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To not send my daughter to this party?

52 replies

ohlittlepea · 24/07/2015 17:20

Its a footballers and cheerleaders theme, shes a toddler, it just makes me feel yeuch.
I was thinking of sending her as a footballer, but really not sure if I want her to go at all...its just so not girl power.
But then is she missing out due to her mums weird ideologies?
any thoughts?

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janx · 24/07/2015 17:23

What a strange theme!

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TheHouseOnBellSt · 24/07/2015 17:25

If you're against cheerleaders full stop then just send her as a footballer. Perfect way to show others how it's done

I'm a feminist but I gave my DD a "Mermaids and Monsters" party when she was 4...we had male mermen and plenty of female monsters plus a couple of hybrids! DD was a Monster Mermaid...she had a "tail" and green face paint with fangs!

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squoosh · 24/07/2015 17:26

Definitely send her as a footballer. Didn't the women's England football team just do amazingly at the World Cup?

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ohlittlepea · 24/07/2015 17:28

ok so maybe a footballer with pompoms :)

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ohlittlepea · 24/07/2015 17:29

yes I dont know why it cant just be a footballer party for boys and girls xxx

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70isaLimitNotaTarget · 24/07/2015 17:30

What's the problem with cheerleaders?? Confused

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Becca83 · 24/07/2015 17:31

I don't really see the problem?! You get male cheerleaders and female footballers, so I wouldn't think it was gender specific. Just send her as a footballer if you're that bothered. I bet there will be loads of little boys and girls in what you would construe as "opposite" costumes.

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ohlittlepea · 24/07/2015 17:36

I know cheerleaders do amazing gymnastic feats and are a sports team in themselves, Im sure most of them are hugely empowered people, but I do thinks they have a very sexualised image...for a one year old girl...also the message that boys play sport while girls shake their tushies in appreciation grates on me :) I know that is overgeneralised and unfair but its my honest prejudice.

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StickyProblem · 24/07/2015 17:38

the message that boys play sport while girls shake their tushies in appreciation grates on me - this. Well said OP.

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Yarp · 24/07/2015 17:39

There were women doing the Can-Can at the last Rugby match I saw. Gyrating, twerking, and flashing, in between the manly mean doing manly sport.

I think send her in football kit.

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Yarp · 24/07/2015 17:40

manly men

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Floggingmolly · 24/07/2015 17:41

Is it a toddler party, or has your toddler just been invited to an older child's party? It's a creepy theme for a toddlers party....

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SingForBacon · 24/07/2015 17:41

Send her as a footballer, no Pom poms necessary! Although it isn't specified, the gender stereotype is very much implied here and it would annoy me greatly too. But your daughter should still get to go, put her in a football strip for sure :)

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OnlyLovers · 24/07/2015 17:42

I do thinks they have a very sexualised image...for a one year old girl...also the message that boys play sport while girls shake their tushies in appreciation grates on me

I agree. I'd feel uncomfortable for this exact reason. Actually, I'd feel uncomfortable about this theme for a party for grown-ups, let alone toddlers.

But rather than not letting her go, I think sending her as a member of tee England women's football team would be cool.

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ShipwreckedAndComatose · 24/07/2015 17:42

Definitely send her as a footballer, I think you are right, it's lazy thinking.

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OnlyLovers · 24/07/2015 17:42

'the England women's', obviously.

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ohlittlepea · 24/07/2015 17:44

Thanks for helping :) I will order her an England kit :)

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Postchildrenpregranny · 24/07/2015 17:45

I've never seen a male cheerleader. Must Google...

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squoosh · 24/07/2015 17:47

I think Steve Martin used to be a cheerleader. How I remember such useless facts I have no idea.

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ollieplimsoles · 24/07/2015 17:53

Apart from being a bit of a boring theme for young kids (monsters or something would be way more fun), I don't see a problem with sending her as a little footballer, she would look so cute!

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TwigletLola · 24/07/2015 17:53

Samuel L Jackson used to be one too, it was a question on Pointless.

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ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 24/07/2015 18:13

Just send her as a footballer. My DS has been to two parties as princesses. No one batted an eyelid (though if they did they'd have ex-military dh to deal with and would no doubt get a lecture on why it's perfectly find for a preschooler - or anyone else - to love pink)

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woodleydoodle · 24/07/2015 18:19

Send her as a footballer - without pom poms.

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slkk · 24/07/2015 18:24

Send her as a footballer. Or don't send her. She doesn't have to go to every party she's invited to, and at her age I'm sure she won't even notice.

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ToadsJustFellFromTheSky · 24/07/2015 18:27

also the message that boys play sport while girls shake their tushies in appreciation grates on me

Um, cheerleading is a sport.

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