...to ask if any of you thought your babies WEREN'T attractive?

[DangerGrouse]

This is not meant to be a serious or mean post, I was talking to my friend the other day who causally mentioned that when her son was born she secretly thought he was ugly as he was bald with bulgy eyes and sticky out ears.
I was fascinated as I've NEVER heard anyone admit they thought their baby was ugly, I thought we all get slightly 'deluded mum brains' and all think our baby is the most beautiful thing ever to have been born - (when, let's face it some new borns are a bit odd looking). But now I wonder if there's others out there who didnt think that but didn't admit it either?
I'm really curious now!
Again, this isn't a nasty thread just seeing what people think as its maybe even a bit taboo?!

One was zapped a few months ago, Danger, twas 'not in the spirit of Mumsnet' apparently. I thought it was humorous & good natured, certainly wasn't malicious.

DC3 was not pretty at all.
Piggy nose and squat little body with no neck.
Cried all the time.

He's very cute now. :)

DD2 was massive at birth comparatively to DD1. She was born with facial birth marks and was just not a pretty baby. At the time I thought she was stunning. Looking at photos I can see she was actually quite ugly looking for a baby. A nurse once commented unfavourably on DD2's facial birth marks - DH was fuming and asked her to leave. And yes I'd have cried had anyone told me the truth.

However she had really blossomed and I now get constant compliments on how beautiful she is, even from parents of her friends. She has really grown into her looks.

DD1 is, was, and always will be beautiful. But boy does she know it!

When dd1 was born I thought to myself "yay I didn't get a potato" I fully expected some scrunched up drooling spawn of Satan But she was so beautiful.

dd2 though was kind of this weird floppy dry skinned , gunky eyed, thing that was all pink cos she was a little early and she had such fair hair she looked bald and I actually thought her butt was deformed cos there was no fat padding it out so it looked all weird. beautiful she was not

she is now though. and her butt is lovely and squishy

My dd was extraordinarily plain. She was an incredibly early talker and we used to call her the talking cottage loaf.

She's 19 now and drop dead gorgeous.

Ds was beautiful from birth. I found it a bit odd to have people looking into to the pram without recoiling in horror

DS1 was a very cute 7lb baby and did not prepare me for the horrors of his siblings.

DS2 born at 37 weeks so very hairy and brick red, but 9.5lbs and not very long so rugby player like in build. DH and I got told off at the hospital for referring to him as a troll foundling.

DD 10lbs, also short, and instantly referred to by her proud grandpa as John Prescott. I actually saw some bizarre quiz programme featuring John Prescott and his small granddaughter when in the gym recently and the little girl was very sweet. DD was much more like the real thing.

Haha! I am loving these posts! They're so funny
My DS was a strange, scrunched up little being, one of his eyes stayed half closed for a good few weeks, bless him, earning the nickname pop-eye
My DD was gorgeous from the minute she arrived and had none of the squished, old man look about her. She was all wide eyed and knowing. Strange considering they were both exactly overdue by 10 days and born on the 11th day overdue, so had equal cooking time!

Dt2 looked like dobby from harry potter and me and dh called him dobby for 3 months dt1 was a beautiful baby as was dd.

My PFB son was stunning. C section baby (so no birth canal trauma!) and absolutely beautiful. I used to think (cringe) that other parents must be jealous that their babies weren't so beautiful.

My dd (now an amazingly stunning 3year old) was really not a bonny baby. I actually said to my parents on the phone that they weren't to expect 'anything to look at when they came in!' I was quite shocked when I saw her with her squashed little face and spotty, hairy body and knew that she really wasn't a beautiful baby.

So yes, some people do know but they might prefer not to say (like me, you might know inside but wouldn't admit it to in public) out of loyalty to their amazing child.

All babies are gorgeous and beautiful and special. It's just that some are what could be considered more classically good looking

For the first day I was convinced I'd given birth to gollum when I looked at dd. once she was over the effects or birth she was and still is beautiful. Even at 5years old, she knows it too (I fear her teen years)

I thought DD was rather plain until she was about a year old. She's a very pretty 3 year old though!

