To think putting a baby boy in pink is a little odd?

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Hi, this post isn't to point fingers, I just genuinely want to know if I'm the only one who thinks like this.

A friend of mine is putting her newborn baby boy in his sisters old sleepsuites etc and says it's just newborn clothing, why does it matter.
I'm sorry but I wouldn't even think of putting a boy in girls things, and I don't just mean 'pink', I mean properly girly.

AIBU? I can't see why you'd do it, and she isn't strapped for cash by any stretch of the imagination. It just doesn't sit right with me.

YABU. I dress my DD in lots of blue tops and jeans. I love watching peoples faces when they say 'Ahhh, so cute. What's his name?' and I reply 'Susan'

hayels

perhaps to save confusion we should make t-shirts printed of said genitalia for them to wear for the sake of absolute clarity (in the appropriate colours obviously)

does it matter?

boys have been dressed as girls for centuries. never did anyone any harm.

making a big deal about it or thinking its a big deal does far more harm.

YOU are the odd dangerous one here op.

As a 3 year old girl nearly 70 years ago I was put into a lovely pair of stripey pyjamas. I remember them fondly to this day. But I have been Lesbian as long as I can remember -- at last I know why!! So be afraid, OP, be very afraid

The OP is getting a rough ride here.

Come on, people.

She said she doesn't just mean pink. She means properly girly.

We are clearly talking about a small boy forced to wear estrogen-impregnated fabrics, probably as part of some plot by the feminist mafia. Left unchecked, he'll grow breasts and eventually become a distraction to lab scientists.

And what does it matter if she's not strapped for cash
Maybe she wants to spend the money on more useful/enjoyable things, maybe put the money she will save into a savings account for the baby?

Jesus Christ. In real life very very few people dress little boys in pink sleep suits.

I would also think it was odd OP, (not because it would lead me to believe his penis might drop off well done MN for the bullying hysteria by the way) but because baby shopping is fun, it's nice to identify your child as a boy or a girl, and because photographs last a lifetime!

Why is it nice to identify your baby as a boy or a girl?
And no, baby shopping is not fun for everyone, especially those with little money.

But the OP already pointed out that the mother doesn't have money worries.

It's nice to identify your baby as a boy or a girl because that's normal life. I have never seen anyone outside of this website or an article on the subject where people were so pro pink on boys or not wanting to 'conform to gender'. It's bonkers.

Couple of things here.

1. The OP is a recent name change. She's changed because people kept 'picking on her', apparently. So obviously the solution is to name change, announce the change on a thread, then start a goady thread that she never comes back to.

1. If this is the calibre of her posting (and it is, I've checked) then no wonder people object to her 'opinions'.

For those saying this only happens on here, did you read my post about my 10 year old DS with his yellow shirt and pink t-shirt? Lots of boys his age are wearing pink nd lemon now. They just don't carry the same connotations that they used to. It's 2015, grow up.

What's the problem?

I have piles of perfectly good baby clothes in the loft from DS1 and DS2, and I've just found out I'm pregnant with number 3. I can categorically state that if it turns out to be a girl it will just have to lump it as I'm not going out and buying new stuff.

Everyone who knows us will know if it's a boy or a girl, and it doesn't really matter if random passers-by get it wrong.

Also, I hate pink.

It's not normal life. Nobody but you cares what genitals your baby has. You don't need to announce it by colour.

But the point here that if you do feel that need, fine. Why does that need have to be universal, to the point where you are criticising others for using pink clothes on a boy? Are you threatened somehow?

I'm with OP and BooChunky. All this bloody right on gender neutral hand me down lentil weaving effort makes my teeth itch.

'Bonkers' is conforming to gender when it's bollocks.

It used to be the other way round with pink and blue. They're just colours and thankfully we're moving away from 'boys can't wear pink' bullshit.

Lentil weaving?

Talk about behaving like an arse.

"It's nice to identify your baby as a boy or a girl because that's normal life."

Annnnnnd laydeeezngennelmmen, here we have our old mucker Theodor Adorno's theory of internalized ideology in action.

"It's just how things are." "Anything else would be weird." "Why would you do anything else?" "That's normal life." "You can't argue with that, it's just normality."

Strangely enough, strictly colour-coding babies wasn't "normal life" in, say, the 70s when I was a kid. All the toddler photos of my DSis have her dressed in blue because she was blonde and that was seen as a flattering colour for fair hair (also the case in Little House On the Prairie, IIRC). I wore a lot of my male cousin's hand-me-downs (including a particularly fly pair of trousers with a Wombles patch pocket), and I think I owned about two pink items in total.

On various occasions people though my DS's were girls when they were little (frequently when DS1 was wearing red, for some reason), it didn't bother me one jot, I'm not sure why it's seen as so vital to give off strict GIRL! or BOY! signals that are visible from space.

(my DS's penises did fall off, of course, but I've heard they can do wonders with reattachment these days)

I used to put ds in pink hand me downs. I don't get why anyone would waste perfectly good clothes by not doing that

This is a non issue, from both sides.

Of course it isn't shameful, where on earth do you get that from by reading my post.

Well there has to be some reason why it's important that strangers know you've produced an heir? Otherwise why would you need to explain the sex to a stranger?

Well, like Dinosaur says, it's more the waste issue than anything else - why would you get rid of perfectly good sleep suits etc. THAT YOU ALREADY OWN?

Mine were both boys, but had DS2 been a girl she'd have definitely been going in her brother's hand-me-downs.

Or is it only particularly bad/emasculating when it's a boy in pink?

It's nice to identify your baby as a boy or a girl

I don't see why it matters.As has been said. The baby doesn't care, the mum doesn't care. Most baby clothes end up covered in dribble/wee/poo/vomit anyway.

Given that we're now in the 21st century, whether someone is male or female (or does not specifically identify as either) is irrelevant. Unless you're about to have sex with them.

^and even then, it may not matter particularly then.

Agree I've never seen this in real life, only on mumsnet!

As a child of the 80's with two older brothers, I spent nearly all of my childhood in various star wars/he-man/A-team t-shirts and shorts/jeans ensembles. I love looking at the photos now, I look like such a cute lil bruiser! . For my own DC's, we didn't find out what we were having before they were born so ALL of our newborn/young baby clothes are bright, primary coloured or white and all gender neutral so we didn't have this problem.