AIBU?
that DH shouldn't have gotten this drunk?
RattleAndRoll · 14/08/2015 20:08
At a wedding. DH is a groomsman, and this morning we discussed him drinking and he said he won't as he's driving us home.
Generally he doesn't drink, maybe a cider at a BBQ for example. We don't drink at home.
He turned up to the venue a couple of hours before us (ds(almost 1) and I). As soon as I arrived I could tell her was tipsy (this is an hour before ceremony etc). He had a drink in hand. I mentioned about him driving home, he said he's only had one. Hmm I thought.
By the time the ceremony comes, in between seating people he's making racist jokes and talking about cocaine? (He's not a racist or and doesn't take drugs). And couldn't tell his left and right when trying to seat guests on the bride or grooms side of the room. I at this point have said to him that he needs to get his behaviour in check. So was silent from then on.
He kept drinking. By the time the wedding breakfast has been served he's puking in the toilets. Each course that came out made him feel sick so he's puked around 5 times now.
At this point one of the other groomsman have sent him to bed. Its a hotel, so there's some rooms that they've used to get ready in etc.
Also, I was going to get my mum to babysit ds so I could enjoy myself today, less stress etc. he didn't want me to. It's a close friend from school getting married and he wanted ds to be in the photos. My worry was Id be dealing with ds on my own all day, as he's a groomsman, he said he'd checked what his duties were and he'd be with us for everything except the ceremony, please don't get a sitter. Well I've hardly seen him, as expected.. as he's been in the loo or hotel room. When he has been with us he's been useless and not doing anything to help. He's down from the hotel now and still not with us.
And, it's our sons first birthday tomorrow and we have a big family BBQ planned starting midday. He is going to be a state in the morning, and probably feel shit all day.
I've missed the speeches as ds was getting tired so I've just had to walk him round the car park then heard the clapping etc came back and missed them, and I'm outside again now and can hear their first dance song has come on so I've missed their first dance too.
I've apologised to the groom for his behaviour as I've no idea what else he's said or done whilst not around me.
It's just so not like him, I don't know what's going on with him.
Aibu to think he's shown himself right up?
TheoriginalLEM · 14/08/2015 20:23
you say he doesn't usually drink, i suspect he got caught up with the others, coudlknt handle the drink and as a conseqence, it spiralled. There is nothing like a few drinks when you dont drink to make you feel you need to drink the bar dry. He'll feel terrible and hopefully be contrite. But its shit for you, i agree
SnapesCapes · 14/08/2015 20:25
It's his fault, nobody else's. Let him sleep it off tonight, have a word with him first thing tomorrow and remind him that regardless of his self-inflicted hangover you expect him to be fully operational at your son's party tomorrow, no ifs, buts or coconuts. Don't give him chance to flake out.
too because there's nothing more arse-clenching than your OH getting too spangled at weddings.
RattleAndRoll · 14/08/2015 20:36
He just doesn't hardly drink, a couple of times a year at most and it's always 1 or 2, never like this. That's what I'm surprised by. And the fact that when he's been ok, and not in loo/hotel, he's still not been with us. He's off elsewhere. It's just odd. All the other groomsman now are with their partners. He's not. It's weird. It's really out of character and not like him to be this way.
Don't worry he's not driving home, even though earlier he said 'I've only had 6, once I've had a nap I'll be fine to drive!' At that point I walked away.
I think he has just got carried away/peer pressure possibly. It is a one off. But I'm still just angry and upset he could behave like this at someones wedding. Especially for such a close friend and being part of the wedding party.
RattleAndRoll · 14/08/2015 20:39
No, definitely not taken drugs. We're very anti drugs. Never tried. We haven't even tried a cigarette. (Met in school so knew him young). It's when someone remarked he couldn't tell his left and rights and he remarked about that being because of the line of Charlie he had. That's his poor taste of joke, like the racist ones.
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