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To be absolutely sick of people bragging on social media

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SeagullSal · 31/08/2015 17:29

It's reached ridiculous proportions, people 'checking in' at posh hotels, sipping glasses of Champers in spas and even documenting new car purchases (that seems to be the new thing with a hands over eyes emoticon denoting the 'worrying' amount of money that they'll soon be spending.)

I am happy for people having nice times - but it's the ones who document every single sneeze of good fortune that I'm absolutely sick of.

Do these people not realise that a lot of people have nice times in nice places but just don't wish to ram it down other people's throats in a continuous stream?

Time I took a break I think. And breathe.

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WillSomebodyThinkOfStefan · 31/08/2015 19:52

I can just about put up with the bragging - a pathetic attempt to claim a place on the social ladder for the sad and needy.

But what I cannot stand is the 'I'm the best parent' posts. I have one that I absolutely should block, but i have to watch just to see what bolloxks it will be next. We had a recent case of hysteria as she'd been separated from her children overnight - she was pacing up and down and crying, can't think, can't concentrate etc - it's embarrassing - stop it!

And don't get me started on hashtags #lovelife #oneluckylady #myworld #livelifelove #memorymaking

#getalife

PosterEh · 31/08/2015 19:53

I love it. I've got an old uni acquaintance who married an investment banker (or similar) and has a ridiculous life which she is not at all embarrassed about sharing.
I find it fascinating in a "how the other half live" sort of way.

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SeagullSal · 31/08/2015 19:53

FullofChoc - but my point is that lots of us I'm sure have lots of 'perfect life' things we could be bragging about daily, but we don't as it's rude to brag.

I don't feel envious as I'm very fortunate. I do feel annoyed by bragging as it's rude and cringey and seems to now be the done thing.

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areyoubeingserviced · 31/08/2015 19:59

This is why I don't have 'fakebook'

Jurysout2 · 31/08/2015 19:59

You can't control what other people put on FB but you can control what you read. Delete your account on FB. It may sound drastic but i don't know anyone whose life it has enriched, for every lovely piece of news/contact there seems to be a million that just disturb the reader.

allwornout0 · 31/08/2015 20:11

I can just imagine what must be on the facebook pages of the Trafford family on that Anne Robinson programme 'Britain's secret spending'.

Jw35 · 31/08/2015 20:17

I think you put your finger on it when you said 'I just have to watch to see what happens next' you kind of love to hate people on fb! It's all a bit shallow really, it can be lovely to see family pics etc but often people have a persona that's not really like them in RL

CarlaJones · 31/08/2015 20:21

I've been taking a break from FB over the summer after 8 years and haven't missed it.

Shockers · 31/08/2015 20:27

I use my fb account as a diary. I have posted photos of our holidays (UK), walks, bike rides and I put a daily comment about what we've done.

I don't care if people think this is over the top. I do it for me, and for DD, who has SN and likes to look through it.

Ledkr · 31/08/2015 20:28

I notice dd doing this now and then getting pissed off if otgers do the same.
"They are showing off"
I think people are trying to emulate celeb culture like kardashians and so that's why its always Braggy shit they post.
I don't do face book thank god but on the rare occasion dd shows me something I find it hilarious and annoying in equal measures.

Palomb · 31/08/2015 20:30

I've got so many people hidden on Facebook and it's not the ones who post happy posts, even if they are a bit braggy, It's the people who post endless selfies and the people who post depressive bollocks and are all woe is me all the time. And the pregnancy bores of course although one of my pregnancy bore friends is a terrific show off so she can stay.

Facebook isn't compulsory, if you don't like it the deregister Ffs!

Hulababy · 31/08/2015 20:33

So what exactly can people use Facebook and other social media for?

The list of what is now wrong to do seems to grow daily, especially on here!

There is little people can actually do on social media these days without being judged!

ssd · 31/08/2015 20:33

I don't do facebook, it was getting me down so I came off it for ages

but I'm starting to miss it, there's something about people who's lives are crap posting all about their fabulous lives that makes my day

KitKat1985 · 31/08/2015 20:34

I don't get the issue here. I like seeing what my friends are up to and would rather they were having 'happy' experiences than miserable ones.

Far more irritating is people who use Facebook to constantly whinge, or post miserable, attention-seeking statuses all the time (usually with a refusal to elaborate when asked - why bloody mention it on Facebook then?!?). You know the type:
Person A: 'Can't believe what happened today, absolutely devastated'.
Person B: 'What's up hon?'
Person A: 'Can't say on here hon'.
Person B: 'Okay hon. Hugs'.

