to think this is just bad dress sense and to have suggested DH got changed?

[LuluJakey1]

Lovely day today and we decided to do a walk along the sea front to the next village where there is a nice junky market every weekend and places to have lunch and then walk back. DS ready in pushchair. I am dressed in blue cotton dress and flat sandals and pretty cardi.

DH comes downstairs in grey cotton shorts that are below his knees, washed out and baggy and do nothing for him except make him look fat and slobby(which he isn't) a once white t-shirt which is now grimy looking and shapeless, navy blue deck shoes and one grey sock which went up to his calf. He has got lots of nice things. I said he should get changed into something nicer and he looked hurt. Couldn't see what was wrong with it at all- including the one grey sock which he was wearing because the deck shoe rubs on his toe.

In the end after 'words' he changed into sort of slate blue shorts, a dark blue t shirt and walking sandals ad looked 1 million times better. He says he was quite happy and only changed to suit me and I should have left him to wear what he liked.

OP are you his mum?
If not, how long do want to stay married for?

I don't believe he decided to leave the house wearing just one sock...

Yabu.

How would you like it if he told you to get changed? One sock or not.

My exH still appreciates style advice and we have been divorced 15 years. If he wears something nice, I tell him that too.
He has no idea how to match colours and becomes emotionally attached to certain items.

(Yes, I do mean those awful cowboy boots)

Nothing wrong in taking pride in yourself. YANBU.

Hmm dh wears what he likes but it's infuriating that he is now of th eager where he is wearing various shades of shite all over ... Sigh
I did lose it with him once when I made a big effort when we went out for the first time in ages and he worse an absolutely horrendous outfit I was so annoyed

Sorry of the age

I might've suggested he put on a pair of socks instead of just one because that's just a bit strange. Other than that...

If not, how long do want to stay married for?

I've been married for 35 years. And I'd do the same as the OP. (you think he'd have learned by now, but Oh No...)

YABU - would you appreciate it if he told you what to wear or said that your clothes 'did nothing for you'?

Deck shoes?! LTB.

I feel your pain. DP used to have this hideous pool of cheap pool shoes which looked awful on his skinny white feet. I used to come out with all sorts of bollocks about it getting cold to try and get him to put his trainers on. When he finally announced they might be ready for the bin I actually snatched them off him and cut them in half before he could change his mind He was mortified I'd hated them this whole time and not told him.

Honesty is the best policy if something genuinely looks crap.

I'd not want to be married to a slob for long either

I think it was a bit mean and unnecessary (and obviously it was because he said he was hurt). This I am dressed in blue cotton dress and flat sandals and pretty cardi I rolled my eyes to - no-one cares, get over yourself!

Only one sock to be fair, you could have said can you wear a pair of socks, but saying he or his outfit looked fat, slobby, grimy or shapeless was really nasty (again, no-one cares - leave him alone)!

My other half said the one sock crossed a line. Two socks or none at all he says lol

Yabu. But then I read the one sock. And then I knew I couldn't say yabu without saying Wtf was he thinking? !

YABU! If my DH told me what to wear I'd go mad and so would he!

Walking sandals

I think I'd have let him keep the one sock / deck shoes combo...

I tell DP what to wear all the time, not that she ever listens.

But if she tried to leave the house with one sock on I'd be very strong in my encouragement to change. I wouldn't push it if she refused though (god, I hope she never tries this and refuses...)

YWBU until the sock. One sock? What kind of fool is he?

Interfering old witch......

LOL I sympathise with Husband, poor bloke.

I'm with RoboticSealpup. I think I'd prefer the one sock look to the walking sandals.

YABU
You were going for a walk along a sea front path, not to a wedding or a job interview or a funeral. Nobody cares what someone esle is wearing when they go for a walk.

OK, the one sock was odd - but the principle of it is quite worrying in a relationship. Very controlling.

Surely going outside where there's people, wearing one lonely sock, would lead aforementioned people to ponder whether said sock's soul mate was lurking crustily with the dust bunnies under the wearer's bed, having been involved in nefarious activities? It is advertising one's nefarious activities. Poor sock. Won't somebody think of the socks?