To request that my DH doesn't suck my nipples when I'm asleep

[Luxme]

I was just asleep in bed (hectic day with LO) and my DH woke me up by sucking my nipple. I absolutely hate this and have always done (he knows this and i wasn't able to breastfeed for very long as the sensation of anything on my nipples makes me feel disgusting) and then says 'you used to let me' (he's confusing me with his ex i think as i have never let him). then after i tell him off says 'ok ok' (he said this last time and has done it again).

Childishly i have put his toothbrush down the toilet. because without screaming at him, this is the only way i can think of getting him to realise how much i hate this as the only comparison i have is that he hates not being able to brush his teeth as that also makes him feel disgusting.

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YANBU, that's not on! Especially not when you're asleep.

YANBU I would hate it too and it's very wrong that he's taking advantage of you when you're asleep.

Ew

Wtf!!!

well, reading through your first parag I was going to sympathise greatly and say he should respect your dislike, and that if he persists in doing anything of a sexual nature against your will, then he is an abusive creep.

But then you put his toothbrush down the loo do grown up people actually do pathetic stuff like that??

I don't know why he does it as if he does it in the bedroom, everything stops!

There is so much to address here I'd hardly know where to start.

It's technically a sexual assault isn't it?

I shouldnt laugh but i think what you have done is really funny!
I don't blame tou, i feel the same way as you.
He should respect that you have said no x

Interesting dynamics

Tit for tat

Does he have such a complete lack of respect for you in other areas as well? He deliberately did something to you in your sleep which he knows you can't stand.

That's pretty damn vile.

I think you deserve each other.

Wtf he is so wrong

Are you one of Sharon's friends?

Its an attempt to make sure he doesn't do it again. I know its childish. I've tried having an adult conversation with him, tried screaming and this is the 4th time he's done it!!

Phantom - yes, ime grown up people resort to doing things like this when they feel powerless

OP tell him in NO uncertain terms that he is not do this if you are awake or asleep and if he does it without your consent then it's assault.

btw I've got another toothbrush for him.

I don't know anyone called Sharon. Sorry :-(

Don't you mean tit for shat?

If he's doing something sexual that you have repeatedly asked him not to then he is sexually abusing you. I'm sorry. Maybe get this thread moved to relationships

4th time he's done this?

May I be the first to say LTB? Not only does he not love or respect you, but he actively enjoys forcing on you a sexual act which he knows you loathe.

I think where adult partners cant TALK properly and respect each others wishes, about anything but especially about sexual preferences (because yes, i'm sure that IS sexual assault) then they have a big problem.

I think resorting to the toothbrush/loo thing instead of getting very angry and upset to show him just how you feel, is not going to work. You still have the same problem. Either you're not telling him your feelings properly or he is not listening. Why? Does he respect you, take you seriously, in other ways? Does he expect you to always compromise/bend to his will? Will he compromise at all, Or is he a selfish bully who thinks he can do what the hell he likes? (and that no does not mean no)