To not be whinged at

[SEsofty]

Feels like every day when i collect ds (5) from school I am continually whinged and moaned at. I've spoken to school to see if there is any issue at school but he is doing really well. We have a snack as soon as we get home . It is just so draining everyday

Make a game of it. If he meets you with a nice thing about his day he gets a sticker or something. Hold up your hand and have a signal that means No More Moans. Don't ask him how his day was, ask him what he wants to do when he gets home and chat about the day later. Give him a drink and a snack as soon as he gets out of school.

My dd is an after school whinger too so I know how draining it is. I take a drink and snack for her to have as we walk home as she's hungry and that doesn't help her mood.

School is really tiring. Is he sleeping well at night? Bit hard with the light evenings at the moment but I still try and get dd settled for 7.30.

I was also going to say it's probably hunger - DS can be a nightmare some days coming out of school (and he doesn't even come home with me!) but usually find he calms down when he gets home and has something to eat.

Asleep by half seven every night. I'd thought about taking food to school but it is less than five minutes to home and I've always thought that it's not very pleasant to eat in the street.

I was like that. My mum said she dreaded picking me up because I was always such a miseryguts. I grew out of it though. She said one say I actually came out with a smile on my face and it was ok from then on!

I liked school, I don't know why I was so miserable. Maybe I didn't want to go home!

one day not say

DS1 was like this. It was like he'd held everything in whilst at school and then took it all out on me. A bit of something to eat when he got home always helped.

Give him a hug first, then another hug, then ask about his day.

Sod etiquette and before he has a chance to whinge, shove a bun in. You can be whinged at, or he can eat in the street. I would go for uncouth silence, personally.

You could ask questions that require positive answers
What was the best thing you did today
Has anything made you laugh today
It might stop the behaviour before it gets to be a habit

You don't feed him in the car? Schoolboy error