11 year old girls having their eyebrows done?

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By "done" I mean waxed....my sister has just had her 11 year old's brows done at a local salon because "she's going to high school isn't she....she can't have messy eyebrows."

Is that usual?

We're about to move abroad and my DD who would, if we were staying in the UK be going to secondary school would look at me like if I suggested she have her eyebrows waxed!

My niece didn't have big, bushy eyebrows or anything...they were normal!

Is this a thing people do now? I'm genuinely interested as none of the girls in my DDs school have done eyebrows at this age. The girls attended different primary schools and my DDs was a very rural one.

DD has just had hers done, no peer pressure, no confidence issues, no different to wanting . top or seeing y band.

It obviously depends on how much the hair shows and how a child feels about it. A girl who is already physically maturing and has dark hair may feel self conscious and surely making her keep a mono-brow or dark wiry hair on her legs is a little cruel. If she is rocking a Frida Kahlo look with insouciance, then fine, but she shouldn't be forced to.

A lot of girls of North European descent won't have much noticeable body hair and their eyebrows won't be very heavy at 11 years old. But Britain is becoming more multicultural/multiracial and girls from other backgrounds may be facing a different physical reality. Once they start shaving/waxing their blonder peers may want to follow suit because it looks grown up and cool, but it's probably not that big of deal when I think about it. (I would be appalled at full body waxing though, I must admit.)

MrsJayy me too, I was 12 in 1986 and cut my legs to ribbons with my dad's razors. I also went to school with a girl who wore tights all year round to school and jeans all summer because she was embarrassed about her legs. I've 3 daughters (the oldest is 10), no way are they going to be embarrassed about the likes of their arms, legs, eyebrows or facial hair. It's very easy to apply the sensibilities of adults with regard to the likes of body hair, of course it shouldn't matter, but in the real world it does and I'm not going to make my child fight battles that I as a 41 year old don't.

Exactly wiggle I think trying to tune into a girls feelings is important if she wants to shave have her eyebrows done fine if she doesnt then thats fine too insisting it doesnt matter to a girl can be damaging when it clearly matters to her.

I wish my mum had been more interested in my grooming as I was teased horribly about something that is very easily sorted (moustache).

I only have boys but all you with daughters who say you will help when asked, I love you all for it.

I think it is normal. I was around 11/12 when my mum plucked my eyebrows for me, I was thrilled. They weren't bushy at all but untidy. It didn't matter to me that others may have thought they were OK, to me they were messy and looked so much better omce my mum had done them. She taught me how to do it properly as well, I remember some girls at school plucking nearly every eyebrow hair out and having to draw theirs on - not a good look! I must admit once or twice I did go OTT with plucking myself.

So maybe to you her eyebrows are fine, but kids want to fit in and look nice so it is how she feels that is important. At that age they do not want to stand out too much for any reason. I think waxing brows, shaving legs etc is fine at that age.

It won't be happening at that age in my house. My girls have perfectly lovely eyebrows, they're not particularly thick or bushy. They don't need 'tidying'.

both my dd1 and 2 (10,12) get there eye brows shaped and plucked regularly, they asked and I agreed, both shave their legs after asking and me showing how to do it safely, not a big deal imo.

Aren't your girls lucky then! my dd has very dark eyebrows that met over the bridge of her nose and she was unhappy with them so she got them waxed.

I plucked my eyebrows to death when I was younger and for many years after it has taken almost a year to get them looking normal again. I would rather avoid my dd doing the same!

Imlooking what about if they ask you?
Even after reading what all the pp say about how they felt that they were ignored and being silly?

I have very dark body hair. I had a monobrow and a moustache as s teenager and was bullied for it. My mother has non existent body hair so she had no idea how I struggled as a teen. I over plucked my own brows and bleached and veered my top lip. I will never let a child face the same kind of humiliation I did.

