To ask how much your wedding cost??

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Was it a big or small affair and did you have any/much financial support from parents/ family?

2x palladium rings £350
Dress £20
Suits for DH free (already owned a nice one), for DSs £65
Registry office (Inc announcement and fees) £150
Afterwards a meal for us and witnesses and dc £150ish

Not hard up just didn't want the all-singing, all-dancing, people-watching affair. No family present for a stress-free day

15k, my parents paid. 150 guests, meal, live band. This was 8 years ago.

Somewhere between £25K and £30K. My dad paid for 3/4 of this. Venue and food was the biggest cost, and my dress was expensive (but beautiful!). If my dad couldn't/didn't help us out we couldn't have spent nearly as much (he gave me a £20K budget, the rest was up to us). Honeymoon was cheap and in the UK. About 90 wedding guests, country house venue

About 1k including honeymoon.

Imperial Blether that is a lovely story.

About 1.5k in 2009. Small, family only. It wasn't registry office as the town doesn't have one- it's an old town hall but technically has to be hired as a venue rather than just a registry office, which more than doubled price. Then meal for in private room in an old hotel, plus cost of overnight stay for people. My dress was several hundred which I thought was ridiculous but everyone kept pressuring me and my family paid.

Dh and I would have done it on holiday in a registry office in jeans for less than 100. The extra expenditure was to keep interfering relatives happy.

£13k and then a £7k honeymoon in Canada and Hawaii.

We got married in January 2012 (so off season) at a hotel in Manchester, with about 100 guests, followed by another 75 guests at the evening do. 1k for the photographer, 7k for the venue including catering and an overnight stay. 2k for my wedding dress, 1k for wedding party (bridesmaids etc) outfits. 1k for rings, about £500 for DH suit, another £500 for favours. Close friends of DH did DJ as a wedding gift, another friend gave me the flowers for the bridesmaid.

PIL paid 5k, mum paid 2k, aunty gave me 2k. Very lucky.

3 years ago. £4000. Married in a national park in Kenya.
Included flights to Kenya 3 nights at beach hotel then a 7 night 5* safari in 3 different camps getting married on the second day of the safari on a hill in Tsavo West national park (we had to get in the 4x4's due to lions arriving at the wedding!!!!!) then 4 days back at the beach hotel.
We had to get paperwork done in uk which was easy and someone from the hotel did all the work in Kenya for us. Package also included cake, flowers, legal stuff, day in spa, drinks at sunset and planting a tree in the park.
Hopefully going back on our 5th wedding anniversary.

I don't really remember. Probably around £15k for 200 guests. We had a large marquee in a friend's very large garden a few years ago. That and the catering were the biggest costs, followed by the band and photographer. A friend arranged the flowers which we got at new covent garden market. But so many of these costs depend on how you allocate it, eg my DP bought a new suit which he then wore for work, and I didn't have a tradittional wedding dress but a tailored amazing designer couture black-tie frock which suits me perfectly, and I wear for other big black-tie events. So less if you took those costs out.

£25k last month. Includes £5k honeymoon in Mauritius, £3k guest rooms at a London hotel for two nights, rings £3k, wedding dress and bridesmaids dresses £2k, venue with hot buffet for 120 guests £5k, cake £500, entertainment £500, photographer £700, flowers £500, invitations/order of service £250, church service/special licence/organist/choir £1500.

Don't regret it one bit. We got married at the Chapel Royal in the Tower of London, then the reception in St Katharine's Dock. The weather was beautiful, I felt beautiful and everyone had a fabulous time. Then a wonderful honeymoon chilling by the pool. Best time of my life.

£7000 in 2014.

The venue was the majority of this-4k.
My wedding dress was £250, in de reduced from £900.
Its theittle things adding up that cost. Flowers, decorations etc.

Also make sure vat is included in things. My sil got stung with a vat bill for her venue a few days after the wedding and had to ask her dad for the money as they hadn't budgeted for it!

