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Wearing white to a wedding.

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dilbert19912 · 01/08/2015 16:22

Is it bad etiquette for a guest to wear white at a wedding?
Bride is wearing an ivory dress.
I have chosen a white skirt but not sure now... thoughts on this anyone?

OP posts:
Daisss · 02/08/2015 01:03

Absolutely not.

Original poster
dilbert19912 · 02/08/2015 01:15

No veil Grin
And Im no ex of the groom haha!

OP posts:
CherryGarcia1 · 02/08/2015 05:31

Gossiping about what someone is wearing to a wedding??? .....really?

Horrible!

JourneyToThePlacentaOfTheEarth · 02/08/2015 06:58

gossiping? What a strange thing to say. it's a chat forum ffs

WizardOfToss · 02/08/2015 07:07

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yellowdinosauragain · 02/08/2015 07:09

Journey I think Cherry was referring to this post by queenbean:

You don't want to be the person who everyone is gossiping about!

Not the whole thread...

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 02/08/2015 07:49

When i was 17 (and gorgeousGrin) i wore a flowing white posh hippy dress to a boyfriend sister's traditional wedding.... I really had no idea this was not the done thing.... I had no idea why the bride and her mother were so off with me on the day-whoops! Id only been to family weddings previously, the last when i was about 11!

White skirt should be fine!

chekovatemycherry · 02/08/2015 08:12

Why take the risk of upsetting people?

Bridal colour - traditionally white. Ivory is a shade of white.

Leaving the guests the rest of the spectrum of colours available

Red
Orange
Yellow
Green
Blue
Indigo
Purple

have you seen or heard Joseph and the technicolour dream coat. The song about the coat? It lists practically every shade and colour in the world. Go into a paint shop and look at the colour charts if you need to be inspired. There are so many colours out there, you don't need to go with the brides colour! You are not short of options!

Surely on this one day - you could chose from these multitude of colours?

Would have some sympathy if you had no money and having to make do with what was in your wardrobe. You are buying new!

Move away from the white. Don't be 'that' guest that everyone talks about when there are so many other colour options easily availiable!

SinglePringle · 02/08/2015 08:26

Nope. Not a colour you can wear at a wedding. There's a myriad of colours to choose from; why would you chose the colour traditionally worn by the Bride.

I'd judge and think the wearer arrogant and self centered.

lighteningirl · 02/08/2015 08:32

What's under the coral jacket? Are you keeping said jacket on whatever happens? Tbh why would you risk upsetting a bride? She might be fine with it but she might not, If you have any doubt don't do it. I wouldn't.

Nargles · 02/08/2015 08:32

I think it's fine as long as it doesn't look like a wedding dress. That said a lot of the weddings I've been to the bride hadn't even worn white so I suppose it depends how traditional it is and how likely they are to be funny about things like that.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 02/08/2015 08:34

Of course it's all right to wear a short white skirt with coral jacket and shoes. How could anyone possibly be confused with the bridal party dressed like that? It's not in the least arrogant and self-centred.

I get that it's the happy couple's Big Day - not just the bride's, by the way - but really, let's retain some sense of perspective. A wedding is a chance to celebrate with loved ones, but it's not an end in itself - it marks the start of the marriage. The marriage is the important thing, not the bride's ego.

SinglePringle · 02/08/2015 08:39

Tradition and etiquette dictate it as the one colour guests don't wear. One colour from a rainbow of choices.

To go against that known tradition strikes me as attention seeking. It's like 'oh, it doesn't apply to little old me!'

To chose this one colour that you know the bride is likely to be wearing seems, yep, arrogant and self centred. I mean, why would you?

Original poster
dilbert19912 · 02/08/2015 09:34

I'm the least attention seeking person ever, I hate the thought of people thinking like that.
I might dye the skirt like a pale pink if I can find a colour, a bit anxious about this now!

OP posts:
Queenbean · 02/08/2015 10:00

Gossiping about what someone is wearing to a wedding??? .....really?

Horrible!

Are you kidding?! If someone turned up wearing a white dress to a wedding you don't think that the guests would be likely to have a little mutter about how inappropriate it was?!

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 02/08/2015 10:06

Don't be anxious, your outfit is predominantly coral, there aren't many other colours to compliment that, people will notice the coral, not the white.

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 02/08/2015 10:16

I have opted for blue just to be sure, but have ordered a white dress too, which I may consider. It Isn't plain white, it is covered in colourful butterflies all over the front and back and I would wear a blue Valero, shoes and bag with it. But until I see it on I'm not sure how it will look, so have a blue dress as back up and will happily wear that. Plain white would be a huge no though for me.

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 02/08/2015 10:17

Balero not Valero

Pohtaytoh · 02/08/2015 10:22

I wore a white lace off the shoulder top to a wedding last week. I paired it with a long blue skirt, blue shoes, and blue bag. I already owned the blue bits, i couldn't afford to buy a whole new outfit, i needed something to go with the blue things, the white top was all i found on my many trips to town. The bride didn't care (i did shit myself just before she came through the doors incase she was wearing a white lace off the shoulder wedding dress- but she wasn't!). I wore a pink jacket during the ceremony and carried my baby dressed in blue so that broke it up a bit. If you are purchasing to go with already owned coral buts i don't see the issue. What else would go with coral? (Genuine question)

EastMidsMummy · 02/08/2015 10:25

'Everyone' would not be 'gossiping' at your 'arrogance', OP. I, for one, would not give a flying fuck if you chose to wear a white item at a wedding.

kimistayingalive · 02/08/2015 11:06

At a friends wedding I wore a white dress that had a black band around it and also wore a black bolero and black shoes to ensure it didn't look to weddingy and looked suitable plus the bride seemed happy enough. The biggest thing was to not outshine the bride and the bridal party. If unsure ask them.

louwn · 02/08/2015 11:23

I have worn a white and black (totally unbridal!) dress to a wedding before. It depends on the style. Mine was short and structured and just would never have been something a bride would have worn! Have seen lots of people wearing dresses which incorporate some white. When I got married I wouldn't have given a toss unless someone had turned up in something that actually looked like a wedding dress! Are there some brides that are so self absorbed they would really mind if a guest's outfit had some element of white/cream in it?!

LastOneDancing · 02/08/2015 11:30

Has the bride specifically mentioned it on the invite?

If so, definitely not.

But as other PP have said, you've a whole rainbow to choose from - if its a new outfit why pick one that could potentially piss the bride off?! Don't you like her?

GinBunny · 02/08/2015 11:45

I had no idea it was such a thing! Your outfit sounds lovely to me.

I've got this to wear to an upcoming wedding. Please don't tell me it's not appropriate because I love it!

Wearing white to a wedding.
LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 02/08/2015 12:20

I think that is lovely Ginbunny I would have not had an issue with it. My blue one has white on it, but so much blue I think it will be fine. It's the white butterfly jacquard skater dress I am worried about.

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