what is most stressful in your life?

[Fluffybear86]

Hello just curious what would people say is the most stressful area of your life?

my job, awful and minimum wage, more stressful than anything I've known and not worth the effort at all

I refuse to stress about anything nowadays, the old me would be wishing the ground would swallow up. The only thing that remotely stresses me is when Ddog is in season and she's constantly whining for 2 weeks, if it weren't for DS I'd put earplugs in.

Sally that's so sad. Have you had help?

Being a carer. Alzheimer's sucks.

Money. As always. I'm rebuilding my business from absolute scratch and it will be very nice when I start earning a steady income for the first time ever.

My marriage and recently departed husband.
Money and lack thereof.

That work will notice I've barely done anything for a month because I can't concentrate.

I'm finding most of my life stressful at the moment, tbh, just feeling stuck in a rut with lots of issues that it's very difficult to change or make a decision about:

Ageing parents - mum is quite needy emotionally but both of their physical needs are getting greater and I have my own family, job and no siblings to pick up the slack which is beginning to get quite scary

DD - nearly 11. She's a great kid but we have the big secondary school decision to make in the autumn and the choices are tricky. She's hit puberty early so we're already dealing with hormones and it's going OK, but I do worry that the teen years will alter the fantastic relationship that we have at the moment. Also DH is not good with emotions and I woory about the impact that will have on her and on their relationship/

Work - been there nearly 6 years, role has changed constantly, have had three overall managers in that time with different priorities so all the work I've done and training I've had had amounted to sweet FA in the way of career development and I can't see that changing. However, it is a gilded cage as it is ridiculously convenient but I need to earn more and can't spend the next 20+ years feeling unappreciated and disgruntled.

Money - see above, pre-teens are expensive and I'm sick to death of fecking camping holidays in the UK!

Yep, that's the main things !

health. work.

Canyouforgiveher

I've suffered from depression most of my adult life and one of my greatest fears is that my DD will somehow 'inherit' it - it must be tough to see your daughter go through that - I hope she finds some peace from it very soon.

Nasty neighbours.
No money
Powerlessness

Lack of time and my poor organisation is what stresses me out

1. All of it .
2. Single parenthood .
3. My mum died in September.
4. My sister died in April .
5. Sorting out their estate, probate etc.
6. My underresourced job.
7. University applications for ds1.
8. Ds2 sounding like a five foot Jeremy paxman.
9. The house, the garden, the garage, the holes in the ceiling through leaky pipes ,and the lack of a kitchen floor .

10. The housework, ironing, washing etc. 11. All of it.

Money and finances.
Having to continue in a job I hate with a bullying manager to help our money and finances.
Not spending enough time with DDs because of job.
DHs health.

Actually it's like I'm in some fucking nightmare at the moment.

Money. Every single day. I have debts and a job I love but pays incredibly poorly. Like, sub the breadline. And there's not a way out at the moment.

And time. I have taken on too much at the minute and everything else is suffering.

to you knackered

My kids fighting endlessly is grinding me down. I hate how it has become habit, and that make my anger a habit, when I am trying not to be a shouty parent anymore but they seem to make it impossible. I want to shake them and say just live lovingly!!!! But they are too young to listen well enough.

I worry about whether my marriage will last, I love my husband but we swing from so close together to so far apart, it can be terrifying. We talked about this in our wedding ceremony and we try not to forget that marriage is not about things being perfect forever, but deep down I worry that I am shit at being with people and that i am going to die alone and lonely.

knackered
And all of you.
My teenagers' safety. I think they're pretty wise and emotionally safe but I literally lie awake when they're not home.

Thank you ruled. He had a lovely wkend with Kidscape, but we yoko him out of school ANC everyday life is v quiet. We're going to see if he can go back part-time. Thank you for asking x

My job

my daughter had a breakdown in jan this yr and has not been to school lessons since. She is 13. I have had to be her carer, mother, friend, enemy, counsellor. I am pretty much broken myself. As a single parent with little support i wonder what the future holds.

Oh imjustahead that sounds so hard.

Miscarriage at 13 weeks last week, baby had cystic Hygroma and hydrops. DH not fully engaged in what this means and how I feel now.
Emotionally stunted DM means I can't discuss it with her and my DF is currently escaping an abusive relationship.

Oh and I think my DH has literally just walked out of our home. Would feel more stressed if I could make my brain engage but I can't

thankyou, it seems so real written down, which it is but I also can't believe this has happened to us.
Yet i try not to look back at it, and start each day as new iyswim, but for now writing it down i feel very sad. PLus dd is in bed so i have a little time to let it out.

to anyone who is a carer.

It is very sad. Poor girl. I hope things get easier xx
to you too echoes. So sorry to hear about your baby. xx