To be absolutely sick of people bragging on social media

[SeagullSal]

It's reached ridiculous proportions, people 'checking in' at posh hotels, sipping glasses of Champers in spas and even documenting new car purchases (that seems to be the new thing with a hands over eyes emoticon denoting the 'worrying' amount of money that they'll soon be spending.)

I am happy for people having nice times - but it's the ones who document every single sneeze of good fortune that I'm absolutely sick of.

Do these people not realise that a lot of people have nice times in nice places but just don't wish to ram it down other people's throats in a continuous stream?

Time I took a break I think. And breathe.

But why brag about it on FB?

Not a holiday - continual posts about luxurious lifestyles. Bragging.

Why do you care?

Why do you still have them on FB?

Should someone with a good lifestyle not post about it because it upsets you? Would you have a problem with someone checking in at Butlins? McDonalds?

But why keep reading these posts that in your opinion brag when you really don't need to???

Unless it's to bitch and judge which is rather uncouth and vulgar?

Your words early on OP: "I sound bitter and wierd". Ermmm....

But the whole sentiment of the thread has now been lost and of course it's me just not being happy for people or jealous.

No actually. This is anonymous and I can tell the truth.

The truth is I'm astounded at how normal bragging has become. It's not a nice trait to, for example, tap someone on the shoulder and say 'hey! I've been to a Michelin restaurant for lunch' but perfectly acceptable now as it's "sharing in people's joy".

Pah!

People know what's bragging and what's people genuinely having a nice time and wanting to share their excitement.

Frequency and balance have a lot to do with it.

Errr I would tell my friend I went to a michelin restaurant for lunch.

Random people? No. But I don't have random people on my FB. The people I am friends with on FB are the people I would tell in real life.

It's not a nice trait to bitch about so called friends on FB.

And once again, why do you have them as friends? You still haven't answered the question.

Bitch about would involve it not being anonymous.

Re. Blocking people, hiding etc. I find that people are very different in real life to how they conduct themselves on social media.

Well, I don't tap random people to tell them I was at a Michelin starred restaurant for lunch, I share it on FB with my friends.
They know I adore food, it's a big thing to me, they also know I rarely go out given that I have a chronic illness / disability, and this is something I do with a friend once every three months.
You clearly have the wrong "friends", on FB.
You just sound spiteful.

Yep spiteful for having an opinion. Don't expect everyone to share it.

OP, those of us who might tell our friends that we went somewhere really lovely for lunch have very much kept to the sentiment of the thread by repeatedly answering your But Why? question.

We've patiently explained the many reasons why (some use it as a diary/scrapbook; most are happy to see what friends are doing; some use it for ideas; people use it to keep in touch with friends with similar interests such as nice food, etc, etc).

We have also answered your question of AIBU to be absolutely sick of bragging on social media? Yes, YABVVU because you can hide/unfollow/block and unfriend so you don't see any bragging. Simple.

So will you answer us as to why you don't if 'bragging' is so troubling to you?

And I have far from a luxurious lifestyle, but if I did, I would still hope to have good friends.

It would be 'we' if everyone agrees with you on this thread. They don't. Some people still think that it's bragging. Thank God.

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Cross post. Re: "I find people are very different in real life to how they are on Social Media"

So be friends with them in real life, even be friends with them on facebook, but unfollow and you'll still be friends but crucially you won't see their posts.

Genuinely now wondering if you knew you could do this?

I am currently following the downward spiral of a cousin in tbe US, all documented very verbosely on FB. He was dying last week, now better but spewing vitriolic garbage as well as giving us all his paypal account so we can money to pay for his meds. I wouldn't say he was enjoying a perfect life! But he is still sharing it with us, warts and all.

You are making no sense.

You keep them on fb because you enjoy bitching about them and looking down on them. At least be honest about that.

It is possible to hide their feeds and remain friends with them, or even delete FB. Stop reading posts that annoy you. Your life will be much better for it.

Yes but many other people who also consider it bragging have also said they unfollow those posts! Of course they do because they don't like seeing them!

Your insistence on keeping reading bragging posts that sicken you when you have the tools not to is

Suspect if you don't see the problem then you are the problem . OP, the bragging is very rude indeed. I filtered my FB a few years ago and see v little of it which is great because I have no cash and frankly no love for seeing those who flash it constantly. Petty? You might think so but I think less of those who flaunt their materialism on FB as it is shallow and needy. For the poster who thinks your friends don't notice if you unfollow, yes they do. Eventually.

"As far as I am concerned it's at best a bolthole for the boring and vacuous and at best an arena of abuse."

That says more about your circle of friends than about Facebook. None of my Facebook friends are particularly boring and none of them are abusive in any way. If someone posts things that don't interest me, I simply hide their posts, no need to unfriend or block them or leave Facebook or anything extreme like that.

Seagull "However the need to do that is what I find confusing. Why? Why do you need to let people know about a new luxury car purchase, hotel stay or expensive shoe shop you visited?"

I agree - overt bragging, sharing every detail of your life, being abusive etc - all would annoy me. I think you can overdo it. But, I don't have friends like that on FB, anyone that annoyed me I deleted or hid. Do you really think everyone's friends and what they post reflect what you are saying?

IMO there's a big difference between posting that you've had a lovely meal at a fancy restaurant or posting a pic of a new bag you've bought and love and the stealth boasts eg checking in at an Audi garage/posting pics along the lines of 'Check out my manicure -but actually I really want you to see my massive engagement ring-). Maybe that's not what the OP means but the former is ok in my book while I'd think the latter was crass and possibly a sign of insecurity. Those posts don't annoy me but I do wonder how happy those people really are. They are usually the ones who like everyone to know how much they earn and how much everything cost them.

Strikeout fail, sorry!