At a wedding. DH is a groomsman, and this morning we discussed him drinking and he said he won't as he's driving us home.
Generally he doesn't drink, maybe a cider at a BBQ for example. We don't drink at home.
He turned up to the venue a couple of hours before us (ds(almost 1) and I). As soon as I arrived I could tell her was tipsy (this is an hour before ceremony etc). He had a drink in hand. I mentioned about him driving home, he said he's only had one. Hmm I thought.
By the time the ceremony comes, in between seating people he's making racist jokes and talking about cocaine? (He's not a racist or and doesn't take drugs). And couldn't tell his left and right when trying to seat guests on the bride or grooms side of the room. I at this point have said to him that he needs to get his behaviour in check. So was silent from then on.
He kept drinking. By the time the wedding breakfast has been served he's puking in the toilets. Each course that came out made him feel sick so he's puked around 5 times now.
At this point one of the other groomsman have sent him to bed. Its a hotel, so there's some rooms that they've used to get ready in etc.
Also, I was going to get my mum to babysit ds so I could enjoy myself today, less stress etc. he didn't want me to. It's a close friend from school getting married and he wanted ds to be in the photos. My worry was Id be dealing with ds on my own all day, as he's a groomsman, he said he'd checked what his duties were and he'd be with us for everything except the ceremony, please don't get a sitter. Well I've hardly seen him, as expected.. as he's been in the loo or hotel room. When he has been with us he's been useless and not doing anything to help. He's down from the hotel now and still not with us.
And, it's our sons first birthday tomorrow and we have a big family BBQ planned starting midday. He is going to be a state in the morning, and probably feel shit all day.
I've missed the speeches as ds was getting tired so I've just had to walk him round the car park then heard the clapping etc came back and missed them, and I'm outside again now and can hear their first dance song has come on so I've missed their first dance too.
I've apologised to the groom for his behaviour as I've no idea what else he's said or done whilst not around me.
It's just so not like him, I don't know what's going on with him.
Aibu to think he's shown himself right up?