Mils dog and 8 week old baby.

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I have posted before regarding my mils dog and my concern around my baby being near it.

Baby is now 8 weeks old, beautiful and happy.

Mil is CONSTANTLY hinting she wants to take my baby home with her (is it my hormones making me so incandescent with rage when she says this?!) and inviting us around for bbqs finners etc.

So far we have managed to decline all invites. The dog has bitten several people in the past, friends, family and strangers. And this woman wants me to bring my baby to her house?!

She treats the dog like a human, talks about it CONSTANTLY to the point that everyone around her is bored of it. Fil regularly tells us in a jokey way about all the dogs recent attacks?! They seem to honestly find it funny.

My husband is really unhappy to tell his mother than we want the dog locked away either outside or behind a dog hate that we would provide when visiting. I am prepared to take baby there as long as this is followed, and I am always present. I can't even iMagine DH taking her there alone I would worry constantly.

I know she won't go for the locking away idea because she truely views the animal as a human child,

Soooo Aibu to request the dog is locked away? Aibu to say we won't visit unless it is locked away?

Aibu to say baby will only go there if I am present?

Or am aibu to even visit the house at all as long as the dog is there??

I am on your side. BUT I don't think you can demand that a dog/pet has to be shut in another room or crated in its own home, especially if it is vicious and has bitten, imagine all that pent up fury of it being locked away, if it slips out/escapes lord knows what it could do. Certainly my dog wouldn't like it and she hasn't bitten anyone. HOWEVER if I was in your shoes I would just not take the baby to visit. Say you are happy for ils to come to you without the dog and explain the reasons why. End of. If they want to see their grandchild enough they will abide by your wishes.

I would be ruthlessly blunt with mother in law in terms of the language I would use.

Did you see in the paper about the small friendly family dog who ate the baby Grandson?

Wow the news is full of horrible yappy dogs who bite and maim / kill the families baby's isn't it.

Did you see the news last week about the family doc who killed the baby wasn't it the same breed as 'killer' here.

Sorry. Horrible words but I think it needs drilling into her brain and having her personal bubble popped.

The newspaper reports won't do any good because I imagine little fluffy isn't like those dogs. She nips a bit but that's it.
She won't believe her dog is the same or capable of the attacks.

Ideally dh needs to say 'sorry I'm really not comfortable bringing baby because of the dog, it's just too unpredictable. I wouldn't want baby hurt & the dog put down'

I'd play its protecting the dog as much as baby. Id imagine she'll take less offence and more notice of that.

"Your dog has a history of biting people, MIL, so I will not bring DC to your house whilst your dog is there. You are welcome to visit DGC here. Would you like a cup of tea?"

Don't go through DH. DHs are often cr@p at dealing with issues that involve their mothers and this is too important an issue to let slip.

I've just been looking up the law about dogs biting, and it seems that you can still report a dog for biting, etc, even if it was in it's owner's home.

Is that the right interpretation?

OP, I do agree with those saying don't go with the baby while your PILs are still so blind to potential danger.