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Original poster

to switch off when DD2 starts talking about her latest obsession

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ghostyslovesheep · 31/07/2015 09:08

Drives me mad - she doesn't just like things she becomes utterly obsessive - and talks endlessly about it - Pokamon, Moshi Monsters, Football, Minecraft...

Currently it's Hamsters - she has save up money to buy one (I haven't said she can) she's been online for days researching them and even got herself a little cage (on the pretence of it being for the guinea pig when she had it in her room)

I love the little loony madly but she's been talking hamster facts for 2 days straight and I am going mad!

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TTWK · 31/07/2015 18:13

Our hamster died in tragic circumstances.......it fell asleep at the wheel.

swallowed · 31/07/2015 18:13

I was that child, and I'm still like this as an adult.

If I'm into something, I love it and end up evangelising to everyone. Currently my obsession is perfume.

I have to have a plan, all the time. Some goal which I'm working towards and I do all the painstaking reading up on it and researching, making lists.... I love it and it's all part of the fun.

As a child, because I was limited in what I could actually do, (ie my parents wouldn't let me have a hamster) I'd do all the reading, and theorising, and looking in the pet shops and comparing prices. It was all displacement activity because I couldn't actually buy the hamster!

YouTheCat · 31/07/2015 18:16

How about this ?

Loafliner · 31/07/2015 18:29

I an an adult who has this tendency too. I have installed some self control but i need to keep reminding myself. Ds is the same and it drives me crazy, i deserve everything thing he throws at me. Pokemon were the worst

nitsparty · 31/07/2015 18:30

Now I'm not out to dis CAMHS; they do their best , but in our town , the service has been cut to ribbons and senior experienced people have left and everyone is really struggling. The CAMHS team are so under pressure, what with the teenage self harmers, suicides (a couple of youngsters succeeded) etc that they are developing mental health problems of their own-how messed up is that? More than one off on long term sick with stress and depression.
Sounds to me that she is ASD but if they don't diagnose her, well, the local authority don't have to fund her treatment do they? if i were you, I'd be reading up whatever I could find and looking at support groups etc. good luck.

Greyhorses · 31/07/2015 18:38

I have this tendancy too. It mostly revolves around animals although it can be anything.
For example, I fancied a new car, went on and on about it, researched it, viewed some more, talked some more, bought it. I then moved on to finding something else to 'research' the next day.

I didn't realise this was a thing! DP says I am never satisfied with anything and am always looking for something else

Egosumquisum · 31/07/2015 18:46

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TheKitchenWitch · 31/07/2015 19:41

Two words: Star Wars.
Day in, day out, morning, noon and
night. Ds(8) is relentless.
It is lucky that I am also a bit of a fan, so domt find it too hard going; poor DH has zero interest and still has to listen!

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ghostyslovesheep · 31/07/2015 19:43

Oh I know - I have adult friends with ASD and they are social and chatty - but she doesn't fit their framework so she has no diagnosis

but she certainly has the traits!

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TheRealAmyLee · 31/07/2015 19:43

My eldest is super obsessive. The others much less so. I let her witter for a while then stop her gently.

Didn't think of it being linked to anxiety before but it all slots into place with obsessions becoming stronger in stressful times.

As an aside anyone who wants to punch stampy frikkin longnose in the face is DNBU

ShelaghTurner · 31/07/2015 19:45

I do this, or at least I would if I didn't bite my tongue all the time. I've found a group of likeminded people online and we bore each other so our families don't have to listen

youarekiddingme · 31/07/2015 20:00

I totally agree with Pag I switch off from DS but only because he's told me that already a hundred times so can respond if needed! I also do a lot of explaining to him about how he has to understand his mind and other people's minds and opinions are two different things.

He is still at the stage though of thinking others know they are doing something wrong (eg not his way!) and they should be doing it right. When you explain to him he needs to communicate he gets really frustrated with trying to explain and if you don't picture it the same way he is he hits himself in the head - really hard.

Mrsjayy · 31/07/2015 20:04

Dd isnt ASD she is obsessive

Egosumquisum · 31/07/2015 20:07

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Loafliner · 31/07/2015 20:08

I explain to ds that a conversation is like game of ball and it's not much fun if somone else has the ball all the time. He gets what I'm saying and tries hard to kick the ball back - it takes practice.

Sigma33 · 31/07/2015 20:09

Hamsters are great - minimal care needed and only live for about 18 months they pretty much look after themselves and are a lot less smelly than mice!

YeOldeTrout · 31/07/2015 20:10

Clash of Clans Airsoft Dan and Phil HERSELF... the words just wash over me.

thatstoast · 31/07/2015 20:13

Please call the hamster jigglypuff!

insanityscatching · 31/07/2015 20:47

I tune out tbh however ds's current chats are football and formula one and he has decided that women know nothing about sport so he saves them for his Dad and his brothers instead. I will own up to agreeing with him on that point purely to avoid the monologues.
However I have endured the lamp post years,the road sign phase,yugi oh, teletubbies and God knows how many others as well so YANBU to switch off it'sthe only way to keep sane sometimes.

Twowrongsdontmakearight · 31/07/2015 22:35

DS is not ASD but used to go on about Lego Star Wars. My response was to snore and pretend to fall asleep. He got cross but has survived!

Indole · 31/07/2015 22:38

Harry Potter. Harry Fucking Potter. That is all.

gingercat12 · 01/08/2015 12:03

indole As a Harry Potter fan myself, it is surprisingly annoying to listen to DS droning on about it .

Previously it was ninja warrior. It has got to the stage that we worried about his friendships suffering. The day we secretly planned to delete all UK and Japanese ninja warrior episodes from the Sky box he shut up about it.

Notsoskinnyminny · 01/08/2015 12:43

I tune out to both of mine. With DS it started with dinosaurs but now its anything and everything. In years to come everyone will want him on their pub quiz team DD obsesses and talks and talks and talks. I'm immune to it but the look on the checkout assistant's face in tesco this morning was priceless, I just smiled back and glared at DD to shut up.

Her last parents' evening (2wks after DS's) was hilarious when one teacher realised they were siblings (common surname) - he looked at me, looked at her, looked back at me, I nodded as the penny dropped and he said 'how did I miss that ... they're so similar ... it all makes sense .....'

If only they could direct all that mental capacity to their boring school work

Nargles · 01/08/2015 13:07

I'm another who has to put their hand up and say I'm still like this. I'm at least a little better at controlling it as an adult.

SanityClause · 01/08/2015 13:24

My mother has Aspergers. She is social and chatty - too much so! She will chat to people out and about who you can see really don't want to be chatting to her. She misses the social cues that tell her now is time to stop.

But, she doesn't care, and it's only a moment of their lives, so I s'pose it doesn't matter, really.

I think Aspergers is one of those things that's only a disability if it causes problems in ones life (for ex, in employment, or being bullied at school). Otherwise, it's just a different way of being.

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