AIBU?
To friend request dd's nursery teacher on Facebook?
turtlepig · 15/07/2015 21:30
Dd finished nursery yesterday - starts reception in September. She had a very lovely nursery teacher who really invested a lot of time and patience in Dd and helped her to overcome anxiety and lack of confidence.
Dd's nursery teacher has a distinctive surname - I have searched and found her on Facebook. I have a really lovely picture of her with my Dd and wanted to friend request her and send pic. Dh says that would be a bit weird and an invasion of her privacy - is he right?
We will continue to see her as Dd will be continuing at the school the nursery is attached to and dd2 will be attending the nursery the year after next if this makes any difference.
TeenAndTween · 15/07/2015 21:33
I don't think you should.
It blurs boundaries between school and home.
We recently had it mentioned in a school newsletter not to be offended if requests were rejected.
Print out the picture and drop it in with a short note saying how much you appreciate all she has done.
TheDowagerCuntess · 15/07/2015 21:34
I wouldn't, personally, as I think many people (and especially teachers/educators) prefer to keep social media just for friends. In fact, most professionals prefer to keep people they only know in a professional capacity off Facebook.
DH is not a big user, but he doesn't even have work colleagues (who he happily socialises with) on FB.
You could still send her the photo with a nice message without friend-requesting her.
turtlepig · 15/07/2015 21:40
OK unanimous for the "no" vote then! Thank you. I may print it off and give it to her when dd starts in reception. I think I'm just so grateful for the way she has supported dd this year and in addition to that I think she is a lovely lady and will miss chatting with her every now and again! I did write her a lovely card expressing my gratitude for all she has done for dd so possibly a Facebook friend request and pic would be crossing the line into nursery teacher stalkerdom 
I shall tell Dh the mumsnet jury have sided with him.
littlejohnnydory · 15/07/2015 22:06
We live in a small village where several teachers have children at the school and do socialise with parents. Many parents are facebook friends with the teachers. I waited for dd's teacher to friend request me and not vice versa though. I am also facebook friends with dd's nursery teacher from another area (again, she sent me the friend request, not me her). So clearly some schools are fine with it, others not. I wouldn't friend request the teacher though.
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