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AIBU?

To shove his bloody flip flops up DP's arse?

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TwigletFiend · 23/06/2015 01:25

7mo DD is a terrible sleeper. I try to keep night time quiet, dark, no eye contact etc.

Just tiptoed downstairs to change her. Got to the second to last step and slipped on DP's flip flops, which he has abandoned on the stairs having obviously kicked them off on his way up. Fell down the last step carrying DD and had to twist to one side to protect her, so have banged my head on the living room door frame at the bottom of the stairs and it's now pissing blood. Had to leave poopy DD shouting in the living room while I went and mopped up my head and now she won't go back to sleep as she has fully woken up. And my head hurts.

WIBU to wake DP, who is blissfully snoring away, by shoving his fecking flip flop up his arse?

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OnlyLovers · 23/06/2015 09:57

it could have been a lot worse than a bang on the head.

Absolutely right. I'd hang him out to dry.

Glad you and the baby are OK now, OP.

Piss off, Disappointed.

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TwigletFiend · 23/06/2015 10:07

Thanks all, DP has admitted to his twattery this morning and actually went round picking up his various bits of crap from hallway, living room etc, which is usually my first job every morning! So silver linings and all that

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plutonimum · 23/06/2015 10:33

I hope he does learn his lesson. That's disgustingly dangerous. I don't even WEAR slippers on the stairs: slippers have no tread and aren't attached firmly to feet, so they're a bad mix with stairs.

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paddypants13 · 23/06/2015 12:26

Glad you and your DD are ok. I would have been so angry I would have exploded. Hopefully your DP has learnt his lesson. I'd have woken him and left him to stay up for the rest of the night with DD.

With regards to the shoes, my DH used to leave them all over the utility room and corridor for me to trip over despite there being a bloody cupboard just for shoes. I found lobbing them outside onto the drive reminds him where they go especially when three pairs were ruined due to an unexpected overnight snow fall.

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DisappointedOne · 23/06/2015 13:40

DisappointedOne you are talking crap. End of.

Whatever. I've science on my side! Trumps Ms Ford*.

(*Other baby nazis are available.)

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firesidechat · 23/06/2015 13:52

I don't understand what you are saying Disappointed in the context of this thread. The research you linked to is utterly meaningless.

Of course adults and babies and children wake during the night. What do you suggest we all do about it? If I wake at night I don't try to have an animated chat with my husband or decide to do a spot of light housework. I might have a sip of water, a quick nip to the loo or I might just turn over and go back to sleep. The op did what her baby needed her to do and she didn't make a big song and dance about (ignoring the fact that she nearly knocked herself senseless because of her thoughtless husband). Good for her.

Just for the record what did you do with your children, assuming you have them?

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firesidechat · 23/06/2015 13:54

Never read a baby book in my life by the way. Not even the blessed Ford.

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BarbarianMum · 23/06/2015 13:54

Glad you are Ok. My neighbour fell down the stairs whilst holding his baby daughter and broke her leg (she's fine now but he felt terrible for 4 or 5 years and it was a total accident). Maybe share that story with your DH to encourage him to be more careful.

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Horsemad · 23/06/2015 14:04

DisappointedOne, I notice you posted in the early hours; assuming you are in the UK were you awake due to your needs being neglected as a baby?

As long as babies' needs are met, there is absolutely NO PROBLEM with not engaging when baby wakes in the night.

What kind of idiot stimulates a baby in the early hours?

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DisappointedOne · 23/06/2015 14:45

No. I overdid it on raw veg yesterday and my tummy was complaining. But thanks for asking.

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DisappointedOne · 23/06/2015 14:46

I'm often up at 3am, by the way, as was my daughter as a baby. As a night owl it's one of my most productive times.

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DisappointedOne · 23/06/2015 14:47

Having eye contact is stimulating?

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Horsemad · 23/06/2015 15:13

Errm, yes DisappointedOne - eye contact is stimulating, hence why it is not recommended at 3am ish when a baby is awake!

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Lj8893 · 23/06/2015 15:30

Of course eye contact is stimulating, surely even the most simple of people know that!

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DisappointedOne · 23/06/2015 15:53

Never found it so. But then I never had unrealistic ideas about what my baby would be doing at night.

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DisappointedOne · 23/06/2015 15:55

www.pinkymckay.com/mummy-please-look-at-me-when-baby-wont-make-eye-contact/

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Lj8893 · 23/06/2015 16:06

I'm not saying don't give eye contact, but clearly the fact eye contact is making a connection and bond means it's stimulating!

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LadyPlumpington · 23/06/2015 16:10

Another vote for no night-time eye contact here. Keep it dark, keep it quiet and resist the urge to fill the bottle with valium. Go. To. SLEEP.

Glad you're feeling better op

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SuperMoonIsKeepingMeUpToo · 23/06/2015 16:10

I thought it sensible not to make eye contact with my babies at night, and I'm a scientist! Comfort, yes, but no eye contact lest they think night time is play time. Babies may well wake up but they need to learn that they are safe and comfortable and don't need to wake the whole household!! They were contented babies who slept through from 6 weeks!

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Nolim · 23/06/2015 16:30

Dissappointed what do you do when your baby wakes up in the middle of the night? Turn on the lights and play peekaboo?

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firesidechat · 23/06/2015 16:31

Well I'm not an owl and I had children who weren't owls either. Isn't teaching our children a good sleep pattern a good thing if possible and part of parenting? Maybe I'm just old school.

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Bair · 23/06/2015 16:33

Dissappointed what do you do when your baby wakes up in the middle of the night? Turn on the lights and play peekaboo?

Don't be daft, peekaboo is day game. Night time is for introducing your child to death metal and E numbers. Some parents!

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StrangeLookingParasite · 23/06/2015 16:36

There is a certain section of mn that would have an argument with themselves if there was no one else around to disagree with.

This is very, very true.

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firesidechat · 23/06/2015 16:37

Eye contact is an important element of parent child bonding and the development of trust between parent and child: your face is the most potent visual stimulus your baby encounters

This is a quote from the link you posted Disappointed, just in case you needed more proof that eye contact is stimulating.

You seem to be implying that the mothers on this thread are denying their children love and bonding by not turning on the lights and playing with their babies at 2 in the morning. If so, you are wrong.

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DisappointedOne · 23/06/2015 16:40

Disappointed what do you do when your baby wakes up in the middle of the night? Turn on the lights and play peekaboo?

As it happens I have night blindness so darkness would have been very dangerous for us. DD is now 4 but at that age she was crawling and cosleeping, so I couldn't leave her when she needed feeding or changing. She was changed on the bed and would come with me when I went to heat her milk (I exclusively expressed and she liked it hotter than body temp). There had to be adequate lighting for me to get downstairs. So yes, we would interact in the small hours while doing that, and then once fed and changed she'd snuggle back into me and go back to sleep perfectly happily. As would I.

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