Telephone Manners

[MissClaudette]

My ExP drives me utterly bonkers with this, and others have started doing this now, and I can't figure out if it's me or if it's their issue!

-phone ringing-
ExP: Hello?
Me: Hiya! You alright?
ExP: Yes....
Me: ...
ExP: ...
Me: Hows things?
ExP: ... Good ... What d'you want?
Me: ???

I don't understand the attitude! It happens about three times a week, but I tend to call him every day because I'm the NRP. He knows I'm calling, he's a very good friend with whom I'm on excellent terms, yet out of five calls I'll give him in a week he'll respond like I'm the worlds biggest inconvenience, and the other two times he'll be normal again...!

Does anyone else have this or do this? It bothers me that someone is so rude over the phone, and I know I'm BU with it bugging me to such a level, but it's such a pet hate!

He's your ExP for a reason. If the access arrangement is you have daily phone contact with DS then you ring and ask to speak to DS, if Ex has any information he will give it to you. He isn't being rude.

How often do you have physical access to your child?

He sounds irritated, I don't blame him.
I hate talking on the phone , especially when the call doesn't appear to have a purpose.

I've asked him whats wrong, and even tried to make a joke out of it, but he just has a screaming go at me...

But you still think you're good friends? If I had a friend who made it clear that they didn't want to speak to me as often as I called and screamed at me when I complained, I would assume that they were less invested in the friendship than I was. Does he ever call you?