To ask if you ttc again after miscarriage?
ShimmeringCobalt · 22/07/2015 23:12
And would you if you were 36 with 2dc already?
It's probably far too soon to ask this and to think about it for myself as MMC was just yesterday but it's in my mind...
Not sure if I should be "happy with the dc I've got" as people keep saying.
Dr said my age may be a factor but they can't say for sure.
Did you ttc after a mc and what age were you?
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LegoLady95 · 22/07/2015 23:17
Sorry for your loss. We ttc straight after a miscarriage, I was 30. I had my 3rd child aged 37, so would definitely have tried again if I'd had a mc at 36 having decided to try for number 3. I think the fact you have 2 df already means you have every chance of another.
Mumoftwinsandanother · 22/07/2015 23:20
Sorry for your loss. Yes I was 36 when I had my MC. Already had 2 kids and a lot of people said be happy with what you have but if you want a baby, you want a baby. He is just about to turn three and I'm really glad I tried again. 3 is hard work but the interactions between them make it all worth it. Hope whatever you want works out for you. X
leedy · 22/07/2015 23:29
Yes, started trying again a couple of cycles after m/c, got pregnant straight away with DS2. I was 39. I found a thread here for TTC after a loss, it was really helpful and supportive.
Doctors in the hospital I went to said your chance of miscarriage does increase a bit with age, but it's generally just "one of those things" - as a PP said, miscarriage is sadly very common and I know many of my my friends have had them. 36 isn't particularly old, fwiw.
dougieroseagain · 22/07/2015 23:33
I had 3 miscarriages in between DD and DS. There is a 9 year age gap between them and I was 41 when DS was born. A friend had 11 miscarriages between her first two children.
I think the moral of this story is ... if you're emotionally strong enough to keep going, then keep going.
and hugs. A miscarriage is total shit.
Bluewombler2k · 22/07/2015 23:57
Hi, I had two miscarriages, 2nd was 7 months after first. We are now expecting our second child in November, and I will have just turned 39.
Sorry for your loss, if it's truly what you want to do then I would try again. It has been a nervewrecking 5 months and will be until the baby is born but so glad we decided to give it one more go. Give yourself spave to move on from this sad time and see how you feel in a few months. In the meantime, concentrate on getting yourself healthy physically and emotionally
ShadowsCollideCantLogInToMN · 23/07/2015 00:15
So sorry for your loss.
I had 5 MCs in my twenties. I'm 30 now, and tbh, we won't be actively trying again. We've finally managed to somewhat move on from the pain, heartache and despair, we're properly happy again now after a long bleak period, and I just don't know if we could cope with going through that again. I started suffering serious anxiety during that time, and it's still plaguing me. For example, we now have 2 pet cats, and the anxiety I have about something happening to them is unreal. Of course, I'm not comparing cats to babies, but it's like a consuming terror of losing another thing that I've loved and nurtured. I know it's silly and irrational, and so disproportionate, but I can't help it.
As AmyLee said though, it's such a personal thing. And there's every chance that you will go on to have a successful pregnancy. In your situation, I personally would try again.
It's so tough though. I guess all you can do is give yourself some time to heal, physically but more importantly emotionally, and take it from there.
Again, sorry for your loss, and best of luck to you. I really hope everything works out for you.
Benby · 23/07/2015 01:03
Hi sorry to hear of your loss.
I had dd1 and dd2 and we then decided to try for dc3 . I had 3 miscarriages one after another. Had investigations done told just bad luck. Decided to try once more and that one stuck had ds1 last September. Decided to have 1 more unfortunately this pregnancy ended when the heartbeat stopped at 8 weeks. I had a d&c 3 weeks ago have been bleeding since.
Just found out today that I have a blood clot in my c section scar and I can't try again for a year. They're also investigating why my pregnancy test is still positive.
So I am now 38 and today has decided for me that I am done trying and I'm happy with what I have. I want to be here to see my children grow up. This is the first time my health has been at risk through all my pregnancies and miscarriages so enough is enough for me.
I am devastated about this but in time I will accept it and I'm really lucky to have 3 beautiful children and I thank god every day that I decided to try that one last time which gave me my happy smiley boy he completes our family.
I wish you all the best only you can decide if your strong enough to try again.
EllenJanethickerknickers · 23/07/2015 01:06
I had 2 DC and a MMC at age 36. I had an ERPC, waited for my next period then used an ovulation test kit and was very lucky to get immediately pregnant with DC3. I was 37 having him. I did find the pregnancy harder, but I had 2 others to look after.
I have never regretted it. Even when DC2 was DXed with ASD, even when exH left. DC3 completed my family and has been a joy. DC1 and DC3 bookend my gorgeous DC2 and are such good company, they hold us all together.
Weareboatsremember · 23/07/2015 07:04
I've put off ttc number 2 after a mmc at 9 weeks in February. I have a dd and am
30, so have decided to leave it for a couple more years as I can't face it happening again just yet. If I was late 30s I might feel differently, but for me it hinges on how desperate I am to have another child, and how willing I am to hear bad news at a scan again.
So sorry for your loss, mc are shit
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