Christening money (more WWYD?)

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Less AIBU, more What Would You Do MNHQ - can we have a WWYD thread?

Have been invited to Christening of a friend's DS who was preemy 5m ago but is now catching up to and exceeding some milestones.

I'm not religious, personally, but respect those that are and for me a Christening is a great way to bring friends and family together to celebrate a child. I usually buy a book treasury (not a bible) or silver money box for such an occasion but the invite asks for cash to be given to the parents, in lieu of a gift.

Can I give a gift directly to the SCBU that helped their DS (and make said donation in his name) or should I just give the parents the cash and let them do what they want with it? Or shall I do what I usually do and get a silver keepsake engraved??

Thanks in advance.

my kids are unknowingly building up a nice little egg towards their future. And what's wrong with that flogging?

And so is my DS. But it's money that I am contributing. I didn't send out a demand for cash for his christening (he got one cheque, and the rest were beautiful gifts which have been or are being used well, or are on display in his room. One elderly relative gave him a substantial cash gift when he was born which went in to his account, and again it was not asked for, nor expected.

If you want your child to have a fund for the future, but it's the parent's responsibility to stock it, not the job of christening guests who have been told they must bring cash or not bother coming.