Aibu to feel uncomfortable about this?

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My partner and I have been together for 3 years and have a 15 month old baby. I didn't go back to work after maternity leave as my salary was close to the cost of childcare and neither of us liked the idea of him being in full time childcare. My plan was to register as a childminder so i can spend time with my own child, have company for him, and also contribute financially (albeit not at the same level as my partners earnings). His dad has repeatedly expressed his disapproval to this, telling me I should get a "little job" in a shop in the village. His last reason for disliking it was "the neighbours might not like cars coming to drop children off"

We currently live in a house that he bought prior to meeting me, and it is up for sale. We are looking for a new house to buy.

His dad has been asking for a while for him to go round for a discussion so he can talk to him about things without it being in front of me. My partner this evening has said it will most likely be about mortgages.

Aibu to think that it's a bit weird to need a conversation about mortgages to be held in some kind of secret meeting?

In anycase, we can all agree that OP is sailing up shit creek with paddle in hand facing darkness. I cannot fathom why you would put yourself in this precarious position but listen to us, look at where you stand op.

Nonsense ilove I agree with Boiing, we bought a year ago and I am jointly named on the deeds and mortgage despite being a SAHM. We had no problem at all getting a mortgage no one batted an eyelid. And my friend (also a SAHM) has just bought with her DH. As long as the household salary is enough of course you can have a 2nd unearning person as joint owner.

OP please take on board the advice you have been given on this thread and be very careful

Why the fuck does his dad need a discussion about finances? Surely they are more OP's business than the FIL. Hopefully the 'meeting' took place and dh told him to mind his own fucking business anyway.

I'd be wary about a partner who didn't seem to wish to marry me, deliberately gave me duff legal advice, and discussed private financial matters with third parties whilst I was excluded.

That said, as a parent, I'd protect my children's interests and those of any grandchildren. So FiL is doing what I might do, to be frank. He doesn't seem to think much of you - why?

Anyway ......Please protect yourself. You're on shaky ground.

I think we scared OP off. Sometimes people don't want to face the worst case scenario immediately.