No idea, it was 23 years ago and my parents paid for everything except the dress which my godmother bought. Dress was 800 pounds.
60 guests at wedding, one bridesmaid, did not pay for any guests to stay overnight. The hotel my mum worked at held the reception so imagine she got a good deal.

In 2010 £13k
71 day guests, 100 evening guests.
This included platinum rings and I think honeymoon

About £30k in 2012, including honeymoon. Parents paid most of wedding

Ours was about £22k (not including honeymoon). 140 people, nice country hotel. Spent next to nothing on dress (150 quid), car (used my dad's) and cake (didn't have one) and splashed out on food, free booze, a brilliant band and fireworks. Guest fun was priority!

Oh, and had £15k contributions from mine and DH's parents.

We were married in April this year. We had 39 guests and paid £4500 for the venue, which included food, drinks and our room for the night. My dress, the mister's suit, cake etc cost another £4000. We also had a church wedding and that cost £500. The vicar skipped over half the service and couldn't be bothered to prepare a sermon so that was money well spent.

I had initially planned a wedding for 20 people for £3500 (dress and everything else included) but my mother hated my choice of venue and forced asked my dad to give me some money for a 'proper' venue.

£4.5k in 2001

roughly

£2k for the wedding and honeymoon (Vegas and San Diego)
rings, dress etc £300

Party back home - £2k including room hire, catering, bar, disco, band and room decoration (all done by family and friends)

£10,000 in 1998 which included our honeymoon. We had about 80 guests for a sit down dinner. We paid for everything ourselves.

I don't think I could afford to get married these days (on the same scale I mean).

£6k in 2005 (coincidentally it's our tenth anniversary today). 50 guests to the sit down meal, then loads more for the evening party.

About £150 for dress and rings. We eloped.
Wasn't the best day of my life but it had to be done. Hope to have a 'real' wedding for our 10 year anniversary. Still only plan to spend 1-2 k though as money is tight.

The actual ceremony cost about 300 quid, we eloped to Vegas and it was the best thing ever.

Flights and hotel were more on top.

fourtothedozen do you think couples that spend more on their weddings are more likely to stay together?

Not addressed to me but your questions are winding me up so I thought I'd respond anyway

Firstly, what do you think?

Secondly, If our wedding counts as expensive, then I'm happy to report that we are very much together and as happy as ever.

Thirdly, I'm guessing from your budget upthread that you had a "get married, it's the most important bit, everything else is flim flam" kind of attitude? (whether that was through time constraints, budget constraints or philosophical approach is irrelevant, and I'm making no judgments on your wedding day). So having had that kind of wedding, do you think it's pointless when others spend far larger amounts on their wedding? I mean, technically, you're right, the ceremony (and associated legalities) is the only thing you need to be married. However, you appear to be saying that those who choose to spend more are wasting cash and that this reflects somehow on their relationship, whereas I see it reflecting their attitude to, well, spending cash (on things they perceive as worthwhile). Of course there will be couples who are desperate to mask relationship issues by having a massive show-off wedding, but equally, there will be couples who get married too quickly (and most likely cheaply) in the first three months of knowing each other (something which I think might predict a higher likelihood of divorce).

Fourthly, I actually wouldn't be surprised if there was a correlation between the amount of money spent on a wedding and divorce rate, linked to a socioeconomic group (I'm speculating, I don't know if there is such a link). So, for example, there may be a link between good careers/longer relationships before marriage/fewer children/higher earnings/more disposable cash and marital success, and those people are more likely to have spent more on their wedding day. On the flip side, marrying younger and more humbly (i.e. "cheaper" weddings) might be associated with higher religiosity, which would predict lower divorce rates. I don't know.

Just under £10K in 2004, 76 people. Cleaned out Paid it ourselves out of savings so we didn't have to borrow anything.

We consciously saved on stuff that was for the day only by doing it ourselves (I made the cake, my dress, the BM's dresses, we did all the invitations and placecards myself, honeymoon was a borrowed cottage in the UK) and let ourselves spend a bit more on things that were going to be kept, eg rings and photos.

So far so good 11 years later!

Ouch, can't even write a sentence properly today. We did all the invitations and placecards ourselves

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