Is it unreasonable not to give a 9 year old breakfast?

[Towelsandcats]

Just as it says above really - otherwise fairly healthy diet but breakfast causes rushing in the morning.

[SonnyNoChance]

'rubbish at food in the morning'
When you become a parent do you not have to become 'unrubbish' at basic things like feeding when you are responsible for another human being.
Brioche, banana and hot milk seem lovely it's just attitude that made me giggle

[StillStayingClassySanDiego]

You're not giving much away are you OP .

A yogurt and a banana are quick things to eat if time really is an issue.

[Towelsandcats]

Well, the 9 yo was me.

Actually I was 7 I think when my parents stopped giving me breakfast - i was got up and then took myself to school.

To be fair I don't remember being hungry but it is quite neglectful isn't it?

[gamerchick]

*you're

[TheHouseOnTheLane]

Towels yes it is....everyone is telling you that.

[trashcanjunkie]

Basically it's pretty unthinkable to me to not give the dcs breakfast. What time does she go to bed? I'd honestly say I think it's neglectful.

[Goshthatsspicy]

Oh. Right.
I think you still have masses to sort through then.
Good luck with that instead.

[gamerchick]

Yes it is, I remember tha sort of stuff happening myself. Now more people are paying attention to young kids these days so what used to happen back then is more frowned upon I think.

[MuttsNutts]

Well there you go then. No, it wasn't the right thing to do.



Are you trying to buikd a case against your neglectful parents?

I suggest you move on and learn from their mistakes.

[GlitzAndGigglesx]

My mum used to be close to tears trying to get me to eat breakfast as a child. I'd get plenty of sleep, but just couldn't stomach anything. I used to worry all the time though about being late and I guess that killed my appetite. By the time we were walking to school though, I'd often be walking with a slice of bread and butter. I would try and keep pushing for a 9 year old though

[Towelsandcats]

It's hard mutts as both parents were educated, professional, exceptionally middle class. Not the sort of SS cases you might expect. I find them hard to understand.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

I'm interested actually. DD at 4 doesn't want breakfast. She's up early enough, she is offered food she likes, she just doesn't want it. I try not to 'just one bite' at other times because I want her to listen to her body WRT food.

It's fine at the moment because she's ready about 10am and has a snack. But school starts in September and I don't know what to do for the best.

[Towelsandcats]

In fairness I don't think I suffered from not eating in the morning.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

So Glitz what would have worked?

[mikado1]

I would be giving (cold) egg and banana pancakes with a nut butter, they are mini so perfect for on the go, or homemade granola bars or no bake cashew bars. These are my 'whole meal' snacks for myself or ds. Takes a bit of organising but not much. I would personally be on the floor by 10am if I didn't eat and it's such an important habit to have. As a teacher, I would probably be having a concerned word if a child in my class showed up more than once without breakfast and I would feed them because they simply wouldn't be able to function without food.

[spanisharmada]

Sonny but I am rubbish at food in the morning! Just the sight/smell makes me boak. The brioche etc isn't very Mary Poppins (my Dsis puts me to shame) of me but its my attempt at unrubbishing my morning habits

[steppemum]

ds needs breakfast. he needs to eat soon after getting up, he would kill someone before break time if he didn't eat. Doesn't really need lunch.

dd2 needs breakfast, you would notice if she didn't, but not like ds.

BUT dd1 (age 10) really doesn't do mornings. She is hard to wake up and hates eating when she has just got up. She needs to be awake for an hour before she can face food.
I wake her at 7 and she does have breakfast before she leaves, but not because she is hungry, only because I tell her too.
When she had pack lunch she ate something from her lunch at playtime, when she was then hungry. Now I send her in with a fruit snack for playtime.

When she goes to secondary she will need to be up and out of the house much faster, and I know already that she won't have breakfast. We have joked about it, but she will have a pain chocolate/fruit bar/banana to eat on the bus.

Some kids really can't eat when they first get up. Different people are different! If we know that adults are morning people or night owls, why is it so hard to believe that kids are too.

[mikado1]

Just read tft.... are you now annoyed at your dps for allowing you have no breakfast? !

[SonnyNoChance]

Spanish Heck, who am I to judge. I now fancy a brioche.

[MuttsNutts]

They'd have had to have done something a bit more serious than that to be classed as "SS cases"

Seriously, you survived, you know it wasn't ideal but there are much worse things that can have happened. I really don't think it's worth your while pondering over any longer.

[TheHouseOnTheLane]

MrsPratchett would she have a fruit smoothie? Mix her one with yogurt in it maybe and call it a drink.

[OddSocksHighHeels]

It wasn't great parenting. I had the same as well. But it's hardly the worst thing is it? Is there more to it than that and you want to discuss something more? Or some reason this has just struck you now?

[Towelsandcats]

No not annoyed. Wondering :) My parents are dead so I can't ask them!

It's interesting as others have said - it's neglectful, lazy, poor child will underachieve at school but when I say it was me its - oh well, get over it!

Surely it's lazy or neglectful or it isn't?

[MuttsNutts]

Yeah, it's lazy parenting. But in isolation would not be viewed as neglectful. I work with kids who are truly neglected. They don't have food in the house or money to buy any.

You said yourself there was food there if you wanted it.

[Towelsandcats]

So my parents weren't terrible then? :)

Interesting as when everyone thought I was the parent, I was.