To friend request dd's nursery teacher on Facebook?

[turtlepig]

Dd finished nursery yesterday - starts reception in September. She had a very lovely nursery teacher who really invested a lot of time and patience in Dd and helped her to overcome anxiety and lack of confidence.
Dd's nursery teacher has a distinctive surname - I have searched and found her on Facebook. I have a really lovely picture of her with my Dd and wanted to friend request her and send pic. Dh says that would be a bit weird and an invasion of her privacy - is he right?
We will continue to see her as Dd will be continuing at the school the nursery is attached to and dd2 will be attending the nursery the year after next if this makes any difference.

I often get friend requests from parents, and I always decline them. My private life is private and I don't even have work colleagues on my facebook, let alone parents. Even the fact that parents take the time to seek out my profile creeps me out, why do they think the can inflict themselves on my private time?

I have an unusual name and would be easy to find on facebook. I would ignore friend requests from members of the public I had met through my professional role and would think they were being a bit stalkerish,sorry.

However much I might have liked you I would think this was a strange thing to do.

I used to be a primary school TA and was quite often found and friend requested by parents, I'd let them sit unfriended as I worked on the premise that that "refusal often offends". They were nice people and I got on with them but it would have become too personal, once you go from professional to personal there are often lines crossed. I'd end up with messages in my inbox asking questions about how their children were getting on in class, did such and such have an argument with Other such and such, me and some of the mums are going out for a drink, do you want to come with etc, It got a bit much. It was before such stringent privacy settings so it meant they could see some of my pictures etc, it made me on edge. Chances are, she won't be allowed as it is, most schools have rules unless there's a pre-existing personal relationship.

Talking about mixing personal with professional though... I was going on a night out, dressed up to the nines in a local bar, somebody was making cheeky comments about my posterior from behind me, as I turned round with my drink there were a couple of lads with one of my class dads, he recognised me and you've never seen someone go so red and stuttery so fast, he managed to splutter out " oh, sorry miss coco!" Bearing in mind we were about the same age. I nearly died! He never looked me in the eye at pick up time and some of the mums used to tease him rotten about it.

I wouldn't, it's a boundary crossed and could make the teacher uncomfortable. I am a secondary teacher - when students leave they and or their parents will send requests. I never accept as they often know children still at school and just not comfortable with it

Glad you have come to your senses Op and listened to the advice on here.