Snoozebox · 31/08/2015 20:37

I did laugh when someone on my FB feed posted over 100 pics of her trip with her DH to a local Holiday Inn, including such delights as their sat-nav showing the route they should take.

It wasn't a piss-take, but it did make a nice change from all those sickly reposts of boxes with sappy quotes in showing just how much she loves her dad, complete with interesting font.

MadeMan · 31/08/2015 20:38

"So what exactly can people use Facebook and other social media for?"

Following and liking exciting stuff like washing powder companies! Hurrah!

www.facebook.com/daz

BoomBoomsCousin · 31/08/2015 20:40

I love seeing the things my friends do that are making them happy. Whether it's checking into a 5 star hotel, a walk along the canal, their success in an ironman or the completion of their first day of C25k (or the cream cake they had after!).

I don't know why people have to find it unseemly for people to be happy about the things they've done. It's no wonder Briton has a reputation for being miserable.

Snoozebox · 31/08/2015 20:42

If I was the God of Facebook, I would take Facebook back to the mid-00s, when we used it as students to invite each other to fun happenings, and do shout-outs to each other. E.g. "I'm watching [insert good film here]! Everyone come join and bring popcorn!" Or "anyone fancy getting pissed tonight?" Those were the days.

BillyDaveysDaughter · 31/08/2015 21:00

FB is great for loads of things - I like checking in fairly regularly to see what everyone is up to. I haven't seen much bragging, I've perhaps chosen my friends wisely.

I don't post about everything, although I do a "Commuter of the day" post a couple of times a week (I'm a London commuter) which has proved popular - I've even got people voting for their favourites. Nowt as queer as folk and all that.

I have unfollowed 2 people to date. One a young girl with an atrocious attitude, poor grammar and a fondness for the word cunt (my personal favourite was "sic 2 deaf of all these cunts round me"). The second, a stupid woman who had bought in to some absolute load of juicing bollocks - "Lose 14 stone in a day drinking this liquidised kale and dog shit". Odfod.

Someone else said it - you are the architect of what you want to see!

Drmum83 · 31/08/2015 21:47

Laughing at the hashtag comment WillSomebody!

I hate the over sharers - the women in labour who give an hour by hour account of how quickly their cervix (cervices??) are opening....
Had one woman the other day filming the moment she told her 4 year old DD that she was expecting a baby and she posted that. The DD didn't look impressed tbh..
Also had one uploading a home Doppler recording of baby's heartbeat at 14 weeks.
Is nothing sacred anymore?! I know everyone uses it differently but surely telling your kid about a new sibling is such a special moment, do you need to share it with 600 people?! Yes, share with close friends and family on whattsapp but I just shudder with the over sharing.

Finallyonboard · 31/08/2015 21:52

I'm probably guilty of posting uplifting sayings and talking about how lucky I am! I am a very optimistic person, I love life and am of the mindset that life is so short you should live it to the full and enjoy. Equally I am very happy when good things happen to my friends or they're having a wonderful time. Bad things happen in my life, of course.. I lost a wonderful parent a few years ago and the remaining parent is a twat, I deal with the harder things will the help of my close family and friends. In my view, social media is about promoting happiness, sharing in the joys of people I love and acknowledging that we have lots of things to be thankful for. I really hadn't considered that some people might find me annoying as if they do, they have the option to delete. In fact, one of my friends wrote that she was having a 'smug moment', explained why and all I could think was, she absolutely deserves that. She lost her mother young and had a very dark period, she's happy now against all odds! Good on her, I say.

Shockers · 31/08/2015 21:56

Finally... it's great for 'mindfulness', I find. The picking out the really good stuff about your day/life.

Finallyonboard · 31/08/2015 22:00

Shockers, I agree. It's a great antidote to the sadness of the news too.

DoJo · 31/08/2015 22:32

Vulgar. Uncouth. Agree.

I do feel annoyed by bragging as it's rude and cringey and seems to now be the done thing.

These are your friends! I don't recognise the Facebook I use from your descriptions, so I can only assume that you choose to be friends with people who behave like this whereas my friends simply don't. In which case, there's a really easy way to put a stop to it...

AliceScarlett · 31/08/2015 22:35

I got rid of FB and have never looked back. Love twitter though. Less bullshit.

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