to be a little bit miffed or am I being a brat?

[WeedingAnniversary]

So, it was my anniv yesterday. I recieved flowers and chocs. sigh. This year i got really upset over my birthday as not ONE of my pressents had longevity, i was going through a bad stage in my life, i was very tender, I put loads of thought into everybody else's presents, and DH asked me what the matter was and i spilled that i was upset and why. Mothers Day (after birthday) i had utterly lovely presents - really well thought out and focussed. it's not the money issue {not asking for excess}, its the easy present route that has miffed me. dh is working away at the mo, but came home for anniv which coincided with other quite major things (both positive and negative) so we actually had only about an hour of alone time. i haven't mentioned it, he doesn't know how i feel. aibu to feel a bit miffed?

Gosh Lavender you keep changing perspective so you can keep sniping at me. Nice.

Everyone else, I've taken what you've said on board, feel more content, mentioned it up thread, but still being berated. Cheers huns.

Yeah, you're right Minicaters, I've been a smidge (hopefully hits irksome button) ununderstanding. I'm gearing myself up for an awesome Sunday evening as I know hell be delighted with his new gearknob.

I don't think it is sniping to say that you seem more bothered about getting an anniversary present or how your friend might feel than to appreciate the fact your DH gave you the best present if all, which was coming home.

Have I wandered into a Bronte book?

I'm picturing the OP at this stage lying on a chaise loughs in a flowing frock with her hand to her forehead.

You bought him a gear knob?

Which I suppose has longevity in that it would have a lengthy half life in landfill.

A gear knob is a pretty easy/lazy present for someone who likes cars. If he was that bothered about a gear knob he'd have bought one. I'm presuming it's a Halfords-type thing, not one you've had hand sewn from the pair of knickers you were wearing first time he removed them
You know - something thoughtful and meaningful.
But otherwise - oh he likes cars, typical accessory? Gear knob. Dull.

The thing is, I expect he WILL like it. Because the thought counts. You really need to think about that! You really can't complain about flowers when you've been equally clichéd!

I think you've got the point that you're being rather princessey.

He came home early to surprise you, that should be enough.

My dh used to work away(he did it for 5 years) he'd come him on a Friday night, I used to love seeing him again and spend all day Friday rather excited.

You haven't seen your DH for a month, he comes back early to surprise you and your abiding thought is his present isn't good enough? It all sounds rather sad tbh. You say you've got other stuff going on, but surely him coming back means he can be supportive, making things a bit better for you?

Only seeing him once a month sounds very hard on a relationship, is it going to go much longer?

I think it was the use of "my" not anniv; do a bit me, me, me. It's "our" anniversary.

You do sound a bit precious. And sitting down after work to do a photo book - really?

You might have to accept presents are more important to you than DH.

Brat. Appreciate you dh.

Cabrinha. See that winky thingy? Twas a joke, echoing what a previous poster said. Hot him something way more specialised for his pride and joy. He'll be chuffed. "my" anniv was a mistake, sorry, lazy posting.

It wasn't obviously a joke, given you'd said you were buying a car thing.
I stand by my point - you can't complain that flowers and chocolates aren't meaningful and long lasting and thoughtful enough, and just buy a car accessory for a petrolhead. It's just an "cop out" a present.
Where we differ - and your H too I expect - is that we're HAPPY with the car present!

It would be bloody hard work coming up with Longevity Presents several times a year!

Yes it was the "my". I'm sure it was a mistake OP, I just wondered if it was a bit of a freudian slip given the gist of your OP?!

FWIW I got the gearknob as a jokey ref to my earlier post, but it's easy to miss in 5 pages of other people's posts.

I'd press one of the flowers and keep it.

One of the most romantic presents I ever got from an OH was a can of ice cold diet coke. He had walked 2 miles to pick me up from work and said, 'I've bought you something'. He knew how stressful my job was and that I was miles from any shop. Colleagues were very bemused at how thrilled I was.