In thinking that there is something just not right about this?

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www.dailyrecord.co.uk/news/uk-world-news/watch-little-girl-cancer-get-6106856?sm_au=iVVZ1HVHj10sNQrG

Now I'm not saying that there is any nasty intent towards the little girl. No grooming. I'm not criticising the nurse involved or questioning his intentions.

But - I think the message that this is sending is wrong. Little girls don't get married, and certainly not to adult males in positions of power/authority. Is it just me? I just really don't like it.

I understand that she is very very ill and generally I would say that if she asked for the moon on a plate she should be granted it, but to 'get married' to her favourite nurse? Nope, sorry, it just isn't right.

Does anyone agree or am I over thinking this?

(And I'm not one of the professionally offended, btw, but this just got me somehow)

Is this a cultural thing? It happened in the US, and I am American, so maybe I don't really comprehend the discomfort.

Little girls don't be doctors or police officers or mummies or chickens but they can play make believe.

I presume you don't have children?

If she'd said she wanted to be a mummy and they bought her a doll baby and accoutrements would you still be uncomfortable?

I may have dealt with it by saying "nurse X already has a pretty wife, and anyway, little girls don't get married, but why don't we make nurse X a lovely card to show him how much you like him and thank him for taking such good care of you, and we can have a fun teddy bears picnic with him, with balloons and streamers"

So going along with your logic why does his wife need to be pretty? Surely little children should know that no everyone marries someone 'pretty'? You would honestly take away the fun for a child who is seriously ill (perhaps terminal) and say 'lets have a teddy bears picnic' like every other child who isn't in immense pain gets? Nah, not for me. People are so quick to jump to judgment because they are 'uncomfortable' about something, instead of actually understanding the reasoning behind it. Balloons and streamers aren't enough for a child who is very ill, in pain and who wants to have a play wedding.

You presume wrong - I have four, ranging in age from 2-11.

And children don't go into gp practices to consult patients, arrest criminals or lay eggs. They pretend to, and if they asked to actually do any of the above they would be told in an age appropriate way that they couldn't.

Did you see Batkid? He got the chance to be a superhero even though he couldn't grow up to be one.

No, twinkle I wouldn't, but if they gave her a newborn to play with, I'd certainly raise an eyebrow.

Y'know, he pretended.

She didn't actually get married!

Maybe your children never blurred the lines of pretend and real but lots do and the adults play along, and it is perfectly fine and normal.

No, twinkle I wouldn't, but if they gave her a newborn to play with, I'd certainly raise an eyebrow.

They didn't give her a real husband. She's not married.

Exactly. It's pretend. She would have a doll. In the same way it's pretend and it was a fake wedding. She was happy, why does this bother you?

I'd marry the guy though, he's cute.

There are some joyless fuckers on this thread. If your four year old was dying and in pain surely you would bring her the moon on a stick if she asked for it? Some things just don't need to be analysed to death.

Look I can see I'm in the minority here, and can accept that to most people I'm wrong. I've already said that I'm not 100% sure why it bothers me, I just know that it does. It makes me uncomfortable.

Unlikely, I know, given the tone of the thread, but I'd really like one of the other (2?) posters who said they disliked it to tell me why.

And, once more, just for clarity, I have no intention of shredding a 4yo cancer patient's dreams.

Glastokitty Yes. That.

I'm half expecting someone to pop up with the 'gender stereotypes' crap.

I'm sorry are you in the minority? I'm confused given you saying that there are only three people disagreeing with you. I am posting not to be an annoying bitch but because I really do feel that this is one thing that should not be over analysed and ripped to shreds.

Where did I say three people disagreed with me, I think I can count at least eight? I think it's obvious that I'm in the minority.

Apologies I read it wrong.

Ah, no worries.

And I'm not being a bitch either (or a 'joyless fucker'), the situation just genuinely concerned me when I read it, and nothing anyone has said has yet changed that feeling. It's frustrating not knowing exactly why, I was hoping someone could help clarify my feelings for me, but the only people who have stayed on the thread are people who disagree with me.

(Being in Australia, I mostly unwittingly post when 80% of mners are fast asleep, which gives me a horrible tumbleweed feeling a lot of the time )

I clicked through to your link OP. I scanned the comments underneath.
There were people, like yourself, who also found it inappropriate.
Someone summed up the comments thus: that's adorable! arrest him immediately!

The comment that made most sense for this aversion imo was:

the irony is every day there are child brides that are being married off to men more than three times their age against their will

I do read a fair amount, I knew of the child brides of yemeni as young as 8, and the child brides in India. I still think this is a harmless video but in fairness, I can understand why some might feel differently given the sorry state of the world. It's just a shame.

twinkle the OP said only two people agreed with her, that might change tomorrow....

Thank you Rita - I wonder if that's it, the child bride thing? Hmm, I need to give it some thought.

And I'm genuinely sorry if I come across as sullying a nice act, that's not my intention.

I think what you're getting at is that the child thought it was real and therefore an 'okay' thing for a child and man to be married? I could be wrong but that's what I'm getting from your posts.

As I said Rita I read it wrong.

I get what you mean about the state of the world and why that might make people feel uneasy about this video but equally that argument can be used from the otherside: that things that happen around the world have made us unable to appreciate the loveliness in what these nurses did. We are all now too guarded and cynical.