breastfeeding in the supermarket

[wtfisgoingonhere]

Ok so I'm all for breastfeeding and think all mums should (assuming mother/baby are able to) but WALKING AROUND SAINSBURYS breastfeeding. . . Seriously? ?

Maybe it's only me that's shocked and I am not a mum myself if that makes a difference.
Don't get me wrong I certainly disagree with mums being ushered into toilets and the like but I felt a bit of modesty could have avoided awkwardness for both mum and others she may come across.

I have no issue with nudity either, i enjoy sunbathing topless and strolling around my home in various states of undress but I couldn't imagine ever feeling comfortable doing this myself

The last thing I expected on a Saturday afternoon trip to sainsburys was to round the corner of an aisle to come face to face with a woman with her top down and FULL BOOB OUT (I saw nipple and all!) strolling down the home entertainment aisle feeding baby. Yes I know this is what they are intended for but when men aren't allowed to enter shirtless is this not a bit much? Had she been sat outside the store on the benches or in a cafe (if they had one) I guess i or anyone else wouldn't have batted an eyelid

Just interested in others opinions

Is this taking things a bit far or perhaps it is just a multitasking achievement extraordinaire?

[oabiti]

I used to feed my dd's and ds's everywhere. Nowhere was off limits, except the public toilets or the broom cupboard!

[MarchLikeAnAnt]

But waving your fanny around sainsburys serves no purpose MrsGentlyBenevolent

[ThatsNotEvenAWord]

Ffs

[PinguForPresident]

Bottle feeding is differetn to you, OP? So you'd rather see a baby fed a sub-optimal foodstuff (formula) than be horrified by the sight of it being fed a biologically perfect one from an ACTUAL BREAST in the supermarket? Perhaps you should re-evaluate your priorities.

If a baby needs to be fed then it needs to be fed. Mothers don't BF in public for the sheer fun of it. Believe me, I breastfed for what felt like aeons. Not once did I do it for attention, to incite debate or for the sheer fun of it.

[HeartsTrumpDiamonds]

Would not bother me in the slightest and it makes me sad and a little bit judgy that it would bother so many people.

[LottieBelle]

How rude, you still didn't answer my question but answered others

[ipswichwitch]

Whenever I see this I think "I wish I'd managed to crack that". I never once managed to bf my two while walking about - I either have too short a body, the wrong sort of boobs or the wrong sort of baby! Would have saved me a fair bit of faff if I had managed to feed while walking instead of constantly having to find somewhere to sit.

[ginghambunny]

Yabu. If I saw this I would think it was lovely.

Such a shame we live in a society where BFing isn't seen as normal. It shouldn't have to be private

[MarchLikeAnAnt]

One of my favourite memories of breastfeeding my DD was when I was feeding her in a tesco cafe opposite a group of older Somali Muslim men. One of them got up and walked away, I felt terrible that I must of offended him but to my surprise he came make a few mins later with cake and tea for me and they all gave me a lovely smile! I was a mix of

[wtfisgoingonhere]

Please all note as I posted above I wasn't outraged appalled or offended nor did I say it was wrong.
I also do not think someone's discomfort should trump a hungry baby or vice versa.

It genuinely surprised me, I was slightly uncomfortable about it so I did look away and carry on shopping

I WAS interested in opinions (contrary to whoever said 'like shit I was')

Re the feeding on a bench/nuts magazine on show

Magazine aisle can be avoided if it embarrasses you, it doesn't move around nor do you bump into it

same as on a bench/in cafe IF you are not comfortable seeing it YOU can choose to move so no one trumps the other

Fwiw re her not being able to go elsewhere if she is shopping - she was shopping with OH so I assume that IF she wanted to SHE could have CHOSEN to elsewhere. She was obviously happy with her choice as are many others on here

[Sizzlesthedog]

[YouCanButImNot]

I fed my DD all over, she used to get agitated and scream at full volume of I didn't feed on demand. If I hadn't fed on the go sometimes I would never have got anywhere on time or got anything done. I didn't do it to offend, I did it because my baby was hungry. I don't think that anyone ever noticed!

[wtfisgoingonhere]

Sorry lottie I was trying to answer all, will look for your post

[SewingAndCakes]

I've breastfed in TKMaxx, sitting on a seat in the trainers aisle. It really shouldn't bother you that someone is breastfeeding.

[LashesandLipstick]

But some people are uncomfortable^ with it. They are allowed to be, some people do feel that way seeing a bare breast

In which case they can look away.

[ThisIsClemFandango]

OP if she was following you around squeezing her milk at you then I'd see your point.
But think about it really - it's breastfeeding, it's natural - there is nothing indecent or outrageous about it. All you needed to do was walk past her.
I know some mums who would feel uncomfortable about doing it in a supermarket but if the mum feels comfortable and the baby needs feeding, what's the problem?

[MrsGentlyBenevolent]

Yes, but being totally nude and waving my fanjo out in the cool air could be totally natural to me. It is how we were a long time ago, is it not? The fact of the matter is, from a young age we're all told to cover up, that exposing ourselfs in any way is wrong, rude, etc. It's not just the media, meand and women understand how breast are sexual, an arousal zone for women. But then as soon as we become mothers, we are lectured by breastfeeding fanatics that all this doesn't matter, everything we think of our bodies is wrong, and we should whip our udders out the split second our babies cry bacause its natural. Now that is not to say it's wrong, it is true, absolutely natural to do so. But it goes against everything engrained in us on how to behave in public. It it now quite natural to be uncomfotable seen an exposed breast. I don't think it's fair to berate those who feel that way, as long as they don't start making a huge scene about it.

[LashesandLipstick]

OP it was a genuine question and I don't see why you're being insulted. I think it's more interesting to think about WHY you're uncomfortable with it.

[wtfisgoingonhere]

Lashes
I did look away and as I said above I didn't say I disagreed with it just that I PERSONALLY was surprised by this and wondered what others thought

[fedupbutfine]

I have no issue with nudity either, i enjoy sunbathing topless and strolling around my home in various states of undress but I couldn't imagine ever feeling comfortable doing this myself

because you're uncomfortable, everyone else should be?

[LashesandLipstick]

OP my post was to someone else who was saying people should cover up as some are uncomfortable with bare breasts

I don't think there was anything wrong with your OP!

[LashesandLipstick]

The fact of the matter is, from a young age we're all told to cover up, that exposing ourselfs in any way is wrong, rude

Depends how you've been bought up.

understand how breast are sexual, an arousal zone for women.

Breasts CAN be sexual. Just like any body part. should people cover their hands in case someone finds hands sexually attractive?

and we should whip our udders out the split second our babies cry bacause its natural.

No one is saying you have to.

[wtfisgoingonhere]

Lashes I'm confused, I'm not insulted, sorry what do you mean I may have cross posted. Or do you mean why are people insulting me? I thought I explained my reasons above- have I missed a post?

Fwiw I guess I was uncomfortable as

1. it's not (for me) an everyday occurance and it surprised me
   
   
2. I obviously saw naked flesh in a supermarket and so didn't want her to think I was staring as due to the surprise element (as point1) I was probably temporarily a bit