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Original poster

to think this is weird, dh, 18months younger than me, refers to things as before his time, and other people that are his age......

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PigletCrisps · 29/06/2015 23:15

he will say things about someone then say, he's my age [meaning his]

when I ask him if he remembers such and such from childhood days, he will say oh that was before my time, as if I'm a completey different generation to him or something

yes I'm 18month older,no big deal

I personally find this v odd, and quite weird really

ive told him I find it weird how he does this, and he things I'm being over sensitive
I'm not upset, he is a year and a half younger

but it's just weird

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ShipShapeAhoy · 29/06/2015 23:17

I think it's a bit weird! I'm 10 years younger than my dp and sometimes joke about him being a fossil but I'm very clearly joking. 18 months is nothing!

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes · 29/06/2015 23:18

Maybe he matured later so stuff you were into didn't yet interest him?

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PigletCrisps · 29/06/2015 23:20

well I was talking about food from my/our lol teenage years
but he does it about allsorts

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maggieryan · 29/06/2015 23:21

No I'd say he's delighted he's younger. My younger husband (year younger) remembers everything that I remember and refers to people as our age. Strange carry on

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes · 29/06/2015 23:22

Maybe he likes the idea of being a toy boy?

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PigletCrisps · 29/06/2015 23:29

I find it so odd they way he refers to people as being his age......

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NormaStits · 29/06/2015 23:29

Yanbu, 18 months is close enough when talking about pop culture, eg TV music food. There might have been some flash fads you don't have in common, like the summer giant gobstoppers were popular in my year but the year above scoffed at how immature they were. But on the whole, you should have experienced similar things. My DP and I are 6 years apart and we remember quite a few things in common.

OwlinaTree · 29/06/2015 23:32

Was school very important to him?

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PigletCrisps · 29/06/2015 23:32

maybe he thinks he is younger than he is.....
if I was 5 or 10 ormore years older I could understand, slightly
but 18 monthsHmm

I don't know what to say to him when he says this
any funny ideas

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PigletCrisps · 29/06/2015 23:34

no school wasn't v important to him

we didn't meet at school
we met as 21 and 22 year olds

whats the theory about school?

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Pumpkinpositive · 29/06/2015 23:34

This would only make sense if you were really young - like, under 20.

Incidentally, my younger cousin - by 18 months (!) - does this. It's a bit irritating perplexing, but at least I don't have to sleep with her. Confused

She likes to play one upmanship games with people over the most inane things. Is your beloved like this?

Hobbes8 · 29/06/2015 23:34

I used to work with someone a month younger than me. He used to tell me repeatedly that he was a school year younger (as I was born in August and him September of the same year). Like that matters when you're 30.

HappenstanceMarmite · 29/06/2015 23:37

Sounds to cynical me as if he is rubbing in the age gap, insignificant as it is. Making a point. I'd ignore it and change the subject and/or act as if you hadn't heard the remark. He's trying to get a reaction.

ImperialBlether · 29/06/2015 23:40

I agree with Happenstance. He's trying to make you feel rubbish for being a few months older than he is. Why he's doing it is anyone's guess.

OwlinaTree · 29/06/2015 23:40

Some people who were really into school still see it as what 'year' you were. I have a mate who is like this when she talks about people 'they were in so and so's year' etc. So I thought it might be that.

ImperialBlether · 29/06/2015 23:41

Tell him he reminds you of Adrian Mole, aged 13 3/4. That's about the age where you stop caring about that sort of thing.

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PigletCrisps · 29/06/2015 23:49

Lol at reminding me about adrian mole 13 and 3/4
I will actually say that next time

He is getting weirder
I've told him tonight i find it odd
And that it doesn't upset me but it is just weird

hes gone off upstairsto bed in a strop after saying he is going to start saying it more to bug me

he is now not talking to me
wtf

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PigletCrisps · 29/06/2015 23:50

Not sure he tries to play one upmanship
With me not noticed that to be fair

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Pumpkinpositive · 29/06/2015 23:52

hes gone off upstairsto bed in a strop after saying he is going to start saying it more to bug me

he is now not talking to me
wtf

You sure you've married an adult? Shock

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PigletCrisps · 30/06/2015 00:00

Lol yes he is definitely an adult in age with a v responsible professional job etc

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maggieryan · 30/06/2015 00:11

How old are you? He sounds like a kid..

FinallyLearntToBudget · 30/06/2015 00:12

Piglet my husband does this and the gap between us is about 19-20 months

morelikeguidelines · 30/06/2015 00:13

I have been done to do similar to dh as a joke - he is 2.5 years older than me. But it is deliberately said in fun, acknowledging the age gap is not really big.

The thing is he was the youngest in his family growing up and I was the eldest, so our frames of reference were quite different, I.e.He knew about all of the things his elder sister was into growing up, pop music etc, that just weren't on my radar yet. So he will talk about X record from early / mid 80s which will mean nothing to me, as I had to discover things myself as I got a bit older.

AcrossthePond55 · 30/06/2015 01:24

Start telling him he's 'too immature' or isn't 'experienced enough' to understand things. Bring up a social or political problem, expound on it and when he expounds back, discount his opinion saying 'Well, you really haven't experienced the world yet 'at your age', have you?' with a pitying look.

Luckyfellow · 30/06/2015 01:30

It sounds like he thinks 'youth' is everything and that by being technically younger than you he is therefore better. He also sounds very dull. I'd let him read this thread.