phone.
I could quote hundred of examples of " oh look at the earrings Jack bought me, and he's booked us a weekend in NY" when last week she was hinting that Jack seems to be working longer hours and has to stay away over night more than he did and they have very little in common

it may also be that you don't like the people you consider to be bragging,
In which case, hide their posts. :)

I'm sorry but just because people can spare what, thirty seconds (yes it takes that long) out of their day to update their status or to check in at a particular place does not mean that they are showing off, bragging, not REALLY enjoying themselves, and it certainly does not make them "tossers" Honestly some people on here scream jealousy, they really do, and it's kind of sad. I for one enjoy seeing what my friends, family, old aquatintes are up to, and it makes me happy to see that they are all makIg the most of their lives.

As far as I'm concerned people who get this irate about so called "friends" posting status's or checking in at here there and everywhere must be insecure about themselves or their own family set up. I personally know of people who've had lots to say about the fact that I've taken my children out on tons of days out this summer but I don't give a toss. The people in question have been off all summer and have done bugger all with their kids, they haven't taken them anywhere and have just allowed them to sit in playing on their x box or watching TV. I like to get out and about with my family and 90% of the time I'll check in on Facebook, if people don't like then they can sod off, they're just jealous because I can actually be bothered to engage and interact with my own children and take them on nice outings were they can make lasting memories.

clearly all my fb friends are poor. never seen anyone in an audi garage or VIP lounge in an airport....
i do love a bit of bragging on fb though. I mainly post photos of days out and holidays for my family to see and keep up to date with, but a little bit of me does love showing off my gorgeous family and all the fun things we do together. oh and the pic i posted recently of my precious first born and dd in her new grammar school uniform was purely to boast how brilliant and clever she is. I have no shame! if you don't like it you don't have to see. besides bragging about how good life is is sooo much better then the numerous sharing quotes posts

You should see my latest post on fb. Photos of dp, dsd and dd in a free local museum wearing various hats and looking daft.

And a photo of some patronising 1950s advertising suggesting women are a bit dim. I wasn't impressed with that!!

I think that driving holiday to Scandinavia post was fine. If I was friends with her I'd be checking if she had an instagram to see the photos.

It would interest me 1) because genuinely I like to see what good friends do on holidays and 2) because it might give me ideas for holidays for us.

If someone is very obviously and insecurely showing off, I do think a bit less of them, but simply going on holidays or eating out is not showing off. It's just living life.

Seriously sharing a pic of a day out with your kids at the National Trust is not a brag. That's just another bank holiday. It's not showing off.

I don't understand why people call other people "friends" when they don't share the same values. Is it so they can have hundreds of these "friends' and look popular or something.

OP erase those from your fb you have nothing in common with and stick to family and friends you like. Then you won't have to put up with reading what you don't like.
Better still, don't have a fb account, it isn't compulsory.

Capucine I take your point about different cultural norms, but gender socialisation has nothing to do with my irritation at bragging about getting a distinction. In this instance it particularly irritates me because it reinforces the message I get from her - also perpetuated by the fact that her positive comments about other people's posts are usually reserved for academic and competitive achievements - that she values these more than any other personal qualities. She could have just posted that she'd passed/completed her training.

She's british btw.

I'm with Seagull. It's not classy Distinction poster missed a trick by not waiting for her friends to comment that knowing her as well as they do, they expect she did very well. She could then have told them about getting distinctions in every bit of the exam and pretended to be expressed surprise.

I've just unfollowed some of my friends btw. Off to look at my new streamlined news feed.

There's social obligation to accept some people as fb friends though Dawn. IMO

Tbh if your FB feed is full of wankers that sort of reflects upon your social circle.

My fav on Facebook is the drama queen who endless posts passive aggressive stuff in a faux inspirational. She would think 'thank you for being a shithead because you made me stronger and no you are alone you massive know jock' was profound if you typed it over a picture of a tree.

She does the 'oh god, why do people always let me down'
'What's up'
'Not here - I'll text you'
thing.

She's great.

In fairness she probably checks for auto correct nonsense

Serious question: if these FB friends make you feel so frigging bad, then why are you friends with them? Are you friends because you get off on thinking bitchy thoughts about FB posts made by other people?

Or are you masochists?

Listen to yourself! You are moaning about something over which you have absolute control. Unfriend them, life is too short.

I struggle to find a shit to give about other people's Bragg FB posts.

But I follow an ex colleague on Instagram who is now a SAHM and lives in an enormous, beautiful house. She's constantly posting photos of the house and all its details - flooring, cornices, new taps, new rug, bespoke wallpaper, etc.

It's definitely a house to boast about. But all her kids are school age and I see these pics and just imagine her rattling around this grand pile on her own, photographing close ups of wallpaper and I think she must actually be bored out of her mind.

I also thought the driving holiday post sounded pretty fascinating for the same reasons as HoldMe..., and I'd love to know which cities.

There's zero social obligation to follow posts from friends. You can hide and unfollow as much as you like so moaning about what your 'friends' post is very unreasonable as you have total control over it.

OP, many people have now suggested that you architect/streamline your FB to your taste. Considering your 'friends' posting each bit of good fortune they have makes you "absolutely sick" one wonders why you've never used the hide post/unfollow/unfriend/block/log off options before now? So many ways to reduce that sickness you're feeling.

Then you'll be free of your friends' lovely days out with their families and staying in nice hotels and can bask in wall to wall 'I'm so angry today (no I can't say why)', 'Share if you love your Mum', 'Here's a meaningless motto over a picture of a kitten', 'Buzzfeed quiz to find out which fizzy drink you are', 'X has invited you to play Jemz!', 'Type 6 as a comment to this picture and something AMAZING will happen!' etc etc.

All far greater FB crimes in my opinion (so I don't see any of them any more) than my friends having a wonderful time, but each to their own.

The posts that annoy me are the "Nothing like a 5 hour wait in A&E on a bank holiday weekend". kind of posts

Cue lots of "Oh no!" "What's happened?" "Hope you're OK" posts....

Then after a 24 hour pause, for the maximum amount of concern, there's a "Oh, I'm fine now. I thought it was something really serious, but it turns out I just twisted my ankle after drinking two bottles of wine, haha!" post.

And I'm not interested in the low carb meal you just cooked, just like I wasn't yesterday, or the day before, or any of the low carb meals you've photographed and posted daily for the past six months. - Go on a day out, stay in a 5 start hotel or buy a new car/house/cute dog and I might be interested

We were eating out on holiday a few weeks ago when a man came over and asked if he could take a photo of DHs starter.

I figured he probably has the worlds worst FB feed

I post up on FB and 'share' what DD and I are up to quite a lot. Not daily, by any means. But if something's a bit of a Kodak moment, I'll certainly post it.

My family and a lot of my old school friends are fairly well scattered not just around the UK, but the whole world. FB is a nice way for us to all keep in touch and get a glimpse at what each other is up to. I don't see any of it as boastful

I don't have Facebook but I think I'd prefer the braggy ones to those awful "My Life Is Shit/Can't Trust Anyone/Why Do I Even Bother" passive aggressive attention seeking ones that my friends tell me about.

Maybe I'm lucky that none of the negative stuff above really describes my experience of FB and my friends. People just post funny, quirky stuff and share photos of their kids and family. When you're family and friends are scattered far and wide over the world it can be great for just staying in touch and getting an everyday glimpse into their life. You can have a conversation with several folk form all over the world.

Obviously posting on Mn is so much more superior to posting on FB.