only twats stop their sons having a pink plaster cast?

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In frature clinic. Boy next to us ( 11 sporty etc) wanted pink. his mum ' you'll have blue'

WEIRDO

ds2 is 13, he was 12 when he broke his wrist playing rugby, he had a pink cast. No one said a word to him. He goes to an all boys school, still attended training and matches for his sports to cheer his team along, still went on rugby tour to Holland and not one person mentioned his pink cast.

having said that, if it had been ds1 I probably would have encouraged him towards a different colour as at secondary school he just seemed to have a target on him and was relentlessly bullied so a pink cast in that example would have been asking for trouble, although I agree the colour of the cast should not matter, when ds1 broke his hand he refused a cast as didn't want to stand out and wore one of those Velcro strappings with the sleeve of his jumper pulled right down. He broke his hand by punching a wall in frustration at the bullying. I still think he should have punched the bully!

I've had to save ds from
himself like this.

If he was 15/16 I would laugh and say fine . The tween yrs 11-14 are tougher & a pink cast would definitely cause hassle.

Absolutely crje - it's the age of the boy that's relevant here - I have a son, if he'd wanted pink at 4 fine, 15 fine.......11. No. & sadly it is to do with bullying. I'd protect my son over hurting the PC brigades feelings.

Does the brigade have a uniform ?!

Fuck uniform, do we have a band?

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My nephew had a pink cast last year. No one teased him - he's 11.

The truth is that kids choose the child to bully, then find a reason. Could be their hair, their shoes, their accent or the way they walk. Or nothing at all.

The best antidote against bullying is being comfortable in your own skin (took me 5 years to work that one out).

Really sad. The kid sounds great; pity about his mother.

Id love to see this alternate universe where boys not only want To wear pink and Elsa dresses, but are also not at all ridiculed for it.

There were only punk donuts, no blue ones.

I want punk doughnuts - phone Greggs

It's not just their (our) felling though, is it? It's his. Cause what you would be basically saying to him is that the person you are and the things you like are wrong. Keep your head down and hope no-one notices you.

This is what I was thinking. It's all very well saying you're protecting your kid from the bullies but who's protecting your kid from a parent basically saying if they make the choices they want to make and are the person they want to be they won't ever fit in and will be bullied for it?

WellErr, according to the OP this boy DID want pink. I'm assuming she lives in our universe, not an alternate one.

Getting ridiculed for it is a different matter, but I agree with those who say that kids will always find SOMETHING to ridicule each other about; if it's not a pink cast it'll be something else anyway.

Both my older boys (8 and 10) were wearing pink tshirts yesterday

Pink is cool for boys here, just think of all the men that get married in pink shirts!

My 8 yr old broke his arm last year they let him have pink and green stripes, no bullying took place, the other kids were more worried about finding a space to sign it!

What kind of pink was it?

I've seen boys in hot pink neon football kits and no-one's batted an eyelid.

Pastel pink might be a different matter but kids will always find something to pick on.

The pink of the casts tends toward retina-searing neon rather than the sort Laura Ashley would squee over.

I saw a boy walking to school today with both legs in different colour casts today - unfortunately not pink and blue.

I'm still wondering what the hell he had done!

Where the bloody hell are all these kids and teenagers who tease people for stuff like wearing pink?

I've got teenagers of my own as well as other aged spawn often work out of schools or youth offending centres and I've never met one. The only people I've ever heard such oddness or weird comments about pink and boys in real life is from adults.
Perhaps there's a town where it's rife and a poster campaign would help

Why does everyone assume that he wasn't allowed pink because it's a "girl's colour"?

Maybe he has to go to a wedding (or even a funeral) and the pink would be inappropriate.

Maybe he just wanted to annoy his mum, knowing she hates pink.

Or, yes, maybe his mum did want him to conform to the norms of early 21st century Britain where blue is seen as a male colour, pink as a female colour. Not weird, perfectly normal. Normal: "the usual, typical, or expected state or condition."

Thanks ProcrastinatorGeneral. I thought that might be the case. I've seen football boots and trainers with neon pink touches as well which boys seem very happy to wear.

Non-issue IMO.

Moon, do you think it's important/desirable to conform to norms like these? (if the pink/blue one is the norm; I'm not 100% convinced).

according to stonewall 70% of primary school teachers hear the "you are gay" or "that's gay" at school. Only as a parent would you know if you had a child who would laugh it out or a child that would find the comment upsetful. Colours should not be linked to sexuality just as homophobic language should never be tolerated. The figures where much worse for secondary.

www.stonewall.org.uk/documents/teachers_report_2014.pdf

I couldn't give a sh*t whether people conform to colour "norms". Just saying that to do so doesn't make you a weirdo, like the OP claimed.

Pink, blue... no big deal. Except on MN, it would seem, where it is almost de rigueur to insist that your son's favourite colour is pink and he loves being a princess whilst his sister loves playing in the mud, climbing trees and dismantling engines whilst wearing the definitely-not-pink boys' clothes your son refuses to wear.

People conforming to colour norms is not weird. People insisting on imposing colour norms on their children when the child is old enough to express a preference is pathetic (in the true meaning of the word).

Having had a son who went through an extended 'loves pink' phase I can confirm that 95% of the negative comments come from adults (esp women). Almost led to conclude that if kids didn't hear so much of this shit at home, they wouldn't care at all.

Except on MN, it would seem, where it is almost de rigueur to insist that your son's favourite colour is pink and he loves being a princess whilst his sister loves playing in the mud, climbing trees and dismantling engines whilst wearing the definitely-not-pink boys' clothes your son refuses to wear.

I think you're exaggerating just a tad.

And I DO think conforming to pink and blue 'norms' (I use the word in quotes because I'm not convinced it is) makes you, maybe not a weirdo, but a bit ... limited. Or lacking. Or both. Especially if you overrule your child's own preferences.

Good god, would people actually give a shit about what colour their kids cast is