To think putting a baby boy in pink is a little odd?

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Hi, this post isn't to point fingers, I just genuinely want to know if I'm the only one who thinks like this.

A friend of mine is putting her newborn baby boy in his sisters old sleepsuites etc and says it's just newborn clothing, why does it matter.
I'm sorry but I wouldn't even think of putting a boy in girls things, and I don't just mean 'pink', I mean properly girly.

AIBU? I can't see why you'd do it, and she isn't strapped for cash by any stretch of the imagination. It just doesn't sit right with me.

Oh fuck, the toddler refuses to wear denim, I refuse to buy joggers. He lives in tights and leggings. What am I doing to him!!!1!!1!

YANBU because in my experience 'girl's' clothes are invariably full of useless bows and frills, made of thinner material than boys clothes and inexplicably smaller sized. Hence why my daughter mostly wears her brother's hand me downs.

This was never going to go well but I have to admit I wouldn't put DS in girls clothes (or vice versa). I don't think he'll catch gay or anything similar, in fact he has a bright orange t-shirt with pink writing from next but I wouldn't use DD clothes if he had a big sister.

My friends must all be very weird as anyone with a DS and DD has bought new clothes for the second baby and passed on pieces to friends instead.

Completely reasonable OP. It's a well known fact that both gender and sexuality are determined by what colour pyjamas we wear as babies.

as an aside I never say 'what a lovely girl/boy' unless the baby has the full frilly headband/tutu/pierced ears look.

in which case I say 'hello young man'

Yabu the baby hardly cares what he's wearing. In a few years he will probably start refusing the pink so for now she can dress him however she likes. Maybe she's trying not to spend too much as well and this seems like a good solution.

No problem at the baby stage. Just when they are older and get mocked and taunted for it

"Why do you have to reply? Does it matter whether a stranger thinks a baby is a boy to a girl? Is a boy a point of pride that all must acknowledge and a girl a bit shameful?"

Of course it isn't shameful, where on earth do you get that from by reading my post. If it were a baby dressed in blue, as a parent I wouldn't see the point in having to say "she's a girl" to anyone who would assume a baby dressed in blue was a boy. So I would use neutral colours to avoid assumption and an unnecessary conversation.

It just doesn't sit right with me

Can you elaborate?

I put my dd in Ds's old things, not entirely sure why anyone would care, she certainly didn't.

MrsGentlyBenevolent

Yes, as we all know, the colour of a baby's sleepsuit has far-reaching consequences. Sadly I myself wore yellow and now have no gender at all, it's been an nightmare for me and DH. To this day I have no idea which box to tick on forms.

OMG! YANBU... His penis might drop off!!!

I often get people asking if my DTDs are a girl and a boy whatever they are wearing

I've sent my DS, aged 10, off on holiday with his cousin with a lemon linen shirt and a salmon pink t-shirt in his suitcase, both of which he loves and wears out and about with his friends, who couldn't give a shit. D'S is incredibly rough and tumble but maybe he's turning into a Gay without either of us realising.

If he comes back wearing PVC hot pants and a Julian Clary t-shirt, I'll disown him immediately.

Aren't a lot of men wearing pink, lemon yellow etc these days? I think the days of pink for girls are being left behind (apart from narrow minded fools).

You're lucky Venus in that your friends can afford to do that. Many can't.

Others like me can (usually) but are not averse to saving a bit of money for something more useful than ensuring my DS never wears pink or DD never wears navy. When I find myself being a bit of a dick about stuff like that (or not bothering to change my telephone provider to one I know will be just as good but cheaper etc) I make myself give a donation to charity.

We bought DD a pink pushchair knowing that it would undoubtedly guarantee that DC3 was a boy. He was and gets lots of lovely compliments on "her" lovely pushchair whether he is wearing DD or DS1's hand-me-downs.

Were I live there's a lot of African families (my Dad was from SA) and it is still usual to dress boys in pink and use Slings etc, so although it's a rough bit of Liverpool, it wouldn't get commented on.

I personally would enjoy dressing a second, different sex baby in new and different colour way clothes, if money (as said) wasn't an issue.

But, at this stage it's personal choice.

Was given a load of boy clothes while pregnant from best friend .As a result have discovered blue is the sweetest colour on my brown eyes dd.

On that note though why are baby products (not clothes)blue or pink. Yesterday had to buy a body warmer for pool and a bath seat. Both came in blue or pink. Why, neither product is suitable for only one sex. Bought blue not to be controversial just because it was a lovely bright colour. Where are all the bright reds and yellows?

i was wondering if op had vanished because she had some nosy goats upstairs neighbours to deal with, but i can see that she has posted before.

so all i will say is that i guess your post relates to that head injury that you had recently. that was a ludicrous post and i suggest you contact your gp to check for brain swelling

I'm with you on this one OP. Had a girl, saved all her clothes, now expecting a boy and all the pink stuff is staying in the loft. I would never say anything to this woman but I'd still secretly think she was odd.

YABU
It would be a waste of money and resources to buy a complete new set in a different colour for clothes he is only going to be wearing for a few weeks at most!
But I suppose it would of been better to buy neutral colours in the first place.
He is not going to be damaged by wearing pink clothes for a few weeks to sleep in!!

Not odd ar all if you're just reusing old clothes. I would find purposly buying one a bit wierd but still each to thei own!

What doesn't leak out of the bottom comes back out of the top and then they grow before you have a chance to wash and dry the outfit. With my first I had a pile of lovely little gap sleepsuits in blue and a bunch of handmedowns of all colours. After the second day when all the gap stuff was in the wash he wore whatever was easiest to get on and off. The 10 year old stretched faded sleepers were a godsend.

Years ago a family friend convinced herself that the baby she was expecting was a girl. Nothing would make her consider otherwise or just wait and see. Her ds was born and he was dressed as a girl for the first 3 months of his life, not just sleep suits but pink frilly bonnets and dresses. He is now in his 40s and a builder.

Public announcement -

COULD EVERYONE PLEASE MAKE SURE YOU COLOUR CODE YOUR BABIES SO STRANGERS KNOW WHAT THEIR GENITALS LOOK LIKE

Thank you