only twats stop their sons having a pink plaster cast?

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In frature clinic. Boy next to us ( 11 sporty etc) wanted pink. his mum ' you'll have blue'

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Ds would say he wanted a pink one because dd had a pink one, with in 2 hours he would want to change it to green...because that's his favourite colour.

We go through this a lot with him. Wants to change to the colour of something he pick because his favourite colour is green. So he would be having a green one.

And in fact dd also moaned she wished she had picked blue, the day after it was put on.

The parent can't have been a MN'etter she'd have been loudly declaring he should have the pink.

I would have tried to put him off but I wouldn't say no

Agree with all the others re bullying and the age/personality of the child

Ds1 would have had more of a problem with wearing pink at school then ds2

I find this so sad. The fact that people wouldn't let their child make their own choices just in case another child decides to tease them. Instead, children are encouraged to hide/change their preferences in order to conform to the 'appropriate' behaviour.

I know how bad bullying can be, believe me I went through enough of it as a teenager. But I wish the adults around me had said to me 'You know what, you're fine. You're a good person and you can make your own choices and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. The bullies are wrong and we'll fight them together'.

I would let DS have a pink one he's had a pink cup for years and is yet to catch the gay. If he regretted it I would buy some horse vet wrap bandage to cover it over. They even have camouflage ones, surely that'll stop the bullies.

I have an 11yo ds and I can't imagine pink being a bullying issue and they are hardly the most metrosexual bunch in the world.

YANBU!!! Telling a child what their favourite colour is, is bonkers IMO. If DS chose pink or DD chose blue there is no way I'd tell them to change! If bullying is an issue at that child's school, then the school needs to look into it. It's definitely not the job of the bullied to change their favourite colours just to fit in.

We don't know whether the mother was accurately predicting the escalation of a known problem, or else, like DonutMum, potentially supporting and creating a situation where kids point and go 'ooooh, pink is for girls!'.

I remember the agony and indecisiveness when DD2 had her arm in plaster a few years back, remember this cast stays on for a long period usually so they have to really like the colour, the NHS don't offer a changing service.

My child may be a DD but you would have heard a similar conversation if you were listening in to us at the clinic, although mine was more of a 'really you want pink, are you sure, BLUE is much more you, think you have to like it for the next 6 weeks and you NEVER wear pink!' she chose green in the end!!

Would anyone stop their DD having a blue one?

DD is 19 months and has broken her leg. The nurse asked her to choose a colour and she picked blue. The nurse kept saying 'are you sure you don't want a nice pink one?'. She's 19 months old!!

I'd probably have steered him towards a different colour - kids can be cruel and no need for my child to bear the brunt of that.

I had a nice baby blue colour :-)

But I was unconscious at th time so didn't get to pick! Suppose I'm lucky not to have been given a pink one.

Ds is a similar age and I would point out to him the likely ridicule he would face.

It has taken him years and a lot of pain to form reasonable relationships with his peers. I would not let him threaten that for a whim - and that's what it would be.

If, for some reason, it was important to him, he could do it.

Ugh, the whole colour thing is utterly crazy (not to mention completely arbitrary - it's relatively recently we swapped from pink for boys and blue for girls). When I used to work in a shop where the plastic bags were pink I'd occasionally get some guy asking if we had any different ones because he didn't want to be seen with a pink bag! I couldn't help it; I burst out laughing every time.

My son has a dress and long hair. I must want him to be bullied.

Pink is a really popular colour amongst the boys at my school. Any teasing is dealt with intelligently by the staff "don't be so silly, pink is a colour anyone can enjoy". Some kids are very cruel so maybe this kid goes to school where that's the case. I kind of think though that if he had the confidence to ask for it he can probably handle the bullies. Who knows?

Well my son chose pink.

I'll have the cheeky pink he said. It looks like a ham hock.

At 11 he is approaching the arena of secondary school where homophobic bullying is second to bulling about weight. Homophobic bullying is not confined to sexuality. Popular boys can get away with more and can wear a pink cast and be deemed cool but for another boy it is just another stick to beat him with. There are links to homophobic bullying and youth suicide and self harming. Addressing at primary, preschools great but to judge a mother with no insight is wrong.

MrsK - I do say all that to my son, he is a bit different anyway and I'm happy at 13 he's growing up with a mad of his own and generally doesn't care about what others think of him. But to let him be the target of verbal abuse and possible physical assaults? No. No-one is saying it's right but I can't control the bullies behaviour.

Vashra - regardless of hue good a schools anti bullying policy is that doesn't account for out if school at nights and weekends.

LadyNym, no-one wants their children to be bullied do they, I don't care what other parents dress their children in but I do care obviously about lessening the chance of my own son being picked on and yes sadly wearing pink would be a huge reason.wish it was different but as I said I can't control what other chmdrenchildren say and do - and it's all very well saying about raising a child with confidence etc but to care and on the whole remarkably my DS is growing into a confident and kind young man despite his ordeals in the past (which resulted in us having to move home to get away from the bully) but words can and do hurt.

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