To ask if you are not thin do you still consider yourself confident & attractive?

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Couldn't quite get the meaning of my AIBU into the title but I'm asking if you are not thin, do you still maintain your confidence, do you consider yourself sexy, intelligent and the 'same person you always were?' Confidence is the key here because I've been a little bit on the plus size for a year and always wore black outfits; trousers and jackets. Now summer is here I'm in black maxi dresses, and I'm sure that this is more to do with confidence than the fact that I'd look terrible in anything with a bit of colour.

I used to be very slim, and considered pretty good looking. I'm now a stone heavier after having 3 children and feel like shit quite a lot of time because I see myself as a totally different shape to my pre-kids self. It's totally undermined my self confidence.

I've taken up running and a healthy eating plan based around fresh vegetables, pulses, fish and fruit. I'll feel good about myself again if I can shift a good half a stone, but my boobs are massive which doesn't help.

My lovely DH thinks I'm still sexy and attractive, which goes a long way to making me feel better.

I am thin now (size 10) but used to be fat (size 14-16).

It has astounded me how much more confident I am now. I used to try and hide myself and hated having my photo taken. Would never have worn a bikini or skinny jeans etc. I was always always hiding my stomach with cushions and baggy clothing.

Losing the weight has transformed my confidence and now I truly feel like I'm beautiful and I'm really proud of how fit and strong my body is.

Sorry if this sounds shallow. It's just how it has been for me.

I'm obese 5'3'' and 20 stone - size 20

I was fat and I lost weight and got down to size 8 and 10 stone (which at 5'3'' I should have been well more than an eight and right now I should be well more than a 20) I just put it back on again.

i've lost 4 stone from my biggest and am losing it by the day.

I feel confident regardless of my weight - its a mind set. Attractive - husband doesnt complain.

I'm overweight, not massively but a BMI of 30ish, but I'm smiley, friendly, make the best of myself, wear clothes in colours and shapes that suit my size and get a fair bit of male attention - not that that is how I measure my self worth, more an objective viewpoint as to whether it is possible to be attractive whilst overweight

I'm 5' 8" and size 16. Am trying to get down to a 14 but I guess that still isn't considered thin. I'm confident (have fab boobs????) and think I'm as sexy as the next fat, thin person.

I don't think very thin is sexy tbh

Oh and I dare to wear a bikini and even go top less on holiday.

I'm a stone overweight and to be honest, yes I do feel attractive still. I get frustrated at my size....because I know I'll feel better when I'm not a stone overweight! But I still feel "Myself"....I'm currently a size 14...if I drop a stone I will be a 12 and that will feel just about perfect.

I hate my fat arms. Am about 2 stone over and hate the summer as i cant cover up. I have zero confidence and feel awkward round much thinner women. I try to eat healthy but theres not a lot of spare cash for me to have pretty clothes or a make over. I know its in my head that people judge, but i just want to hide away! Age and menopause doesnt help either.

I've never been thin but due to menopause and other health issues, I've gained some serious weight. My confidence has not taken a knock and I think it's due to my age, I just don't have time for the angst.

I know what I have to do to lose the weight and will eventually have to start or I'll need a hoist to lift me out of my home through the window.

I'm a size 16. I don't think I'm pretty as such but I feel attractive with nice summer clothes, pretty shoes. I feel.much more confident with my make up, hair and clothes that suit me. But I have a husband who is always lovely about how I look matter what weight, plus having kids has been a huge confidence boost. I'm someone's mum in don't take crap

I'm a size 14....I've been a size 8 before and felt better than I do now, but, I feel attractive still. I am lucky in that my figure is in proportion and my face is pretty in make up I think my hair is nice and spend time on my appearance. I feel like I look good most of the time! It is a strange and ridiculous idea imo that anyone over a size 12 is fat...and seems a more prevalent view amongst the middle classes...just something I have observed!

In the process of trying to lose the stone I put on in the past year. Feel so much more confident and attractive at the weight I was.

