If you'd have read my post Swallowed, you'd have seen that my friend, her mum and gran went to UK, youngest brother went to USA (he was the youngest and had family there - yes I know that supports your argument. I have never argued against that. If I had to flee I'd try for a country I could be comfortable in BUT if that proved difficult I'd take what I could - my family's safety is more important than that one aspect) and her two sisters went to Germany. Unable to speak the language. They split up because they knew that one of them was bound to be offered asylum, where the others perhaps would not and could then apply for the others to join them. Plus, when they literally ran with their bags and passports after the death of the father, they got on the first planes they could find space on. No space for all six of them on one flight (don't forget at this time everyone who could was trying to leave), so they split up. But all three countries offered asylum and they all decided to stay where they were and they made their respective countries their homes.
I've not argued against anyone coming into this country. But there is a system in place to deal with them. Storming the tunnel isn't the way. That, to me, not only shows people desperate to live here (which I understand) but also shows some people who suspect they will not get asylum.
The biggest problem the UK has is, apart from the fact that if they had kept the asylum office in Calais open they could deal with claims on the spot, if they let people into the UK now and they are not genuine asylum seekers, the government can't deport them as easily as they used to.
That's the reason the government won't let them in. Because, once they are here, they are here. And if others who do not need asylum, but want to get to the UK, hear that we bow to pressure without them having to use the proper system we will have more than 5000 queuing in Calais.
I totally agree something needs to be done. Those with genuine asylum needs need to be helped...by the UK. We are a caring nation, despite what some would have you think. But helping a person with a genuine need to make their home here is very different from giving everyone an entry ticket.
If people want to come to the country and are not asylum seekers they can apply to immigrate (as my sister did when she went to the USA a few years ago). However, some of the people in Calais I would bet want to circumvent the systems (both asylum and usual immigration). These people are not stupid. They know that once they are here they have very little chance of being deported even if they aren't genuine asylum seekers and they are making it even harder for the genuine people in need as everyone gets tarred with the same brush.
If we open the gates the message becomes 'if you can't be bothered to do the usual immigration paperwork and take your chance with everyone else, just run the barricades in France and the UK will let you in'. That message cannot be the one that comes out of this country. Not only does it ridicule the systems all countries have in place to filter out genuine and non-genuine immigrants and asylum seekers, it also gives the idea that if you're not happy with something in the UK just riot and the government will give you what you want - which is a bloody dangerous message.