In thinking that there is something just not right about this?

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www.dailyrecord.co.uk/news/uk-world-news/watch-little-girl-cancer-get-6106856?sm_au=iVVZ1HVHj10sNQrG

Now I'm not saying that there is any nasty intent towards the little girl. No grooming. I'm not criticising the nurse involved or questioning his intentions.

But - I think the message that this is sending is wrong. Little girls don't get married, and certainly not to adult males in positions of power/authority. Is it just me? I just really don't like it.

I understand that she is very very ill and generally I would say that if she asked for the moon on a plate she should be granted it, but to 'get married' to her favourite nurse? Nope, sorry, it just isn't right.

Does anyone agree or am I over thinking this?

I think it's lovely. The only message it sends out is that a nurse did a lovely thing for a very poorly little girl.

OP I absolutely agree with you.

I agree op and I can't put my finger on why. I think it's just because child abuse, Child brides etc are in the news every other day at the moment that it should seem clearly distasteful for an adult to pretend to marry a child. That said I wonder if the sex abuse scandals are more British than American, so it's less topical there and I also want to reiterate thay this isn't about the nurse or his intentions. I can quire happily believe that he went along with it to make her happy. I also wouldn't begrudge her anything and if she was mine would be pleased to see her happy.

I don't think the hospital setting helps, with saville so fresh in our minds. Again NOT the nurse's fault, just an unfortunate link.

Ds once announced that he was going to Mary tom in his class. Dd told him boys can't marry boys. By the time I'd earnestly finished explaining that they can now but couldn't when mummy was little, and only when they're much older and preferably when tom is out of the nose picking phase ds and dd had decided to marry each other. To which my enlivened response was "no. Just no"

A four year old can't grasp the proper idea of marriage and it's common for them to want to "Marry" siblings, parents etc, it's the life long together bond that attracts them.

When you think about early cultures, they would all have integrating ceremonies, between 4-7 years old and then adult ones.

The little girl (possibly dying) has focused on this, so they've made it happen.

I'm more outraged by the other story (on the same page) of the 4 year old, denied s place on Ronald McDonald house, whilst she undergoes Chemo for a Brain Tumor, because her Father has a conviction. She has a life limiting illness, without Chemo and is very unwell.

I think it would be really hard to tell a four year old with terminal cancer, who doesn't look like they have much time left, that they are too young to do anything - it isn't a case of waiting, from the information released, because she isn't expected to live long enough to be even close to legal age.

So, rather than tell her to wait for something that isn't happening, she's had her dream fulfilled. And for some four-year-old girls, wearing a beautiful dress and marrying a Prince is a dream come true. It's a fairytale, and she gets to forget that she's ill for a while and have her favourite nurse as a husband. She shouldn't even have a favourite nurse.

If you apply adult logic to it, it's wrong on all kinds of levels - the wedding night, the fact that she's so ill, child brides, the fact that maybe her dream could have been something big and amazing rather than a wedding. But it's her life, and her dreams, and it made her happy. And she's four years old, and she's dying. It's worth the few moments of discomfort that you get when you think that no four year olds should die, or even spend enough time in hospital to have a favourite nurse, or that she's too small and young to be in a wedding dress.

Yes I think that's it repeat. Her pleasure overrules adult discomfort