To think MN is getting nastier?

[MaggieJoyBlunt]

So far this week we've had giving birth referred to as 'calving' (in the context of women having children while young). Someone loved that one so much they immediately commented on what a great expression it was and repeated it.

We've had someone propose that Prince Phillip should be 'humanely destroyed'. swiftly followed up by a similar suggestion about taking him out to a barn or a shed or some such and shooting him.

We've had a thread about the death of a convicted murdered where several posters queued up to tell us they were, smiling or "laughing gleefully" or simply to post "lol" as a one word comment. (Okay she was a vicious killer and will not be much missed, but really?)

Add to all of that the Budget threads where in the midst of people worrying and calculating the cut to their household budget, other people came to gloat and make helpful observations such as "If you can't afford DC, don't have them."

MN didn't used to be nasty. Vigorous, challenging etc; But not nasty.

What's going on around here?

Hex - cross posted with you, but exactly.

Yh, there are also a lot of people who can recognise a poster's style through any number of namechanges. I can't - I really envy this skill! But I know Cod, for instance, hasn't really gone because some of the linguistic geniuses have told me her current posting name. Don't ask me what it is - I'm crap at that, too! Forum forensics are really not my forte

Though I too originally typed "sycophants" but deleted as possibly too harsh.

I think sycophants is exactly the right word! If you agree with someone, tell them on the thread. Don't start up a brand new, special thread saying "ooh I think so and so is brilliant! So funny!" Etc etc

Posts about "the professionally offended SN community" REALLY make me feel unwelcome on MN with my one child who has SN and make me want to leave.

That's possibly the aim of them mind you.

"Othering" people and saying that their life experiences derail a discussion is really awful.

I probably won't leave I'm afraid, I think lots of folk would like it if I did though.

I don't mind the posters who are considered royalty ... Like everywhere in life, some people stand out and can be louder, more popular, funnier etc than others.

Agreed, Bam, and with your other point as well. Mostly it's just irritating when seven pages of posts go "What she said! " but it can also get nasty with bunches of sycophants attacking some poor poster who's inadvertently offended a 'royal'.

As you said, like everywhere in life ...

Eh, Fanjo? I don't want you to leave! And what I say goes! Oh ...

I say what she said often.

To popular and unknown posters. Because they have said it perfectly.

So if people say that a lot to a poster (Pagwatch springs to mind) it's nothing to do with Royalty nonsense but the fact she posts a lot of sense.

Its like walking into a toddler group really.

You get your hardcore of childminders who know everyone and want to know everyone's business and remember every detail

You get the 'pop in when I remember' group who recognise familiar faces but don't make enough noise to be recognised themselves

Then the majority, normal folk having a quiet natter with people they know but happily include anyone who cares to join them

What you don't want to be is the fool who bowls in making a scene and shouting the odds whilst letting your kids run riot. No one likes that one.

I think that there is a handful of long standing, prolific posters. It's natural that they have built up relationships over the years.

When they are on one thread together the bonds are clear to see but if anyone else joins in they are welcomed. I suspect they are the ones who are snidely referred to as royalty.

I've been here years and years with the same name. I fly under the radar so know lots of people on here but they won't know me. I've honestly not seen the gang mentality/fan club posting people talk about.

It does get trotted out at least every couple of months though, so it's obviously felt to be true by some!

Fanjo you have every right to stand your ground and your posts and those of others have helped to raise my awareness of the reality of the barriers people with SN and their carers face.

Also because I pay them.

I've been here years and its always been as nasty as can be - especially AIBU.

People with nothing else to do post all the time (I did it myself when I was ill, got really 'involved'). They build themselves 'personalities' on MN and have followers. Its playground stuff.

Ii don't trust most of the stuff on MN now. So much is made up.

I just call by to try to limit the damage caused by parents giving their DC really silly names...

Yes, Pagwatch obviously springs to mind but although she posts a lot of sense, I think it's very much to do with royalty nonsense and folk hanging on to the tails of an obviously popular poster.

Yes DoeEyedNear

What sooty said.

Pag - Well it's a good job your minted then!

I agree Bambambini

I think human nature is though that you see three people making similar points with which you agree, you are more likely to name heck the more familiar name.

I am of course not responsible for other posters. And I haven't created a personality - it's just me.

FanjoForTheMammaries so agree, its like how dare you post about your kid with sn, yet they are still our kid.

I want to say Yes DoeEyedNear too but I daren't in case I look as though I'm up Pag's arse.

X-posted

Ah go on thornrose be a devil agree with her

"I am of course not responsible for other posters. And I haven't created a personality - it's just me."

Well, of course - and I don't have a problem with popular posters who are respected here. They are not responsible for other posters.

I do get massively fucked off with the snotty 'nothing better to do with their lives but get over invested on here'

The irony of people saying that when they are also here posting and clearly feel themselves to be experts on other poster which indicates a certain level of commitment too, is irritating.

But also, what are they doing with their spare time - are they working shifts at the Samaritans or in the loft working on a cure for cancer. Or perhaps watching Eastenders or keeping up with the Khardasians ?

Some people have lives that keep them at home. Some people are isolated or lonely or multi task and jump on here for the laughs. What is so sneer worthy about that?

That wasn't to you Bambambini .