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11 year old girls having their eyebrows done?

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TheHouseOnBellSt · 18/07/2015 08:56

By "done" I mean waxed....my sister has just had her 11 year old's brows done at a local salon because "she's going to high school isn't she....she can't have messy eyebrows."

Is that usual?

We're about to move abroad and my DD who would, if we were staying in the UK be going to secondary school would look at me like if I suggested she have her eyebrows waxed!

My niece didn't have big, bushy eyebrows or anything...they were normal!

Is this a thing people do now? I'm genuinely interested as none of the girls in my DDs school have done eyebrows at this age. The girls attended different primary schools and my DDs was a very rural one.

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PtolemysNeedle · 18/07/2015 09:30

I showed my son how to pluck his at age 12, he had a monobrow and it needed to be done. He does it himself now, and he's very good at it.

shebird · 18/07/2015 09:32

The OP said her nieces eyebrows were perfectly fine.
I can understand if someone has bushy eyebrows and they are embarrassed by this, no one wants their child to be picked on or hacking themselves with a razors.

countryandchickens · 18/07/2015 09:33

I think a lot of people who don't understand it have quite downy fine hair. Trust me, it's different when you're dealing with coarse, thick, black body hair and its all over you and you're supposed to love it. I DON'T!

TheOriginalWinkly · 18/07/2015 09:33

My mum took me to have mine done aged 11, that was 1992. But then I have PCOS and half my forehead was eyebrow.

julesldn · 18/07/2015 09:53

If DD is worried about it or has a valid reason for wanting them done then I think that's fine - neat brows are very different to lots of make up and fake tan for example. I wouldn't impose it on them though (unless you were validly worried about bullying because of a monobrow or something).

As a beauty therapist, I really wish more parents would educate their young girls (and boys!) about proper hair removal. If someone had told me to wax everything at a young age I'd probably not have any hair left, rather than years of shaving daily making hair course and dark and causing ingrown hairs.

No judgment to people that are more than happy with underarm/leg/bikini hair and messy brows, but it's not to most people's taste however old they are and needs sorting properly - waxing or IPL!

GaryBaldy · 18/07/2015 09:59

I take 11yo DD to the walk in brow bar.

This was after she took the razor to her eyebrows as she was so unhappy with them. I'd rather pay for her to get waxed than have her cut her face open.

Mrsjayy · 18/07/2015 10:08

Dd has really bushy eyebrows she hated them so she got them waxed at 10 she asked no amount of convincing she didnt need them done stopped her hating them and she was teased at school relentlessly about them If she hadnt asked me i wouldnt have offered and i didnt want her cutting them like her sister did and cut chunks out of them.

dementedpixie · 18/07/2015 10:08

dd is 11 and has had hers waxed twice as they are really dark and meet in the middle and she was self conscious about them. she has also shaved her legs and pits

Mrsjayy · 18/07/2015 10:15

A girls body hair is hers to deal with imo and as mothers I think its up to us to help them to get rid of it if they want 11 isnt 5 an 11yr old is starting o notice her appearance if she is wanting her eyebrows waxed then i dont see the issue dd barely shaves her legs but likes shaped eyebrows its not a huge deal

Justyouwaitandsee · 18/07/2015 10:16

My mum did my eyebrows properly at 10/11. She taught me how to pluck the hairs in the middle but to keep the start of the brow in line with my nose of each side, as well as to only lightly pluck underneath. This stopped me joining in some of the extreme trends of shaving them all off and drawing them back on.

WhattodowithMum · 18/07/2015 10:20

I haven't noticed any girls with groomed brows at the 10/11 year old age. And I live in West Essex! But maybe it's being so well done that I don't notice. My own DD isn't worried, yet.

Fluffycloudland77 · 18/07/2015 10:22

I started at 11. After being horribly teased about my brows.

hairypaws · 18/07/2015 10:32

My DD is 12 and has just started getting them waxed as her "friends" we're slagging her off. They are now envious of her neat brows - serves them right.

PrimalLass · 18/07/2015 10:33

Dunno. I think my teenage years would have been less angsty if I hadn't had such awful hair. Straighteners would have saved me from years of paranoia.

Mrsjayy · 18/07/2015 10:34

Dds brows dont look overly done I dont think she just likes them neater and not as bushy

Jakadaal · 18/07/2015 10:38

DD (13) has a mono town and very strong dark facial and body hair. She took it upon herself to shave her legs and armpits last year. Her choice or mine. I have booked her into our nearest Benefit Brow bar with me and may try to see if she can bear to have s little bit of plucking on her mono brow. If she doesn't want it then no pressure.
My mum never did anything like this with me and really wish she had.

whois · 18/07/2015 10:40

Much better to teach your daughter how to do them properly or get them done at a salon where they just tidy rather than pluck half to death as teenagers will do if left to do it on their own.

Eyebrows are such a minor thing that if mum is going anyway I don't see it too bad if her dauhters get done at the same time n

Hulababy · 18/07/2015 10:41

Dd has had her eye brows threaded for past year or so, so since being 12 and in y7. Her choice entirely. I saw no reason to not permit it.

Likewise she has shaved her legs and under her arms for a long while now.

If it's their choice, what's the problem?

MrsBigginsPieShop · 18/07/2015 10:41

No it's not normal. When I was younger we didn't have young girls with perfectly manicured nails and eyebrows, hair that was straightened and highlighted etc etc. we all looked a bloody mess, it was the eighties!!! Thank god quite honestly.
I don't think this is necessarily a good thing! Good grooming was less accessible to pre-teens then, that's all. That doesn't make doing it now a 'bad thing'.
I wish my DM had explained the different types of hair removal available to me when I was 11. If I ever have a DD I would rather take her for a leg wax or eyebrow thread then let her shave. Not to show her it's how she 'should' look, but to show her the best way of doing something she has chosen to do.

Hulababy · 18/07/2015 10:44

Oh and dd doesn't do it to feel perfect. Her bunch of friends are really not like that. But she felt her eye brows were quite heavy and she wasn't keen. She knew I had mine threaded and asked if she could.
She doesn't get them done all the time but will do every 2-3 months maximum. And she doesn't pluck them in between times. It's just when she feels she wants them tidying.

Likewise with her legs - sometimes she lets them grow, other times not.

Twinklestar2 · 18/07/2015 10:48

I was having a pedicure the other day and a mum came in with her daughter and the daughter was having a full body wax! Arms, legs, eyebrows and upper lip. I thought she looked awfully young. She had a child's body and a Minnie Mouse hoody one.

DoJo · 18/07/2015 10:49

The OP said her nieces eyebrows were perfectly fine.

But that doesn't mean her niece was happy with them. Starting secondary is a big thing for most kids, and doing so when you are massively self-conscious about something (no matter how many adults tell you it's not a problem) just make it more difficult in my experience.

Mrsjayy · 18/07/2015 10:49

I remember hacking my legs with my dads razor at 13 i didnt need to shave apparently i was to young no i wasnt it was my nana who bought me razors to do my legs at her house . Id much rather girls had the option of hair removal or waxing of eyebrows than doing it in secret and either hurting them selves or having insecurities that they cant share so are miserable

Mrsjayy · 18/07/2015 10:51

I was hacking at my legs with my dads used razors at 12 the 80s were not a nice simpler time imo

Mrsjayy · 18/07/2015 10:52

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