To fancy my friend now she has lost weight?

[samotoro]

I am a married man in my late 30's with 1 child of 2 years old. Married for 7 years and with my wife for 16 in total. Been friends with my female friends since uni for about 18 years, she was with her now husband then so nothing every happened between us and I didn't really fancy her just loved her has a friend. Ever since I met her she was always heavy.

Now she has lost a lot of weight and she looks so good, she isn't the sort to act all sexy but she doesn't have to try gorgeous skin, hair and smile and a top personality to go along with her new body.

Its not going to affect my marriage and I'm not going to tell my friend about my new interest in her so this isn't really a "relationship issue" which is why I am posting this here.

Is it so bad that I fancy her like mad now as long as I keep it to myself?

[WorraLiberty]

Being married isn't the same as being neutered

I know it's only Tuesday, but that has to be quote of the week!

[IfNotNowThenWhen]

[TheFormidableMrsC]

I don't think there is anything wrong with developing crushes, married or not, that's just human nature. Clearly acting on them is another matter if you are married. You have indicated you won't or can't but the fact you have posted about it suggests otherwise. I would keep a bit of distance until this fades. Also, think about how you'd feel if your wife was posting on here saying similar things. God knows, I've had plenty of crushes during my marriage, I have never ever mentioned them to anybody though, let alone acted on them. Unfortunately, my husband did. If you want to know the reality of that, I'll happily tell you you will run screaming down the street. You've acknowledged your feelings, let them flow away. Concentrate on your wife divorce is shit.

[CasperGutman]

Whether you're married or not, there is nothing wrong with feelings of attraction. You can't help being attracted to someone, and there is no controlling the fact that you find particular body types more attractive. Being a grown-up means having the maturity to keep your thoughts to yourself, not act on every animalistic urge.

What's worrying is that these feelings are so important to you that you've taken the effort to start this thread! For that alone, YABU.