To think that, by date 3, this is a big red flag?

[Lostin3dspace]

I'm about to go on date 3 with a man I thought was lovely, but he sent me a text yesterday telling me what he thought I'd look lovely in, including length of dress, perfume, underwear, light makeup. Up until this point, I was looking forward to it, but now I'm very skeptical. Am I just overthinking this? It's not like he's asked me to wear anything outlandish.

How odd! What should the shirt be made of? And shirt, not blouse? Or top? How specific was he on the underwear? The mind boggles!
Don't cry about him, you've had a lucky escape.

He was trying to dress you up as someone else.Blatantly. Whether thats a real life person hes trying to make you look like, or some weird fantasy woman, its completely weird and disrespectful for him to even mention it to you. Youve done the right thing by cancelling. I would have. I would have also been probably upset too because its hard to have to deal with weirdos, especially if youve been recently dumped by someone a lot more significant in your life and you really didnt need another shitbag just now when youre trying to heal.

I was about to go on a first date with a guy who texted me to say he loved high heels, the higher the better, and he couldn't wait to meet me and see me in my heels. I cancelled. I would never wear high heels on a first daytime date but felt I couldn't turn up without them. Pressure from a guy I'd never met!

You've done the right thing.

I love the gimp mask and dog collar response!

Yes it's weird

Underwear??

Was he expecting to see it??

Celebrate the fact you recognised a weirdo and have enough self strength to dump him rather than go along with what he wants. You'd be better off being single than in a relationship with a bloke like that.

Wow, lucky escape there. What a weirdo. Nope, not flirty, not funny and definitely totally unaware. And that's just the good points.

This is not about you, this is about him. And he's a nobber.

Cheers everyone, I'm off to mooch round the woods on my bike now. At least I know it's not just me.

Exactly a decent chap, would not have asked such ridiculous things of you. It does give an insight into what his behaviour might be like. Your best off without.

I bet if you tell your MTB friends about this guy they will be and and about his behaviour too. Enjoy your ride and don't waste a minute more on this freakazoid

I suspect he has been watching too many American films where date 3 has a significance that it doesn’t strictly have in the UK. In his mind, by agreeing to date 3 you have agreed to (cough) seal the deal and he was already dressing you up in his favourite stuff. (Sarcasm mode on) I wonder why he’s single?(Sarcasm mode off)

Sounds like he could be a Dom and was testing the waters to see if you are potential Sub material. You were weirded out by his 'order' and cancelled. so now he knows. No big deal.

Spottybotty not my field beyond reading 50SOG but surely that sort of relationship is entered into with the awareness and consent of both parties otherwise it ranges from creepy to abusive?

It's the "light make up" bit that would really rankle. And the precise skirt length.

What kind of instruction did he have for your underwater? I'm so untrigued about exactly what he said.
You had a very lucky escape. Your alternative plans sound great. You sound much better off without him.

Deffo need rubber if you're going underwater.

Ewwww

you did the right thing.
he's a nutjob.

Anybody here seen Vertigo? Maybe this guy thought the OP was involved in a murder plot... (You weren't, were you, OP?)

He was clearly trying to make you look like his mother

I once turned down a date with a man who started with the line: "Can you dress to impress?" I guess he was trying to hint that he would be taking me somewhere really expensive or whatever, but I was so offended by the silly question that I declined.

I've just read your other posts, OP and I think he sounds like a murderer.

Poor you op, this isn't normal. I've had loads of dates who have never done this (but a long list of other wierd things!)
Of course you are "ready" for dating but you need a supporter to check this kind of thing out with while you find your feet with it!
Also reminds me of a nob at work who went on about the "light make up and natural look" his new girlfriend had...us lot were fans of a "strong" make up approach. Poor girl in question was in fact covered in frosted pink everything. Not "natural" at all, just a fan of frosted pale pink everything and sans eyeliner and mascara.