Long backstory, so sorry for the long post upfront.
I have a very, very old and dear friend. To give you a bit of context so as not to dripfeed: always the most fun, supportive and loyal one could wish to meet. At times though, she has been at best thoughtless ("forgetting" conversations, appointments etc), at worst untrustworthy (getting drunk and spilling my deepest secrets - that one took me a long time to get over). She can be childish in her reactions - eg when confronted, will burst into tears and 'run away' rather than having a difficult conversation. All these things are known to me, as my faults are to her, as we have been friends such a long time - and I'm by no means faultless myself; I can be flaky, forgetful, etc. For what it's worth she is single and childless and I am married with DD2 and another on the way.
So, to the potential dealbreaker. A few months ago I extended a (fairly exclusive) work invitation to an event tonight to her as my +1 as she's the person I'd most like to go with - the event is right up her street, was a good fit for both of us professionally, and she's such good fun I knew we'd have a great night together. I was really looking forward to this event - as you imagine I don't get out much, whereas I guess she is out all the time so maybe it didn't seem such a big deal to her. Anyway the arrangements were all made, and she was full of fun on a group chat we're part of this morning. She was supposed to arrive at my house to "get ready" at 2pm this afternoon, as confirmed by text yesterday. By 3pm I thought she was a bit rude to not let me know she was running late, but not overly concerned. 3.30pm when she still hadn't showed I rang her phone a few times - it was off/out of signal each time I tried. By 4pm I was really worried - road traffic accident? Nope. I got a text saying I'd woken her by ringing and she felt ill and wasn't going to make it. I rang back. Went to voicemail - I left a concerned message. No response. 6.30pm I dropped a text - hope you're feeling a bit better after a sleep? No response.
The undercurrent that's in the back of my mind is A) this morning on the group chat she referred to a really tempting lunch event tomorrow with a different friend and some Z list celebs that she wouldn't be able to go to because of coming to mine B) I flaked out on her last house party because my child was sick (literally dnv with fever) and C) If she felt so ill today why was she so chipper this morning and didn't think to text me at any point before 4pm letting me know she was off colour?
Reading this (inordinately long, sorry) post back I think I'm probably BU to say this is a dealbreaker but seriously, I have a right to be pissed off don't I? More than anything I'm sad to be missing a fun night out with my friend. And sad to think it's not because she's actually ill - it's because she's either blowing me out for a better offer, or trying some weird retribution tactics because I missed her last party.
I can't even have a glass of wine and say fuck it, cos I'm fucking pregnant (15 weeks so too early for even a sodding half glass)
Someone! Help before I fall into a well of Friday-night No-Date self pity!!!!