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To be absolutely sick of people bragging on social media

396 replies

SeagullSal · 31/08/2015 17:29

It's reached ridiculous proportions, people 'checking in' at posh hotels, sipping glasses of Champers in spas and even documenting new car purchases (that seems to be the new thing with a hands over eyes emoticon denoting the 'worrying' amount of money that they'll soon be spending.)

I am happy for people having nice times - but it's the ones who document every single sneeze of good fortune that I'm absolutely sick of.

Do these people not realise that a lot of people have nice times in nice places but just don't wish to ram it down other people's throats in a continuous stream?

Time I took a break I think. And breathe.

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Capucine00 · 31/08/2015 18:56

I don't have any FB friends like this. To be honest, I'm so tied up with work that I appreciate the way social media helps me catch up with what people are doing. My feeds seem to be fairly representative of my friends lives. There's good and not so on there, the happiness and the less so.

Olddear · 31/08/2015 18:58

Of course I'm happy for my friends doing nice things! but I just find find it very 'look at me' maybe that's just me tho' I am very lucky to be the proud owner of a very expensive designer bag (gift from DH)

FifteenFortyNine · 31/08/2015 18:59

ok those of my FB friends who post stuff abouth their amazing lives are also honestly posting about the low moments they are going through. And looking at their updates, it's either highest of highs or lowest lows, rarely anything in between. Just some of my FB friends, not all. I do worry about some of them, but when they are being positive, even though it's tedious, I stil half think well done for concentrating on the good things

Olddear · 31/08/2015 19:00

Sorry, posted too soon! But no-one knew until I was using it one night....

Italianmomma1983 · 31/08/2015 19:05

Completely agree with extreme bragging being not nice...I came across this little gem last night :

To be absolutely sick of people bragging on social media
BabyGanoush · 31/08/2015 19:18

Italian, that post sounds fine to me Confused

BabyGanoush · 31/08/2015 19:19

I would assume that last sentence of the post is tongue-in-cheek

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SeagullSal · 31/08/2015 19:20

Italian - oh God.

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LoveAGoodRummage · 31/08/2015 19:22

Ooh, I rather fancy a driving holiday like that. What a good idea!

MadeMan · 31/08/2015 19:25

"It's so easy to take photos these days, surely most people take photos on a day out. "

I don't use Facebook, but I get the impression that if you have the App installed on your smart phone then it pretty much posts the photo to your page as soon as it's taken. So yes, not really all that time consuming.

Jw35 · 31/08/2015 19:27

People seem to have very different opinions of what fb is for! Some use it like a diary, others constantly moan, some brag and some share boring quotes. I'm the boring mother posting pictures of my kids mostly! I Mainly use it for photos. I do share trips and holidays and I think I would brag if I went to a nice place-probably with a picture.
I like hearing about friends having a good time! I don't feel jealous or annoyed about it tbh

MadeMan · 31/08/2015 19:31

"Some use it like a diary"

Yes, I think a lot of people use it as a modern day scrapbook for their lives; bits and pieces here and there with photos and thoughts.

BoskyCat · 31/08/2015 19:32

I hate it OP, I totally get how you feel. I am not on FB at all any more because I can't stand the boasting. It's crass, unfeeling and soooooo cringey.

I agree that in RL you might say to a friend "oh I bought a new bag, do you want to see it" or "I'm so thrilled with my gorgeous baby" but only where it was appropriate and you knew they could handle it – a friend who also loved bags, a fellow parent. You wouldn't say it to a roomful of people of whom some might be painfully skint, or struggling with infertility etc. That's the difference .

RachelZoe · 31/08/2015 19:35

I agree that in RL you might say to a friend "oh I bought a new bag, do you want to see it" or "I'm so thrilled with my gorgeous baby" but only where it was appropriate and you knew they could handle it – a friend who also loved bags, a fellow parent. You wouldn't say it to a roomful of people of whom some might be painfully skint, or struggling with infertility etc. That's the difference .

This is exactly it. Pick your audience.

Bambambini · 31/08/2015 19:35

I didn't think that Italian Fb post was that bad at all. I think she was just heaving a sigh of relief and greatful to have made it all in one piece without it being a total disaster as it sounds quite a stressful and ambitious undertaking with young kids.

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SeagullSal · 31/08/2015 19:36

Jealous is not how I feel. The point is that I'm pretty certain we all do nice things - I'm lucky enough to.

What I find grating is that some feel the need to document EVERY nice thing - nice meal with DH? Put it on FB. Nice new bag? Picture - FB. New car? Wait I need to get it on FB.

However I remember before the invent of social media that bragging is something that's always made me feel uncomfortable and something I was brought up to believe was bad manners.

I do take the point that people use it for different things.

I do wonder though if said braggers think that that are the only people who enjoy nice treats? Me and DH went on a lovely weekend anniversary trip a few weeks ago and DM and another friend asked why we hadn't uploaded pics on FB.

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Mehitabel6 · 31/08/2015 19:36

If you just have real friends you don't have a problem.

Sallystyle · 31/08/2015 19:36

Because all he's done is stand there and said "Breathe darling. Remember, we agreed we didn't want any pain relief..."

I will be delighted for my sons when/if they become a father (although not year as the eldest is only 16!) but I won't be proud

I would be. Not because he watched his partner give birth, but just because I am proud of him anyway and watching him become a father would be a proud moment for me, regardless of the fact that he didn't give birth to the baby himself.

Either way, it's a silly example of people boasting on FB. If you can't post and 'boast' when your son has just became a father when can you?

Not that I see it as boasting.

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SeagullSal · 31/08/2015 19:38

Was that person not saying about the birth post tongue in cheek?

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Chickychickyparmparm · 31/08/2015 19:39

I just delete braggy people. I use FB for news, groups, discussions and the odd picture of a dog on a skateboard.

Sallystyle · 31/08/2015 19:40

There is nothing wrong at all with the FB post screen shot.

Perfect example of people looking for things to moan about on FB, or just being a bit bitter/envious.

FullOfChoc · 31/08/2015 19:41

I used to feel like this, particularly with people who have had weight loss success (which I desperately want/need). I read some thing which said to make an effort to feel happy for people when something nice happens, to attract that nice thing to you. It's to do with "law of attraction" I think.

A bit hippy dippy maybe, but it's working for me.

Sallystyle · 31/08/2015 19:41

I'm not entirely Seagull but someone else read it as sarcasm so it could be.

I will still be proud when my son's become fathers, as long as it isn't for quite a few years Grin

Sallystyle · 31/08/2015 19:42

sure*

BabyDubsEverywhere · 31/08/2015 19:51

I use mine as a sort of scrap book, theres lots about my DC on there as my family is all over the place and its easy to update each other with facebook posts. I love how Facebook bridges the gap for families like mine, I feel involved with family and friends that I rarely get to see, its great! I cant understand why you would be friends with people you don't like on there though? I am genuinely interested in the updates and happy for my friends and family when they have/do nice things Confused
I even had a social book done for each of my last two dc, they didn't get nearly as many cards as the first two so its nice to show them that people still cared about them too :)

If you don't like what you see, unfollow them!