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To have felt sad about this

89 replies

suniskissingmyface · 05/07/2015 11:46

I work on Sunday mornings and I stopped at the BP garage to get petrol, it is one of those big supermarkets/subway stations as well as petrol.

There was a woman and toddler and I couldn't believe what she was buying, bear in mind this was before 8 on a Sunday. 3 packets of haring, a big cinema style packet of crisps and chocolate and a 2 litre bottle of Pepsi.

Both mum and daughter were obese, the little girl was only 3 or so.

I just felt sad, that little girl should have been enjoying a healthy breakfast instead of being am dragged out. The mum obviously had an addiction.

OP posts:
TheHormonalHooker · 05/07/2015 11:48

Are you judgy pants strangling you? They must be, I wouldn't have thought they could have been pulled up any higher! Hmm

GreenAugustLion · 05/07/2015 11:51

I was at Tesco at 8am yesterday morning buying wine and snacks...with ds1 in tow.

He'd already had his breakfast and I was buying stuff for DH and I for the night. Then we were out for 10 hours with the kids at the beach and parks.

Judge not etc etc...

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 05/07/2015 11:51

You don't know she was being dragged out. You don't know anything about the situation in fact and even if they were for her. Get a bloody life you nosy sod.

bakingaddict · 05/07/2015 11:52

Get a grip and your spelling and punctuation leaves a lot to be desired. Do not judge if you don't want to be judged yourself

Lolly86 · 05/07/2015 11:52

Perhaps they were gong to the cinema? did you see the child eating it all?
They'd probably had a muesli breakfast before going to kids club at the cinema...
Hmm

GreenAugustLion · 05/07/2015 11:54

Although to be fair to the op, I too hoik up my judgies when I see a fat child...it's sad.

Drquin · 05/07/2015 11:55

You may well be correct in your judgement .....

But do bear in mind, I'd have thought it obvious for someone working in a petrol / convenience store, that shops are open 24 hours and we shoppers are not obliged to be buying only the stuff we're about to eat next.

Clearly couldn't be supplies for a party / BBQ later in the day that both mum & kid are up early for to prepare / drive to?

WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 05/07/2015 11:56

Tesco sells wine at 8am? I honestly didn't know that, I thought licensing laws prevented that!?

That's about the only thing on this thread that's drawn my attention!

WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 05/07/2015 11:58

Actually, yes, it's sad that a three year old is obese, but unfortunately many are, and it's really none of your business - you've no idea how much, if any of the junk food the 3yro would consume.

Nixen · 05/07/2015 11:59

It could have been for a party?
On the other hand I see a couple of mums quite often (at the bus stop on my way to work) - one mum feeds her kids (about 7 and 5 years old ) chilli Doritos for breakfast. She's not overweight mind. The other mum is very overweight and was feeding her 4 year old a 'grab bag' of prawn cocktail walkers crisps, again at 8am. My judgy pants were hoiked up well and truly!

EmeraldThief · 05/07/2015 11:59

What are packets of "haring"? Confused

ToadsJustFellFromTheSky · 05/07/2015 12:03

I was wondering that myself Emerald.

The first thing that came to mind was fish but I doubt that's it.

WhereTheFuckIsMyFuckingCoat · 05/07/2015 12:04

I think it's a typo for haribo.

DragonWithAGirlTattoo · 05/07/2015 12:05

Well in the OPs defense, its pretty hard to see obese people eating crappy food like this - we all know that its a hard and viscous circle, but really, its horrible to let your child get obese and not do anything about it! Coke and crisps, not good!

Obviously there could be medical reasons why people are obese, but mostly (in my view and am ready for a flaming) its because we eat too much! I am overweight, and its no ones fault but mine, and i am doing something about it by joining slimming world (2 months now! and losing slowly)

MrsGentlyBenevolent · 05/07/2015 12:05

You'd REALLY hate to see my Sunday shopping op. We usually have a film night, so its a family bag of crisps each, with dip. He has cider (I'm on my 9 months probation atm). Plus multipacks of sweets. I guess you wouldn't judge us as badly, cos we're not fatty fatty fatsos, but we do love 'pig out Sunday'.

What's haring by the way? If it's yummy, will have to add it to the pig out list.

ToadsJustFellFromTheSky · 05/07/2015 12:06

Right, that would make so much more sense Blush.

iklboo · 05/07/2015 12:06

Think it's Haribo

Cabawill · 05/07/2015 12:06

Haribo I'm guessing.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 05/07/2015 12:06

Haribo?

Seems like only five minutes since the last judgy thread Grin

milliemanzi · 05/07/2015 12:07

Mmmm "haring" nom.

VixxFace · 05/07/2015 12:09

Maybe they were going to the cinema.

Sallygoroundthemoon · 05/07/2015 12:10

YANBU. I am an obesity specialist and it breaks my heart seeing the number of obese kids out there. Yesterday I saw an obese mum and daughter (aged about 4). The obese kid was eating a huge bag of crisps as she walked along and the mum kept handing her a can of coke to swig. This is not an unusual sight. Waiving my judgey pants high and proud.

Sparklingbrook · 05/07/2015 12:12

Well this is a lovely thread isn't it? Hmm

ToadsJustFellFromTheSky · 05/07/2015 12:13

I wonder if this is only an issue because they were both obese? If they were both slim would the OP still "feel sad" about it?

Last week at the shop I bought a multi pack bag of crisps, some oven chips and 2 bags of Skittles. I wonder if the OP would "feel sad" about that if she saw me? Or would she even have noticed as I am not overweight and am quite small?

wtfisgoingonhere · 05/07/2015 12:15

I would have probably felt sad at an obese child so young but as for what they bought, as others said it could have been for anything.

If she'd told the child to choose breakfast then force fed the above then it would have been a different matter!