AIBU?
to worry about friend's reaction to DH's work in a fast food restaurant
Annamaria11 · 02/07/2015 23:11
DH picked me up from a friend's house - he was in his fast food restaurant uniform where, a couple of times a week, he cleans to make extra money. Works f-t elsewhere and, even with my jobs, we are on a very tight budget.
He doesn't mind - he'd rather have one well paid job or a different part time job but they are hard to get round here.
Nothing unusual with any of this, except that my friend was visibly shocked when he came to the door. She clearly hadn't known. She is very eco and health food conscious - in fact this is a shared interest of ours. I couldn't surely loose a friend over this but AIBU to think that DH should have put a jumper on/rang me/not come to the door? Only because I'm really worried about my friendship having very possibly been, at the very least, dented because of my association, via DH, with a fast food chain which she disapproves of heartily.
I know that if she values our friendship .... but the look on her face when he came to the door is preying on my mind.
Anon4Now2015 · 02/07/2015 23:17
If your "friend" is no longer friends with you because she doesn't approve of your husband cleaning in a fast food chain, she wasn't ever a friend to begin with.
And YABU to expect him to cover his uniform up so that she doesn't judge him for it. He's working hard and you sound ashamed of him. To be honest you sound like a snob. Your poor DH
Bellebella · 02/07/2015 23:18
What the hell?
No your oh should not have to hide where he works. Good on him taking an extra job to help with bills. She doesn't have to work there or eat there.
My oh works in a supermarket. He is a deputy manager and he works flaming hard. Currently on a 12hr night shift on his feet the whole time. Whereas I am degree educated and so are most of my friends. Not a chance in hell would I let any friend say anything negative about his work.
Annamaria11 · 02/07/2015 23:19
Oh no, I'm not a snob. I respect DH hugely for working these shifts on top of his day job. I, too, had a couple of jobs - for now, it's necessary.
DH's extra earnings are hugely useful to us. They make a real difference.
But I know that my friend will ask questions - she has strong views on these things. Yes, from the luxury of not having to work all hours, but also from conviction. I hate disapproving looks at the best of times but this one felt very personal.
Salmotrutta · 02/07/2015 23:20
Well, there are a couple of things:-
How dare your friend be "shocked" by your DH working for a living? - does she police your food cupboard to make sure you have no Nestle products too?
If you value your DH so little that you worry what a "friend" thinks of his job then he deserves better from you.
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