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11 year old girls having their eyebrows done?

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TheHouseOnBellSt · 18/07/2015 08:56

By "done" I mean waxed....my sister has just had her 11 year old's brows done at a local salon because "she's going to high school isn't she....she can't have messy eyebrows."

Is that usual?

We're about to move abroad and my DD who would, if we were staying in the UK be going to secondary school would look at me like Hmm if I suggested she have her eyebrows waxed!

My niece didn't have big, bushy eyebrows or anything...they were normal!

Is this a thing people do now? I'm genuinely interested as none of the girls in my DDs school have done eyebrows at this age. The girls attended different primary schools and my DDs was a very rural one.

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SeenSheen · 18/07/2015 23:50

Yes too young definitely unless they were causing her distress.

BombaySapper · 18/07/2015 23:55

YANBU.

CocktailQueen · 18/07/2015 23:58

Over my dead body.

Dd, 11, shoves under her arm. Her legs are fine - fine blonde hairs - and her eyebrows are fine.

Unless you have a dd who is very hairy and dark with a mono brow, then Leave well alone! God. They're still children.

CocktailQueen · 18/07/2015 23:58

Shoves = shaves!

julesldn · 19/07/2015 00:42

Whattodowith - no, I don't think it's excessive although would probably start with waxing first and see how that goes. In the end they're hardly going to turn round when they're older and go 'wow, I wish I was allowed to keep my mustache a little longer!'

If you're going for permanent removal though, electrolysis is your best option, especially for such a small area. Laser is still technically semi permanent although some people are lucky and it stays away for a very long time/forever.

Weebirdie · 19/07/2015 05:45

My just 10 year old granddaughter has her upper lip threaded and her legs waxed, and I think her eyebrows will be getting done very soon due to her cultural background and the fact it means she does have a problem with a certain amount of excess body hair.

As soon as she's old enough, I think she will have to be about 18, she'll have laser treatment on the appropriate areas and that will take care of most of it for good.

My daughter does the waxing for her but her upper lip is threaded at the salon.

Apart from that my granddaughter really isn't in to anything else appearance wise and is very happy being a horse mad 10 year old. Or 10 years fabulous as we say to her.

madwomanbackintheattic · 19/07/2015 06:35

I am staring aghast at my almost 12yo. Nope. I can't imagine a point at which I would suggest it was s requirement for secondary school to get her eyebrows done. Her 15yo sister has thus far managed to survive the wilds of peer pressure without, and indeed only bothers with her legs and armpits during competition season (dancer). She's no blonde wisp, she just mostly can't be arsed. Like her mother.

sleepywombat · 19/07/2015 06:51

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bottleofbeer · 19/07/2015 09:22

It makes me more sad that young girls were thought of as tarts tbh.

Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 19/07/2015 09:28

Removing a few stray hairs either as a necessity to avoid bullies or thought wanting to try it does not make you a tart, dating half the boys at school does that. (Allowing your child to bully another is another thread)

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BirdOnAWire8228 · 19/07/2015 09:31

I took my Dd to a saloon quite recently to have her eyebrows waxed. She had lots of teasing in primary about her bushy eyebrows. I plucked them originally. I said if and when she wanted them professionally done I would take her. She's now 12. I don't regret taking her.

bottleofbeer · 19/07/2015 09:38

HD brows can be absolutely fine. HD doesn't always mean huge painted on brows Grin

ArmfulOfRoses · 19/07/2015 09:39

Nice, sally Shock

WhattodowithMum · 19/07/2015 09:43

I think whether it's "tarty" or not depends how you do it. It also depends how much hair the child has and how dark and noticeable it is.

My own DD is fair. She is moving up to yr7. I don't think she needs to shave or pluck anything and neither does she (after this thread, I asked gently.). But she is fair, and isn't showing signs if puberty yet. Going into puberty sooner, or being darker toned is hardly a moral failing. Why should they suffer?

Mrsjayy · 19/07/2015 09:44

Some of them are like 3d not hd brows they are interesting

merlehaggard · 19/07/2015 09:48

Same as BirdonaWire.

DoesItReallyMatter · 19/07/2015 09:50

Oh, is this the matching thread to the leg shaving thread? I guess the hairy lip waxing thread will be coming soon.

I can't remember when my DDs first did their eyebrows but I think it was 11 or 12. I plucked the middle bit of their mono brows.

I also did the same for one of my sons and his monobrow.

None of them had or have manicured, perfectly shaped eyebrows they just had eyebrows that weren't overly hairy and that came in two bits rather than one long monobrow.

My DDs and my DS all still attend to their brows now they are adults.

It's not a big deal and it's no ones business other than theirs. It's got nothing to do with anything other than not wanting a great big hairy caterpillar crawling across your forehead.

thecatsarecrazy · 19/07/2015 09:52

If she had bushy eye brows then yes fine but as you said they were fine then it sounds a bit ott. I had an uni brow when I was at school and very hairy legs and I wish my mum had helped me with "grooming" but I was left to it and spent my school years looking ridiculous

DoesItReallyMatter · 19/07/2015 09:56

This is about what my DDs eyebrows looked like. I think it's great that Loudes was happy with hers when she was younger but I think it's also understandable that my DDs were not.

11 year old girls having their eyebrows done?
XiCi · 19/07/2015 09:59

Agree with cocktailqueen. There are very few 11 year olds that need their brows doing. Once you have them done, that's it, you have to maintain them every few days as the hairs grow back quicker and thicker. I couldn't have been arsed with that from the age of 11 so I'm glad this wasn't on our radar at that age.
Also waxing can have a disastrous long term effect on that delicate part of the eye over time. Anyone getting waxed regularly from age 11 is likely to age horribly. If my dd really needed it then threading would be the only thing I'd allow.
I have friends who overplucked in the past that basically have no eyebrows left now. Mine are Ok but have to get them regularly threaded to keep their shape. I look at Cara and wish I hadn't touched them ever.

DoesItReallyMatter · 19/07/2015 10:06

Even though my DDs (and my DS) were very dark and hairy I didn't have to keep plucking their eyebrows every few days. I did it once in a while. They still had very natural eyebrows - I just got rid of the excess.

Both my DDs had dark hairs on the bridge of their noses.

CaptainHolt · 19/07/2015 10:10

Once you have them done, that's it, you have to maintain them every few days as the hairs grow back quicker and thicker

No they don't, and no, you don't. How can they grow back 'quicker'? Quicker than what?

I have friends who overplucked in the past that basically have no eyebrows left now

So not growing back thicker and quicker then? One of the easiest ways of not over plucking is not doing it yourself and having to take off much more than you intended to even them up.

XiCi · 19/07/2015 10:27

Of course you have to maintain them captain , you don't just get your eyebrows shaped and then have perfect eyebrows for ever. The hairs grow back quickly, and not neatly and its a pita to have to do them all the time, not something that I'd want to be doing from basically childhood. And yes they grow back thicker and quicker, there are lots of studies to support this , look up quorum sensing.
The hair loss from over plucking is from when you damage the follicle too much for it to grow back, so a different situation and less common but it can happen

bottleofbeer · 19/07/2015 11:19

Hmmm. A five minute wax every four weeks keeps mine just fine. It's hardly a full time job.

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