I was thin..... I ate a packet of salt and vinegar crisps every day. Sometimes I had a bit of garlic bread and I drank alcohol regularly but incidentally lost 5st in 6 months and was 7st.
I was thin, a Size 6 (5ft) and confident in my looks.

I would do NOTHING to go back there

I currently weigh 12st I cook, I eat, I have barbecues, I eat salad, I drink wine. I run with the kids, I have stretchmarks, my dd calls it "detail"

I am so confident. I spend time on my hair, I have good make up, well applied, I'm more beautiful than I've ever been.
I shine from the inside. I am happy. I am so much happier being 12st than 7, and I literally would not change it for anything

Obviously lost some modesty though

Am a size 16 and confident, reasonably attractive and would like to think I dress well.

I have never ever had a problem attracting men and I have been anything up to a size 20 at times.

I will never be thin but being a 14 would be nice. But I'm genuinely happy as I am now.
Fake it until you make it. And dress well.

I am a size 10, bmi 23. I'm ok but I feel much more confident at size 8, bmi nearer to 20. Trying to lose the extra 1st I gained last year.

AnnieOnAMapleLeaf I am also a comfort eater, was size 14/16 at one point. It is possible to control it.

God bit depressing reading replies. Almost everyone has said they feel better thinner. I'm 12 stone and feel every bit of it. I used to be nine Stone and was so confident. Now I just appear confident but would love to lose the weight. I don't care what anyone says. When the sun is shining its nice to be able to dress for the sun. Ie
shorts and tee shirts and not to have to dress for your size

Yes, I am pretty hot, get a lot of male attention and have been up to a size 20 at various times. I dress well and smile a lot, which probably helps.

I often run around in a swimsuit, wear shorts (longish ones) and I wear tight tops on occasion too.

To be fair buying clothes is a lot easier when you are slimmer. That underpins the confidence thing for many people, I imagine.

I'm a 14. I wear skinny jeans because i have great legs, my tummy is fairly flat and my only bad area is my lower back; I carry my weight on the tops of my hips. I wear bright colours and dresses, and on holidays I'm happy in a bikini. It helps that I'm sporty and tall, so the 14 doesn't look disproportionate. But even if it did I think I'd be ok; my confidence isn't weight-related.

I was skinny after DS1 was born. The stress of splitting up from his Dad and going back to work full-time meant I was skinnier after him than before. After DS2 my hips were so much wider and I went up two bra sizes across the back. I'm just not destined to be skinny ever again, and refuse to stop eating lovely stuff just to try and attain some mad goal. I look at friends who do these crazy crash diets and can't believe what they'll put their bodies through, not to mention the shitey example they're setting for their DCs.

I felt far less confident when I was younger and thinner. At size 8 I was constantly paranoid about looking fat and spent a lot of time looking in mirrors and being self-critical. I hated myself when I felt fat.

Now I'm size 12 on a good day, in stretchy clothes. I rarely wear black. I feel much happier about myself. I spend 5 minutes a day looking in the mirror and even I go out without make-up on. I never think about being fat even though I weigh much more than I used to. Looks aren't important to me.

I think it's liberating to stop caring so much about how you look. I'm a nice person. I brush my hair and wear deodorant. What's not to like?

I'm thin but not confident with it. I hate my non shape at a size 8 and nearly 40.

I won't have my legs out because I don't like them, they are too pale, I have no boobs and although I have a "flat" tummy I have had 3 children so it isn't a nice tummy.

I wouldn't be caught dead in a bikini. I live in black trousers and shirts.

My BMI is smack bang in the middle of the healthy weight range. I don't feel particularly confident or attractive but have seen plenty of gorgeous larger women who both feel it and actually are . Why on earth would being larger prevent you from wearing colourful clothing?

Feel much better slimmer.

TheImp sod modesty! Don't apologise for confidence and just think what an awesome example you're setting for DD