Because everyone loves a wedding thread....

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I went on a hen do a few weeks ago to Spain. The only people who could attend were the bride, mother of bride, mother of groom, myself and one other woman. So not even any of the bridesmaids/sister/best friend etc.

The other woman was miffed (but didn't make this known to the bride) as she received her invite on the hen do which was only to the evening. She thought that seeing as she was one of the few who made an effort to attend the hen do abroad, it was a bit off to invite her only to the evening.

I assume bride wanted to keep numbers down as they are friends and get on well from what I saw on holiday.

Who is BU?

Fair point Fru - I can see how that could be annoying.

I still don't think I would be cross though. Maybe I'm too laid back, I wouldn't assume the bride had done it maliciously if we were friends.

I don't think attending the hen means an automatic invite to the full day. Attending the hen and not being invited to the wedding at all is another thing altogether though! A list / B list...ultimately they still want you to be there.

I don't understand half of the wedding angst on here

Extremely thoughtless. Don't couples appreciate the cost and effort these foreign hen and stag dos involve?

You're asking an awful lot of someone if you want them to join you on a foreign holiday compared to just going out for a meal and a dance in a local nightclub. I would only do it for my very closest friends or family. Not some mate who only wants you at their evening do.

Classic case of bridezilla. YANBU

I don't get why you'd have a hen do in Spain and invite people who aren't close enough friends that you want them to attend the whole day. I've been invited to hen dos where I was only an evening guest but they were just piss ups in town not holidays in Spain.
How many people were at the whole wedding op?

If I were you OP, I'd be rethinking my friendship with the bride and moving in the direction of the evening only hen friend.

That is seriously rude.