Oh I forgot to add, she also permanently looked like shed been punched in the face. grey eyes, marbled punk/red skin.dry, in fact she was almost reptilian

Dc1 was beautiful but dc2 was ugly, mostly because he was puffy and looked like he had been in a boxing ring. Once he deflated he improved a lot! Dc3 was normal looking.

People want their babies to look attractive? Who are you hoping they will attract?

Beautiful, handsome, pretty, gorgeous, whatever but attractive is a terrible word to use to describe a baby or a child!

I thought that dt2 was better looking than DT1 and was totally ashamed of myself. They were 4lb prem, quite scrawny and dt1 had jaundice. I was quite distraught about it. dNow I look at photos of the first 3 months and can't tell which one is which

They are now the most gorgeous children alive, obviously.

My DS looked just like my FIL which gave me quite a shock I have to say!

When DD was born, I didn't think she was beautiful or perfect. She was 2 weeks late and swollen from the foreceps and had peel-y skin from being over cooked. Neither I or DP had that movie-like rush of love for her, but we were both in awe. After a few days, the swelling went down, she de-puffed and grew into her skin : I look at her now and am head over heels for her, and think she's the most beautiful thing on earth.

Ds was ok, dark hair and cute face. But he was late and had loads of dry skin.
Dd wasn't so cute. Stork marks on head and neck, really red marks by her eyes (until about 6 months old), really dark birth mark on her foot that people assumed was a serious bruise (now almost disappeared) and virtually no hair.
Her first photo, she was in the hospital-issue hat, screwed up red face, looking like a little garden gnome...
Ds was funny in his picture, he had his finger in his ear. Thanks hospital photo lady,
Dd is now a curly, blonde haired toddler. With big blue eyes.
Random people stop me and tell me they are both gorgeous.

Oh come on ladymoods. Nappy adverts and boden catalogues are full of chubby cheeked, bright-eyed, smooth-skinned, rosebud-lipped babies. There is an ideal of baby beauty however daft and ridiculous, and whether it's because of the effects of that, or innate responses, there are some babies that look uglier than others. Most people viewing a newborn will make an involuntary judgement along those lines, just as they do with any other human. You can do that and still know that all babies are beautiful and precious too.

I think threads like this are helpful too, for anyone who might be anxious about thinking thoughts like this, because everyone is supposed to find their own baby stunning.

I though DS COULD look strange from some angles. He had very small eyes (which he got from his dad). Then, his hair fell out due to cradle cap. That drew attention to his bigger than average forehead (also from his dad). He was still the most wonderful child in the world as far as I was concerned.

After about 2-3 months his hair grew back and his eyes seemed to have changed and are now much bigger. He's a gorgeous two year old now although I will advise him to always have a fringe.

When talking about me and my DB my mum always tells people I was a beautiful new born (1st baby, took ages) and my brother looked like her gran/a squashed beetroot (2nd baby, much quicker).

As an adult my brother is the more attractive one though so he won in the long run

dd1 was a funny looking scrap. A friend said she looked like a small Jewish accountant with a combover and that is about right. People used to peer into her buggy and look physically repelled.

My son looked like Abe Simpson - all pointy-headed from a failed ventouse and forceps with scabby bits on his head and covered in dried ming, plus he was bright yellow from jaundice. He had spindly legs and massive feet and no bum at all, so when I joked to the midwife about how he was the most beautiful baby on the ward, I was really surprised when she said 'Oh, I know, I've just been to (name of rough-ish local area) and seen some real shockers'!

DD1 was induced a few days after my waters broke and looked all squishy and cone headed. She had stork marks all over including her nose. She was jaundiced and lost loads of weight due to feeding problems. She was shrivelled and yellow. We called her ET. She's a beautiful lean and tall 7 year old now. I actually thought she was a beautiful new born. A mother's love is blind.