to think she is using her children to get at DP!

[JakieOH]

Wasn't sure wether to post this here given the step parent bashing that goes on but here, hopefully I'll get some resonable perspective on it.

DP was due to pick his DC up this morning from their mothers, we are going away with them for a few days. last night at 5 she phoned and told DP he was to pick the children up then instead of this morning because she was going out. DP explained to her that he couldn't come to hers (over an hour round trip) because we had people visiting but if she wanted to drop them off that would be fine. She then goes off on one calling him a selfish twat and a shit father then his DD (9) phoned and said 'I really want to stay at yours tonight, can you pick us up)!! DP had to tell her he couldn't but he would see her in the morning.

So now DP has picked the SC up, they have no clothes at all for their trip so he has had to take them shopping for new clothes to take on holiday, something we can ill afford! ( we gave her all the clothes DC had at ours because she wanted to pack for them)! Obviously she is pissed off at him and using the SC to try and get back at him!

AIBU to be utterly raging at her, to think if she changed her plans at the last minute she shouldn't expect DP to drop everything to accommodate her! and that she has potentially ruined her children's holiday because niw we might have to cancel one of our day trips as the money we had put aside for it is now needed to buy a weeks worth of clothes for the DC!

We fell for this 3 holidays in a row OP. Bloody woman drove me insane. We wised up eventually and made sure that DSD knew that there was absolutely no time in the programme for clothes shopping on the next holiday (so that she could counter whatever her mother told her) - and that whatever she bought with her would be all she had for 2 weeks in a hot country. Funnily enough she overcompensated that time (and every time thereafter). Didn't work until she was about 10 years old (and starting to care what she looked like).

Much better than the suitcase with 5 pair of pyjamas, 2 pair of socks, no pants and one dress that DSD hated...

Have a great holiday :)

We have had this type of behaviour too from DH's ex. Though we know what she is like so we would never trust her with all his clothes.

She is obviously trying to upset your holiday, don't let her win, let it go. Go and have a great time, whatever the weather.

She maybe planned this and that's why she asked for the clothes. Never trust her with the clothes again. Hope you enjoy your holiday anyway. Don't let her spoil it.