My mum was on at me from when I was about 11 to pluck my eyebrows. I inherited my brows from her - flat, fine, fair and very low growing - and she had plucked hers from young ish (but not that young!). She seemed quite fixated on it, despite never wanting me to shave my legs, and protesting against that quite vociferously. Eventually, after a few years of her 'mentioning it' I plucked them, too much and from the wrong places. I wrecked them, and now have to pencil them in daily. Would rather have had them done professionally I think.

Imlookingatboats - lets hope your girls agree, when at 11/12 and going through puberty changes, and don;t take matters into their own hands if they are not happy with your decision.

I remember my BFF shaving about 3/4 of one eyebrow clear away at about that age. I didn't dare do anything about my monobrow because it would be 'silly'. Other things that were 'silly' included bras, make-up, seeing friends after school (aka hanging around), deodorant, TV programmes, tampons, fashionable clothes...basically anything that was moving towards growing up.

We were never told we were silly, it was a series of meant to be overheard comments about how silly other girls were, and how 'attention seeking'. Attention seeking was a very bad thing. It's still going on, but now the 'silly' girls are buying cars when they already have a 8 year old ford focus, or going on holiday when they could drive to the coast for the day. It's exhausting.

I overdid the tweezers on my eyebrows as a teenager/20s and they have never recovered.

When my DD was nearly 12yo I went round several places to see if they would treat an 11yo and what they recommended - wax or thread (none of them used tweezers it seems).

She's gone every 3-4 weeks since (she decides when)

She uses an electric shaver or cream (I wouldn't let her wet shave for safety).
I bought her Jolen bleach for her upper lip (before anyone else told her she had a slight 'tasche)

So, an 11yo having their brows done if they want to- fine.

I took my thirteen year old dd to a salon to get her eyebrows threaded.
It took less than 10 minutes and has made her VERY happy.

My daughter is 11 and has lovely neat eyebrows, so no need yet. My son is 14 and I plucked his mono brow last week after he let me give him a facial! He suffers with really bad black heads, so I manage to convince him once a month to do a proper cleanse, mask, treatment routine. I wish my mum had helped me.

I wish I knew about waxing at that age. I am of Mediterranean descent, and had horrid thick caterpillars and a unibrow. Though I wasent bullied if anything for it, I was very self conscious of them.

My ds 3 has the same unibrow as me, and his eyebrows are quite thick. I am tempted to rake him in with me, when I have my brows done and dh too

While yes, I think it is too young, my own mother never saw any need to help me "pander" to peer pressure in things like this and I was MISERABLE and bullied continually throughout school. I hope that as my two girls get older I will be able to help them successfully tread that fine line between being on trend and just slavishly copying what everyone else does, and not just cop out by telling them to be an "individual" whatever the fuck that means.

Sorry. That was a bit off-topic. I have FEELINGS about this sort of thing.

I think it's okay to let a young girl have a certain degree of autonomy over her own eyebrows, and if her mother has the wit to notice that she risks being picked on because they're too whatever, and to do something about it, that's actually great. HOWEVER, Cara Delevingne.

My dd is that age and she has very thick eyebrows that are a good shape naturally but she's beginning to notice they need tidying up. When she asks I'll take her to get them done properly rather than have her hack at them!

I already let her shave her legs because she's pale skinned with dark hair and very self conscious of it.

There was a young girl in my DD's class with pale skin and very dark hair who was getting picked on for having a 'tache. I'm quite sure her mum has taken her to get it done and her eyebrows as well. She's 7, and you know what, I really respect her mum for doing that for her because it must have been hard for her to get her 7yo daughters 'tache waxed, but not as hard as it was for her little girl to be picked on. It was a particular set of girls doing the picking on, btw. They've split them up for next year.

It depends. I know a little girl who has massive, massive eyebrows. If she was my daughter and wanted them dealt with I'd take her. It's hardly invasive surgery or something.

If either of my DDs develops noticeable hair on her upper lip, I would consider getting it lasered off. It seems nice to permanently solve the problem for them so they don't have the bother of maintenance.

Does this seem ott?