what is most stressful in your life?

[Fluffybear86]

Hello just curious what would people say is the most stressful area of your life?

I have name changed.

My husband has an awful degeniterive disease that will kill him, his mood swings and aggressive behaviour are so hard to cope with. The future terrifies me.

My son has ASD, and whilst of course I love him and think he's a joy, its not easy.

My mum has cancer, has distanced herself and I miss her.

I have no one else other than one friend who is incapable of thinking of anyone else than herself.

I worry my son will develop the same condition as his dad.

I have severe chronic pain.

I worry if I talk to anyone my coping barrier may fall down and I wont manage ever again.

a hug from me x

N/C'd cause I'm a regular on here but this'd probably out me.

An injury that I sustained through work has grown worse, to the point that it is affecting my work. And no matter how many times I explain that I am incapable of doing certain tasks, I am still assigned them and then my team-mates whine because I'm not "pulling my weight".

I've had to fucking quit. Quit a job I love because otherwise I'll cripple myself by working through the pain. So I'm unemployed...

everything. Serious lack of money, possibly being made redundant, my health isn't great etc. Just everything.

sugar I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish there was some way to help.

Sugar21, I'm so, so sorry. Utterly inadequate, I know.

I've got a lump in my throat reading about the stress some of you have with loss of loved ones, loved ones being terribly ill, and the like.

My chronic ill health. Have a progressive condition that only in the last 2 years has it started to cause me major problems. It just affects everything.

Money! We were finally overdraft free and then the car broke.. But after seeing my dad die slowly from cancer and experiencing what serious stress feels like, I realised that worrying about these things is pointless (in my case). So what if we are in the overdraft again, I'm alive.

My stresses are nothing compared to most here, particularly those worried about their kids....
I'm lucky in many ways but am the only child of a mentally ill elderly mother (dad died when I was a child). Added to which I've got vile in laws who treat their son and his family like dirt - my DH struggles with this. It's tough having zero 'family' support, but onwards and upwards....luckily we are blessed in other ways!

I'mjustahead
Thank you. That was the first time i've ever written it all down and i've never talked about it. I really appreciate your acknolegment (sp) , it may not seem like much but sometimes what may seem small actually means a lot.

huga might it be worth asking a GP for some counselling as space to talk about how all this affects you? It's just you say you have nobody to talk to about it, and there should be people who can help. It sounds frightening and lonely. A hug from me too xx

Currently separating from my husband and it is very stressful, even though it is amicable.

Thank you SallyMcgally. I have a friend who is on the waiting list for nhs counselling here and she was very unwell with panic attacks and severe anxiety before she was offered it. I'm not sure I am unwell enough to be given it on the nhs at the moment and the waiting list is 18months to 2 years! I have looked into paying privately but its too expensive. Thank you for the reply and the hug you're very kind x

My dad recently passed away following a short illness and we are all trying to process our grief in different ways.

My house which looks like a tornado has passed through, I just don't have the mental energy to clear it up atm.

All of it. Even going to bed and waking up is stressful. Even deciding what to put here has made me realise there isn't anything which isn't raging out if control.

Imjusta I went through the same thing with my son- feel free to message me if you want someone to chat to x

My DD and grandson and the situation they find themselves in with baby's Dad. They live together in what I consider an abusive relationship (mental not physical). Her Dad treated me like that for many years and I have obviously taught her that she should accept this treatment. It breaks my heart every day. She knows what I think but 'she loves him'. I try so hard not to be judgey or take sides as I understand what she is feeling and how I felt about things my own DM did to try and make me see what was going on. I have no idea what to do other than be there for her and try to make things easier for them until she realises she can live without him and will be happier without him. Life is so hard sometimes.

My neighbours. They are low life scumbags who have nothing better to do than try to meddle in my life. They nearly succeeded in splitting my family up and regularly make further attempts to make me feel like shit. I just want to move.

Money.
Always, always money and will be to my grave.

My DM died recently in an accident. The pain is still unbearable and fills every waking moment.
I have fantastic support from family and friends, who are all grieving too, but the pain doesn't stop.

Definitely work and trying to balance that with family life. Very insignificant compared to many people on this thread.

So many desperately sad situations on this thread, to you all.
I'm justahead, currently have the same situation with my DD, although she is an adult.
She has lost her job, a lot of her friends and has moved back home so that we can try to help her, I'm walking on eggshells, as she has been suicidal , her medication does not seem to be working and I really don't know what to say to her, or how to help her.
Am frightened.

God.
All of it.
Everything.
Money. We have none.
My health....going through peri menopause
Ds2s health...he is always ill. Dx with vitiligo and abdominal migraine just this year.
My mother....since my father's death it's like dealing with a 70 year old toddler
Wish running away was an option

Very very little compared to most posters!

But FWIW, I'm worrying about my DC's GCSE results. I shouldn't as they worked very hard, but I am.

AF...ah yes.
I'm back to about 3 hours sleep a night if I'm lucky :(

Quite a lot of things but I think that a degree of stress is a great driver for action. DP said about me recently that I devote huge amounts of time researching decisions in order not to be stressed that I made the wrong ones and he's right.

We had two sets of exam results last week - DSS1's second year university and DSS2's bac - and, although I was confident about them and they went as hoped, I did feel a lot more relaxed once they had come through. I think it's normal to be a bit stressed about exams - so much hinges on quite small differences in fairly meaningless results these days.