to wonder why people complain about noise

[ghostspirit]

i can understand it can be annoying. but i thought kids playing and adult having a get together was quite normal. and in the summer time its more likely to go on late because of the lighter nights it feels earlyer than it is. and our summer does not last that long. when i was a kid partys/get togethers went on till 2-3am not just our family others to. now it seems 10pm is late.

Because it is common decency to keep noise disturbance to a minimum, especially at unsocial times. I live near a school so the houses around are predominantly housing young families. If you were making noise at 10pm here, you'd be lynched.

Have you honestly never experienced being irritated by someone else's noise? In any context?

It's all the same thing. Even at home, if your noise levels are such that it's likely someone outside the vicinity of your immediate group can also hear it there's a chance it's an irritant to someone. That's what people mean by being respectful and conscious of their surroundings.

No it's not unreasonable to have a bbq or party, but in the same vein it's not unreasonable for someone's sleep to be disturbed after a certain hour. It's not at all reasonable to expect someone to only have 3/4 hours sleep for the sake of your social life. Would you ask them them to do that as a direct question? I'm guessing not so it's not fair to take it as implied.

Not every where will be the same as somewhere else. Some places there will be a proper community feel where it's likely everyone socialised together and there's less chance of disturbances, some there won't and there'll be an expectation of impacting as little as possible on others. You don't get to dictate either imho and the onus is on you to fit in otherwise actively make other people miserable.

All of that is said in the context of non-daytime hours though.

Making noise and depriving others of the peace they are entitled to after 10pm is rude and loutish.

I wouldn't dream of standing in my garden playing loud music in the middle of the night, let alone shouting and yelling. It has happened near me and noone sleeps. Someone usually calls the police. I have no idea why anyone would think it acceptable.

Dear god, makes me furious. Uggghhh.

I actually don't mind the noise of someone having a party, even if it goes on until the wee small hours. I've been to many myself through the years.

But someone sitting opposite me doing noisy eating?

I really don't understand why people find it acceptable to impose their noise on other people. I should be able to sit in my own house watching TV/reading a book/being quiet with my own thoughts without it being encroached by anyone else's annoying loud conversations or thumping music! By all means, have fun and enjoy yourself, but FGS do it without disturbing anyone else!!

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Clearly you are the lucky type who doesn't care about noise, can either sleep through it or doesn't feel tired when they get 3 hours sleep.

We are forced to live in ever more crowded conditions, with people drinking more and having stupid rows, revving noisy motorbikes etc. We are subject to noise all the time. It should not be too much to ask that people are considerate of others.

I am a late person - I don't ring people late at night and wake them, would you? If not, then why do you think noise that would wake someone or stop them sleeping is okay?

how about the thought that people could be ill, working shifts, or just need some peace for mental health?

If its the odd occurance, its ok. Its really quiet on my street, but the neighbours on both sides do have their moments. One side does have loud, all day drunken parties but only once or twice a year. Both sides were at it yesterday. One side had a kid's party with a bouncy castle and about 20 screaming under 5s. The other had an all day, garden boozing session, complete with singing. The highlight was a mother and son rendition of Toni Braxton (?) "Unbreak My Heart", ( son is in his 30's).
They did quieten down later though, kids went home and I assume the other side passed out, so it wasnt too bad. I wouldnt be happy with loud music/shouting into the small hours though.

It depends on the noise level really. Next door neighbours in the garden til 3 am every once in a blue moon doesn't bother me, but I once lived in a flat where the neighbours would play loud music in the room adjoining our bedroom after midnight and it was complete hell.

I had to work an early shift today and was kept awake until 01.00 by rowdy drunken neighbours in their hot tub and then woken an hour earlier than I needed to by my neighbours kids who for some reason wake up screaming very loudly despite being 2.5 and 4 years old. I just stick wax earplugs in and try to ignore it as much as possible.

My daughter is a nurse and recently whilst on night duty,and also suffering morning sickness-she has sadly since lost her baby - struggled because the neighbour behind her thought a lovely sunny day meant it was acceptable to be in the garden all afternoon with a radio blasting out at full volume.She didn't complain,but is hoping on her next lot of nights it's raining.That's why sometimes people complain about noise.She is planning a party for her partners birthday in a couple of months.But intends to go around all her neighbours and apologise in advance for any disturbance,explain it's a one off,and that after a certain time they will keep it down,or come inside.That's only fair and polite IMO and hers.

The people opposite us had a party in their garden with professional Dj equipment until 4am. Which coincided with the time I had to get up to go to work. I drive a train with thousands of passengers on board. Try doing 8 hours of that with no sleep. If this were a one off Id grit my teeth and get on with it, but this house has these parties around once a fortnight throughout the summer. All Id like is for them to keep it down a bit. My bedroom was vibrating with the noise last night with the windows closed. In what world is that acceptable at 3/4 am

If you hire a DJ, you should hire the sodding venue too. A garden isn't a fitting place.

if someone had a party say 1 or 2 times a years they. people have had their 8 hours sleep for 364/363 days of the year

Have they? You know that? And that makes up for it does it. That is like saying 'well you've had enough to eat and drink all the other days of the year so going without for a day shouldn't be a problem.'

Next-door but one had a party here but I didn't mind too much as it finished and they went inside at about 12. Had it carried on until 2am I would have been pissed off.

Don't mind it at all occasionally, people have a right to enjoy their homes both ways. My neighbour had a party till 4 am last weekend. I put some ear plugs in and turned the fan on. It's about compromise. I'd much prefer a party every now and then to the nightly noise of my elderly neighbours tv.

why can't we have noise wardens like we have traffic wardens? Decibel monitors, on-the-spot fines - problem solved
noise is recognised as torture by Amnesty International

by the way i dont have partys get togethers. i just wondered really iwas reflecting on my childhood when my family through partys and when i hear partys going on it does not bother me at all.

so some say its selfish for people to have late partys. could it be selfish not wanting people to have late partys once in a blue moon?

There's no problem with parties ghost. It's making ridiculous amounts of noise that's an issue. Go inside at 11 and turn the fecking music down, its not rocket science.

One house having a late night party most likely annoys 7 or (if not more) households. Are you saying that the 'right to party' for 1 house is more important than right to sleep for 8 houses?

Where we used to live I used to dread the summer. We had about 5 houses immediately around us (including immediate NDN both sides) who each had a party once a month. So every single weekend there would be noise from about midday until the early hours of the morning.

With people having to live so close I don't think anyone should be allowed to have a (non children's) party in their garden. If you want to be up late drinking and shouting hire a hall.

Selfishness is being concerned only about yourself. I don't think anyone here has said they don't accept occasional noise until reasonable hours. What is selfish is to impose your noise on your neighbours without care or thought to how it is affecting them. To think I don't care that two doors down is getting up at 4 to drive a train or three doors the other way is a nurse on an early shift I want a party.

I grew up in the 80s and 90s too but I don't remember my family or my neighbours having virtually all night parties, or many parties at all.

I had a party. First in years. Only 10 ladies. I warned the neighbours. We went inside at about 9.30pm and played music (not very loudly) till 2am, on a Saturday night.

But I do think noise can be an issue. And you need to be able to call someone, who will vine round straight away.

horizon how am i selfish??? i dont even have partys?

Op you began to discuss selfishness.

Perhaps I should have written was "What is selfish is to impose ONE'S noise on ONE'S neighbours....." but I thought it sounded pretentious. I used "your" as a common turn of phrase, I can see that you never have a party yourself.

oh ok horizon sorry

Horizon didn't say that you were being.